Marisa Rudder - Swinging: The Guide to a Friends with Benefits Lifestyle (Female Led Relationship Book 8)

S winging is becoming one of the most fascinating activities in relationships, and there is growing interest in it from couples worldwide. Swinging is best known as when a couple is interacting intimately with another couple, all together, or swapping partners. Traditionally, men instigated this type of interaction as wife-swapping, but today, women are just as eager to aggressively pursue the lifestyle. Swinging has been around since the dawn of timeKings, Queens, wealthy socialites, businessmen, celebrities, and many more have been actively involved in swinging.

I was introduced to it early on when I was 19 years old. A boyfriend took me to a party at a huge mansion where dozens of gorgeous young couples were interacting with each other. The concept was new to me, as well as relationships, so I wasnt yet comfortable engaging with anyone, but what fascinated me was the lack of judgment and the ease at how these couples were interacting. It was just fun for the night, then everyone went home irrespective of what happened. Contrary to what happens in parties today, people werent overly drunk, high, or starting fights and acting like lunatics. They were respectful, interesting, talkative, and sexy.

Today, in 2021, swinging has become a very popular topic and its growing. The number of resources dedicated to this lifestyle has expanded exponentially, and couples are adding swinging as one of the ways they will explore consensual non-monogamy. Unlike some of the other open relationship options (like cuckolding or hotwifing), swinging can be more acceptable since couples, who have been in long-term relationships and marriages, do it together. Interactions occur at parties and events, and for the most part, actual contact with others is short-term. Though many couples can form long-term friendships and bonds, the primary relationship is maintained, and no one feels excluded or ignored. There is no element of humiliation, which is one of the reasons some men dislike cuckolding, but its an opportunity for a couple to explore in a safe and respectful way.

This book is the definitive guide to what is now termed the lifestyle. Many critics believe that swinging is considered cheating, but this could not be further from the truth. There is no hiding, lying, or sneaking around in swinging, and each person knows what to expect and agrees on the rules right from the start. Swinging is explored right alongside your partner to ensure there is no misunderstanding. Dating and one-night stands have been acceptable for decades, and today, this comes at much more risk as you are meeting strangers online and you are alone.

I was once a critic of swinging since I believed engaging with any outside person and introducing them into the relationship would surely cause a rift and have disastrous consequences. Swinging also goes against monogamy, which has been the gold standard for relationships, not to mention going against rigid Christian teachings and conditioning. Cultural pressure may also dissuade initiating or switching to an open relationship. There is a commonly held societal stereotype that those involved in open relationships are less committed or mature than those in monogamous relationships. Films, media, and self-help books present the message that desiring more than one partner means not having a true relationship.

However, after investigating the habits of many couples already involved in the lifestyle, I have come to appreciate the reasons why people are obsessed with it. I also have a much deeper understanding of how swinging can dramatically transform a relationship because couples who act on their desires feel liberated. They can be honest about their sexual fantasies, which leads to more open communication than couples in normal relationships. Couples feel closer because there is no hiding or sneaking around. Today, relationships are dramatically different than they were 20 years ago. The divorce rate is still around 50 percent, and infidelity, lying, and dishonesty play a significant role in the destruction of many relationships. But what if this could all change?

What if we could be open to exploration? What if couples could feel completely at ease discussing their needs and wants openly without judgment? Could there be fewer arguments and sneaking around? Could there be more intimacy and sharing, rather than jealousy? I have witnessed couples who have reported a complete turnaround in their relationship when open, honest communication and a willingness to try new things are implemented. Lets face itwe do not live in the 50s, so why do we allow our relationships and marriages to be stuck in that decade?