Marisa Rudder - SPANKING: The Erotic Guide to Relationship Discipline (Female Led Relationship Book 5)

W hy is the fantasy of spanking so exciting? Men and women have both admitted to having fantasies of being tied up and whipped. More couples have admitted to engaging in spanking and adding it to their sex lives. I can recall the number of times men begged me to spank them in bed. Being a strong, fully capable woman, they were excited at the thought of being under my control, and I was fully physically capable of administering a very heavy-handed spanking that could bring, even the biggest, aggressive man to tears. I could see how spanking could spice up any sex life and how it led to some very interesting and adventurous love-making. Men became obsessed and many of them began to almost need it to feel fully under their womans control.

In a Female Led Relationship, the desire to be controlled by a strong female becomes even more important. More women are taking control in many aspects of their lives and many are leading countries, governments, corporations, cities, households and now the bedroom. My previous books Love & Obey and Real Men Worship Women are blockbuster hits and provide the essential guidance that a couple needs to build a lasting, successful relationship. Part of keeping the spark alive in all relationships is to add discipline. Relationship discipline takes spanking to a whole new level in the sex life, and a better sex life naturally means a better relationship in many cases.

Why has spanking become so popular? Our desire to engage in spanking comes out of our need for attention. The only time most children get attention is when their parents are disciplining them, and maybe as adults we crave this undivided attention. Though spanking children is not advisable and outlawed, spanking in the bedroom has skyrocketed. As the leader of the Love & Obey and Female Led Relationship movement, I have seen how spanking has particularly become popular with women spanking men. So, I will be exploring spanking as it pertains to fun displays of discipline and dominance in the relationship.

Though spanking comes out of BDSM, this book is in no way intended to instruct on the particular practices or customs of BDSM. The intention of this book is to focus on fun things the Queen can do to discipline her man in a playful respectful way if the man desires it and there is full consent. I will also touch lightly on spanking as a means of serious discipline for those couples who wish to learn more about this and, of course, how spanking can be added to as part of relationship discipline. Overall, spanking during sex is meant to add some variety and that element of fun and adventure to any relationship.

During one of the first parties Ive ever attended for fetish, a massive gathering with thousands of people were moving through a maze of different rooms set up with everything to do with BDSM, bondage and torture. It was straight out of the movie Eyes Wide Shut . In one room, I observed an old man getting saran wrapped and strung up, hanging from the rafters. Three dominatrixes prepared themselves like a scene out of the movie Wonder Woman on the island of Themyscira when the female warriors were preparing for battle. Then once they were armed with their floggers, they began to flog the man while we all watched. But what I cannot stop thinking about was the smile on his face. He urged them to beat him harder and more.

They would replace their floggers for riding crops, and no matter how hard they whipped the man, he just got happier and seemed to be in a state of ecstasy. This got me thinking about the idea of spanking in the bedroom and how both the fear of what it could be, and the painful sensations wake up something primal in both men and women. Something which cannot be achieved with any other sexual act. Men who want to be dominated are intensely turned on and the women derive a great deal of satisfaction from completely controlling her man.

Think of the intense excitement you will feel when your Queen ties you up, teases you to death with role-playing, ticklers and light strokes of a whip. For some, this is a way of life. I know many couples who cannot wait to engage in some kind of dominance play and relationship discipline. Women have admitted to me the satisfaction they get when they can control their men, spank them whenever they want, and they have their men begging for more and treating them infinitely better than before.

Spanking can cause many of our deep desires for complete attention from our partners because lets face it, you need complete, undivided attention when administering and receiving a spanking. It resolves many of the disrespectful behaviors that have arisen and are accepted by society as normal, but which can lead to the unraveling and the eventual destruction of the relationship. How many times have I seen couples spending quality time together and they are on their phones or social media? Spanking in the bedroom is the one time a couples minds do not wander, and you cant be on the phone. To partake in spanking and relationship discipline, there cannot be distractions, and this is one of the advantages to the relationship.

Within the world of dominance and submission, discipline is often eroticized and executed in a way society wouldnt otherwise condone. But many couples are waking up a dead sex life with the addition of spanking and light BDSM.

In the Female Led Relationships, more men have admitted that they enjoy and have a strong desire for their women to whip them and be aggressive. Hence, this book will deal with erotic spanking and how the Queen can administer this discipline to her man during sex. Today, more relationships are being led by women. Women are taking charge in the household and in the bedroom. Men are loving the experience of being under the spell and the dominance of women and spanking just adds to the feeling of control for the Queen. When women feel empowered, then they are at their best and men get excited when they take charge and show their power. So. its a win-win for most.