2015 by Kristen Strong
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Kristen Strong is an uncommon gem whose gospel-brilliant writing makes Jesus shine.
Ann Voskamp , New York Times bestselling author
Change is inevitable, but thriving through it is optional. Thats why every woman needs this inspiring and insightful message from Kristen Strong. Shes a true encourager and helpful guide who will lead you toward hope and a future one word at a time.
Holley Gerth , Wall Street Journal bestselling author
I was knee-deep in change when I picked up Kristens book. Our family was facing a crossroads of jobs, relocation, new schools, new friends and all the feelings that go with that level of change. So when I got to chapter 3 and Kristens experienced, tender permission to Dont Just Get Over It, I may have exhaled my tears and inhaled the rest of the book. Kristen doesnt minimize the pain, fear, or worry that comes with change. Like the dear friend that she is, she simply sits in the midst of it with you until you are ready to see the good that God had always planned for you. This book is not just one more way to get over lifes hardest changes but a tender companion to help you get through them.
Lisa - Jo Baker , author of Surprised by Motherhood and community manager for (in)courage
Kristen Strong is a kindred companion for anyone navigating lifes changes. In Girl Meets Change , Kristen offers a saturated-with-grace conversation about walking through the seasons of life that are disruptive and disorienting. Her understanding voice and hope-filled truths take us by the hand and help us find our way.
Leeana Tankersley , author of Breathing Room
In her book Girl Meets Change , Kristen Strong wisely suggests that perhaps the darkness that often accompanies change doesnt mean weve been abandoned but means were being covered by Gods hand. I had never thought of change that way before, and since reading her kind words, my soul has been deeply encouraged in the midst of my own life transitions. The gift Kristen gives is that she takes what we already know in our heads about change and delivers it gently to our hearts.
Emily P . Freeman , Wall Street Journal bestselling author
To David, my abundantly good man who first showed me all change is a grace.
To James, Ethan, and Faith, three effervescent joys who forever changed my life for the better.
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Foreword by Myquillyn Smith, The Nester
Introduction
Part 1: Acknowledge: The Change and the Loss
1. Change: Up Close and Personal
2. The Way Change Moves
3. Dont Just Get Over It
Part 2: Accept: God Is Believable
4. Go Ahead and Give Up
5. Accepting Limitations
6. Light in a Windowless Room
7. Handing Over the Hand-Wringing
8. Because We All Need Friends in Low Places
9. Asking the Right Questions to Become Fit for the Right Purpose
10. Settling in the Home Where Your Heart Thrives
Conclusion: Changed by Change
Appendix: Bible Truths That Never Change
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
Foreword
L ets face it: high school and college are teaching us all wrong.
Ive been an official adult for twenty years now, and there are three skills I use daily that I was never taught in school: budgeting, saying no with grace, and knowing how to approach change. I cant remember the last time I diagrammed a sentence or applied the Pythagorean theorem. Can you?
Luckily, there are plenty of books and courses on budgeting, and there are teachers on the topic of doing things with intention. But where are all the books and conferences and hashtags about one of the most inevitable things in life that we all face daily: change?
Change isnt something that happens to us that we have to face with tears, anxiety, and binge-watching HGTV. Change is something God uses to get our attention. Our reactions to change shape our life. And we are grownupswe can actually choose how we approach, live through, and respond to change.
When it comes to change, its possible to thrive, even if that change looks like the exact opposite of the path youd prefer. Thats the message I needed to hear twenty years ago, thats what I need to remember todayand thats exactly what this book is about.
Kristen has been there, done that and is ready to shine the light on the murky future and imperfect, unknown tomorrow that change often brings with it.
If you need to be encouraged that change isnt synonymous with loss but that it brings along its own gifts, this book might be the best money youve ever spent.
If you need a change mentor, youve found her.
If you are wondering what the Pythagorean theorem is, I think it has to do with math.
Myquillyn Smith
moved fourteen timesmost involved the ugly cryauthor of The Nesting Place
Introduction
I f youve ever found change to more resemble foe than friend, this book was written for you.
If youve ever resented change for all the craziness it brought into your life, this book was written just for you.
If youve ever believed change pushed your contentment just outside of reach and stole your joy, I want to hug you hard because sister , I get it . If youre like me, unwelcome change smacks right into you, demanding your full attention like a relentless preschooler who hasnt learned the word no .
When the change is something Ive longed for and hoped to see, then Im all for it. When change comes thats my own idea, then by all means, bring it. But the many forms of change that are not my idea? I dont think so.
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