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Title: A woman makes a plan : advice for a lifetime of beauty, adventure, and success / Maye Musk.
Names: Musk, Maye, 1948- author.
Identifiers: Canadiana (print) 20190144661 | Canadiana (ebook) 20190144696 | ISBN 9780735238237 (hardcover) | ISBN 9780735238244 (electronic)
Subjects: LCSH: Musk, Maye, 1948- | LCSH: WomenLife skills guides. | LCSH: Success. | LCSH: Self-actualization (Psychology) | LCSH: Models (Persons)CanadaBiography. | LCSH: DietitiansCanadaBiography.
Classification: LCC BF637.S8 M87 2019 | DDC 158.1dc23
All photos courtesy of the author
Book design by Lucia Bernard
Cover design by Jason Ramirez
Cover images: Mark Seliger
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I would like to dedicate this book to the people who have influenced my life the most:
My late mother, Wyn Haldeman, who gave me, my sisters, and every woman she met the confidence to do well.
My late sister, Lynne Haldeman, who listened to my struggles every night for five years and encouraged me through my co-op court case to repair my buildings chimney.
My twin sister, Kaye, who has protected me all my life, and who keeps me down-to-earth.
Tosca, my lovely daughter, and Elon and Kimbal, my two sons, who have respected and supported me in everything I do.
My eleven grandchildren, who keep me learning and bring me so much joy with all their questions.
My extended family, friends, and team, who have supported me throughout my hard, good, and new times.
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
Live DangerouslyCarefully
Make a plan, and take a chance
I grew up in a family that had an airplane and a fascination for exploration. My parents flew across Canada, America, Africa, Europe, Asia, and Australia in a small, canvas-covered propeller plane with no GPS or radio. When we were children, they took us on trips to the Kalahari Desert every winter to search for the lost city. Looking back, I realize it was dangerous to go across the desert with a compass and three weeks supply of water and food with five kids. But my father and mother planned our trips to the last detail. Our family motto was live dangerouslycarefully. My father sought adventure, but he knew to be ready for the unexpected. Because of that, Im always curious and willing to explore. And I know that I can take a risk as long as Im prepared.
There is an Afrikaans saying that I grew up with: n Boer maak n plan. It literally translates to a farmer makes a plan, and its something people said all the time in South Africa. It could be small, or it could be huge, but we used it any time we needed to change direction and fix a problem. Whatever obstacle is in front of you, you have to address it and find another way to sort it out.
At first I wanted this book to be called Struggling and Surviving, but that didnt sound very compelling to anyone. I hope when you read this book that you will struggle less and survive more than I did. In my life, things have gone wrong way too often, and each time I have had to make a plan. You can plan things as a woman, but then you get sideswiped, and you have to make another plan. (By the way, this happens to men, too.)
I have started my life over many times, and as an adult Ive lived in nine cities across three countries. I dont recommend starting over again and again like I did, but if you have to, you must plan ahead. You can live a more exciting and happier life if you take chances. I took a lot of chances and struggled in the beginning, but I persisted until I found success in my personal and business lives. You dont have to plan every detail of the changes in your life; you can sort out your problems as they come along. And there will be different problems, of course. But you just have to plan that first step.
There are surprises around every corner in life. From taking care of yourself and your family and friends, to looking and feeling fantastic, to having a successful career and living an adventurous lifeits a lot to think about all at once. But if you start with your first step, and then the next step after that, you can keep on moving ahead.
When I was in bad situations, I read many romance or self-help books. They gave me hope. Perhaps sharing my experiences with you will give you hope, too.
Being my age is fantastic. I have lived for seven decades, enjoyed two successful careers, and raised three children. Im a grandmother to eleven. And now, Im more in demand than ever as a wellness speaker and model. I was even asked to write this book! Thats why I say that its great to be seventy-one! I wake up excited for each day.
If you have a good attitude and you make a plan and take a chance, even Mars is possible.
ONE
SILVER IS THE NEW BLOND
Life keeps getting better
At fifty-nine years old, I let my hair go silver. Two years later, I was pregnant on the cover of New York magazine. (Well, I wasnt really pregnant, but it looked pretty convincing.) At sixty-seven, I walked in my first runway show at New York Fashion Week with women who were a third of my age. At sixty-nine, I became a CoverGirl.
Can you imagine? I never did. I would never have predicted that letting my hair go gray would be the secret to becoming a supermodel. I first walked a runway at fifteen, and they told me Id be done at eighteen. As a model, I never expected to be carrying on this longand certainly not in my prime at seventy-one. But here I am, fifty-six years later, and Im still just getting started.
Women dont have to slow down as they age. Im running like a speeding bullet. Exploring everything, having fun, working more than ever, working on social media to make sure that Im working more than ever, and having the most fun. Did I mention fun? If men dont have to slow down, we shouldnt have to either. Dont let aging slow you down or stop you from moving ahead. Look after yourself as best you can by eating well, smiling, and being active, happy, and confident. I have never been afraid of aging. Funny enough, when I see the wrinkles on my faceand after sixty, wrinkles on my thighs and my armsI find them amusing. Im just so happy to be in good health.