Charles Causey - Candor: The Secret to Succeeding at Tough Conversations

Can we really speak the truth in love? Chaplain Charles Causey answers yes. In fact, he believes it is the only way to have authentic friendships and become authentic leaders. His twenty-two strategies for overcoming fear and learning to lovingly speak with candor give practical help for all who aspire to genuinely help others.

GARY D. CHAPMAN

Author of The 5 Love Languages

Candor is a solid work, providing the weight needed to create significant changes in our lives. By identifying the keys to true candor, along with suggestions for giving and receiving honest feedback, Causey gives us the tools to help us grow in our relationships at work, with our family, ourselves, and our friends.

PAUL WHITE

President, Appreciation at Work

Candor is arriving on the stage of Americas public and private discourse at just the right time. This book will enable communication with both truth and love, moving beyond our prevalent spirit of sensitivity to achieve true understanding and respect for others. A must-read!

ROBERT F. DEES

Major General, US Army, retired

President, National Center for Healthy Veterans

Truth matters. Character matters. Love conquers fear. Candor by Charles Causey delivers on the promise of conversing with integrity and honesty.

CYNTHIA BRIAN

New York Times bestselling author; TV/Radio personality; founder, Be the Star You Are!

In Charles Causeys latest book, you will not only increase your confidence to say whats truly on your mind rather than what others want to hear, but you will learn to do it with character and compassion. This is the book I wish had existed back when I was in school. It is a wise, formational, and deeply nuanced work that will help you increase trust and deepen your most important relationships.

KEN WYTSMA

Award-winning author of The Myth of Equality and Redeeming How We Talk

In Causeys latest writing, he unpacks a societal truth that can no longer be ignored. Candor, or being forthright, honest, and sincere, is a social skill that needs to be sharpened for us to grow in relationships and community. If recent years have taught us anything, it is that too many people dont know how to speak the truth in love. This will help and is much-needed writing for this time in history!

TONY MILTENBERGER

Lead Pastor, Restoration Church, Centerville, OH, and host of the Reclamation Podcast

I agree with Charles that candorbeing honest, open, and straightforward in our conversationsneeds to be reintroduced into our thinking. Candor will offer you a great opportunity to be exposed to twenty-two strategies that can help you overcome the fear of offending when all you want to do is speak the truth in love!

JIM GEORGE

Author of the bestselling book A Man After Gods Own Heart

Caring, transparent communication is evaporating from our society as we have become engulfed by an ever-increasingly polarized world, with the trend now overtaking organizations, churches, and even families. This book gets to the root of the problem and offers transformational solutions.

ROGER PARROTT

President, Belhaven University

Charles Causey has given our modern-day society a gift in this book. With social media granting everyone and their brother full access to free expression, rancor has replaced candor. This book, with winsome words, stories from day-to-day living, and very practical exercises, is a timely resource for every arenafamily life, community, church, and business. The reflection questions and candor commitments will challenge you, the reader, to put into practice the tenets of this book. Read this book slowly, then candidly embrace its principles by living them out!

DON PAPE

Curator, Pape Commons, and former publisher

If youre satisfied with mediocrity in communication with your family, friends, and coworkers, feel free to skip this book. But if you want to rocket those relationships to new heights of connection and trust, dive into Charles Causeys practical wisdom in his newest book, Candor. Truth-saturated and highly accessible, you will be encouraged (and stretched!) to speak the truth in love in ways that actually build and transform yourself and others. Causey avoids the common conversation extremes of brutal honesty or terminal niceness. Instead, he skillfully guides us on a path of communicating with greater openness and understanding. Candor will help repair troubled relationships and make good ones even healthier. I highly recommend this breath-of-fresh-air book!

QUINTIN STIEFF

Lead Pastor, Valley Church, West Des Moines, IA

As a woman with extensive ministry experience in a milieu dominated by men, I can tell you that my lack of candor has frequently been driven by a deep concern over being punished. In Candor, Charles Causey has provided a vital resource for those needing to speak truth in environments that might not welcome candor, and a timely tool for leaders at all levels who need to actively seek and thoughtfully listen to feedback from others.

GRETCHEN KNUDSON GEE

Principal Lecturer, Presidents Distinguished Teaching Fellow, Northern Arizona University

In Candor, Charles gives concrete ways to make this verse extremely applicable to our everyday lives. As weve made our way as a married couple, weve learned these principles do work, at times learning the hard way. I guarantee that as you read this book, you will think of occasions in the past you will wish you could do over, and you will consider current situations where you can apply these truths.

LAURI CAUSEY

Wife of author and witness to these truths applied

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