Nate Regier - Conflict without casualties: a field guide for leading with compassionate accountability

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Conflict without Casualties fills a gap by showing leaders at any level how to leverage positive conflict. Practical, insightful, challenging, relevant.

Dan Pink, New York Times bestselling author

Conflict without Casualties is powerful but in a practical way. Dr. Regier provides a compelling model to demonstrate how the energy created by conflict can be utilized for positive changefor individuals, within relationships, for organizations, and even for world crises. His analysis of the dynamics within the drama triangle of persecutor-victim-rescuer clarifies most of the dysfunction seen in workplace relationships. The beauty of the concept, however, blossoms more fully as he describes the positive power created from the compassion cycle of openness-resourcefulness-persistence. Thought-provoking yet easy to read and comprehend, this book is highly recommended to anyone interested in transforming the negative cycles in relationships (both work-based and personal) into the energy that will fuel positive growth.

Paul White, PhD, coauthor of The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace, Rising above a Toxic Workplace, and Sync or Swim

We all know that drama will suck the energy out of your day, your department, and your company, but no one has identified with as much precision as Regier how to eliminate the drama and suffuse the workplace with more creativity, accountability, and productivity than ever. A revolutionary resource!

Marshall Goldsmith, international bestselling author or editor of thirty-five books, including What Got You Here Wont Get You There and Triggers

Nate Regier takes the old idea that creativity is the hidden purpose behind conflict and opposition in this world and applies it to many practical and important areas of human endeavor. His work with compassionate engagement can help sustain relationships of all kinds.

Michael Meade, author of Fate and Destiny and Why the World Doesnt End

Who could ever think of conflict as creative? Nate Regier, thats who. In Conflict without Casualties, Nate introduces the concept of compassionate accountabilityholding someone, including yourself, accountable while preserving ones dignity. His strategies are effective at work and at homeat every level. Dont shy away from conflict; face it with creativity and compassion and watch things change for the better.

Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The New One Minute Manager and Collaboration Begins with You

Conflict without Casualties is a must-read and offers a simple, powerful model for transforming conflict, drama, and negative energy into compassionate accountability and a stronger, more united team. Conflict can help a team grow when utilized properly. This book shows you how.

Jon Gordon, bestselling author of The Energy Bus and The Carpenter

The world needs Next Elements brilliant model for transforming conflict into productive change. Nates book profoundly improved my mindset and gave me the tools to have powerful relationship-building conversations. I recommend it to everyone who wants to live authentically and influence others.

Vicki Halsey, PhD, Vice President, The Ken Blanchard Companies, and author of the bestselling Brilliance by Design

I found Conflict without Casualties to be very practical and accurate as a comprehensive approach to conflictespecially workplace conflict. I really enjoyed its thoughtfulness and sensitivity and the authors personal openness in explaining the development of the theory and steps of Next Elements compassion cycle. The examples were particularly helpful, and one of the sample quotes gave me words I can use in an upcoming conflict situation.

Bill Eddy, coauthor of Its All Your Fault at Work and President, High Conflict Institute

This book is a wonderful and powerful resource. I can see how ORPO can be leveraged in innovation and teams for real breakthroughswithout the casualties!

Chris Donlon, Senior Field Umpire and Grand Final Umpire, Australian Rules Football

CONFLICT without CASUALTIES

A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability

NATE REGIER, PhD

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To my parents, who planted and watered the seeds of compassionate accountability.

Jon Gordon is a really nice guy! I first heard him speak at the World Leaders Conference in 2015. He is an 11-time New York Times best-selling author, leadership coach, and motivational speaker. His message of positive energy and servant leadership resonated with me so I began following his work.

The more I worked on this book, the more I became convinced that it needed legs. It needed the best chance possible to succeed. So I reached out to Jon on the remote chance that hed give me a few minutes to bounce around ideas, brainstorm title concepts, and lend me some of his tremendous positive energy. If youve ever taken the risk of asking for what you want, you will understand how I felt. Within a few hours I got a message back from Ann Carlson, Jons delightful VP of Details. By the way, thats the coolest title Ive seen in a long time! Ann referred me to Jons podcast on book publishing and offered to set up a call with him after Id listened to the recording. I was thrilled!