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In this original take on why and how we use the words we do, Will Jelbert is a Marie Kondo for language: challenging our worst habits and offering a way through the clutter and laziness.
Kate Riordan, The Guardian, (and best-selling author of The Heatwave and The Girl in the Photograph)
Our words matter in creating our happiness and success. Just as we clutter our homes through neglect and habit, Will Jelbert illustrates how we often clutter our minds and relationships with unhelpful language. More importantly, he brilliantly shows how mindful word selection can spark powerful connections and joy. This book is an essential guide for a social-mediasaturated generation.
Michelle Gielan, best-selling author of Broadcasting Happiness
One of the most personally influential books that Ive read in my lifenot only will it transform your day-to-day communication skills, but all your relationships around you as well. This is not a book that you read once and put down, but one that you pick up and reread over and over again.
Fiona Fong, founder and CEO, FIKA, and former speedskating Olympian
This book will make you more conscious of your words. It will make you more honest. It will help you build genuine connections with the people in your life who matter most. And it will make you laugh out loud.
Adam Smiley Poswolsky, best-selling author of The Breakthrough Speaker, The Quarter-Life Breakthrough, and Friendship in the Age of Loneliness
This is a book every Latin person should read to understand the secrets behind the language of Americans.
Francisca Garcia, Ms. Latina International 2018
Just as the common poisonous phrases of polite conversation employed in lying and self-deception for the sake of a phony peace are the source of most human conflict, divorce, and all the many forms of social breakdownphony diplomacy is the very essence of what causes war. [Here are] a few words that might help, in the pell-mell rush to genocide, for the whole human race.
Brad Blanton, PhD, author of Radical Honesty, The Truthtellers, and Radical Parenting
Will takes an approach to words and phrases that is refreshingly jarring and different than any other Ive seen. [Keep this book] handy to spark inspiration.
Max Stossel, founder of Words That Move; award-winning filmmaker and poet; named by Forbes as one of the best storytellers of 2016
Word Wise is a refreshing, intelligent, and much-needed polemic against an increasingly dystopian worldFahrenheit 451 meets 1984which rejects discourse and logic, and twists language to fit ideology. Word Wise celebrates Logos and helps cut through the nonsense for clear and precise speaking and, therefore, thinking.
Patrick Fagan, former lead psychologist at Cambridge Analytica, and lecturer in consumer behavior at Goldsmiths
This book demonstrates how powerful ones vocabulary is at determining how individuals make connections with others, view the world, and how ones level of happiness can vary based on simple word choice.
Jean Marie Gunshanan, CCC-SLP, speech-language pathologist, New York City Department of Education
Brutally honest, but also eye-opening, because I am a culprit of using probably 100 percent of word trash.
Yesenia Capalbo, editor, Reuters
I find myself laughing a lot. I think a lot of New Yorkers can relate to the day-to-day behavior of people in the cityI know I did!
Jharonne Martis, director of consumer research, Reuters
For my parents
Id come to realize that all our troubles spring from our failure to use plain, clear-cut language.
Jean-Paul Sartre
L anguage habits are evolving on social media faster than at any other time in the history of the English language. Some usage trends offer new words that connect us better than beforesuch as woke, hygge, and emojisbut many do the opposite and clutter and disconnect our communicationthink: like, epic, random, awesome, touch base, offline, killing it, and slayed. Hyperbole is just the beginning in this age of overstatement, but not all word-trash habits are newsome have been disconnecting us for centuries. The road to hell is paved with adverbs, but it is also paved with should, never, always, and crappy conversations.
This is a book about creating human connection with words. Its first mission is to expose the words and phrasesthe bad language habitsthat disconnect us. Its second mission is to reveal the words and phrases that connect us well.
We often take shortcuts and say things out of habit that fail to express what we are feeling or what we mean. Why does that matter? Those shortcuts in word selection shortchange our relationships both at home and in the workplace. Since the advent of social media, shortchanging has become endemic, while a more connected world has become a paradox. We say well connect offline, reach out, and touch base, but often we are just sayingnot meaningit. And when we literally end a tweet with a #justsaying, its a disclaimer that we dont mean what we just said. But the truth is we did mean it and #justsaying is just a vain attempt to avoid sounding judgmental.
Im a dual British-Australian citizen, who lives in the USA. I grew up on a farm in England, watching Dallas with my parents, in the same years I received advicein Aussie slangfrom an Australian family friend (who was besotted with my auntie) on how to talk to the girl who lived on the farm next door. Ever since, I have wondered about the differences in English (and other languages) across the globe. I wondered and wandered to Australia in my 20s and the United States in my 30s. The same year that I moved to the States2013the seed of desire to write this book was planted while I was doing research for my first book,