Lady Green - The Compleat Spanker

The Compleat Spanker

by Lady Green

greenery press

1996 by Janet W. Hardy

All rights reserved. Except for brief passages quoted in newspaper, maga?zine, radio or television reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording or by information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the Publisher.

Published in the United States by Greenery Press. Distributed by SCB Distributors, Gardena, CA.

ISBN 0-890159-00-X

Warning and Disclaimer

Readers should understand that spanking, like all BDSM, carries an inher?ent risk of physical injury, emotional injury, injury to relationships, and other types of harm. While we believe that following the guidelines set forth in this book will help you reduce that risk to a reasonable level, the writer and publisher en?courage you to understand that you are choosing to take some risk when you decide to engage in these activities, and to accept personal responsibility for that risk.

While we have diligently researched the information we put in this book, it may nonetheless be incomplete, inaccurate, or out of date. Therefore, in acting on the information in this book, you agree to assume the risk of its contents as is and with all faults. Please notify us of any errors so that we may address them in future printings.

The information in this book should not be used as medical or therapeutic advice. Neither the author, the publisher nor anyone else associated with the creation or sale of this book is liable for any damage caused by your participating in the activities described herein.

Acknowledgments

Thanks to the citizens of Assville the terrific folks who populate Usenets soc.sexuality.spanking newsgroup for their insights, encourage?ment, and willingness to share.

Thanks to all the loving, unforgettable people who have spanked me or been spanked by me through the years Frank, Bob, Cheryl, Mic, Jaymes, Attila, Derek, Maryann, Daddy Drew and many more and especially Tom, Barbara and Dossie.

Thanks to those who live and work around Greenery Press.

Special thanks to Snow White for providing a quiet place, away from Doc, Sleepy, Bashful and the gang, in which to finish this book.

And more thanks and love than I can possibly express to Jay, who loves (and spanks) me no matter how weird I get, and who makes my wonderful life possible.

1. Spanking and Me

One of my earliest memories is of sitting at the circus with my parents I must have been four or so and wondering what it would feel like to be spanked by the strong man.

As you can tell, my spanking fantasies go back a long way. I can hardly remember having any sexual fantasies at all that didnt include some form of spanking. And even now, although my interests have expanded to take in many other forms of consensual erotic pain play, spanking remains my first love.

Yet it took me a very long time to come to terms with this interest. Like many women, I found it easy to deny to myself that the fascinating thoughts and images that crowded my mind were sexual in nature. (Women, unlike men, cannot look down to gauge a phallic barometer of sexual arousal.) Thus, I was approaching thirty by the time I recognized that my spanking thoughts were actually sex fantasies.

And it took me even longer to recognize that lots of other people shared my interest. At the time, I was living a relatively conservative life in a small West Coast city, with very little exposure to erotic literature or photographs, and no access to the resources available in larger cities. And since my fantasies, like many other folks, were about nonconsensual spanking, I didnt realize that there were ways to act them out within the context of friendly and consensual sex play.

But eventually, the truth began to seep in: I was one of thousands, maybe tens or even hundreds of thousands, of people who had erotic connections with the act of spanking or being spanked. Suddenly, I began to see that I was virtually surrounded by spanking fans.

That was well over a decade ago. I began looking for and finding people to spank and, later, people to spank me. I have spanked and been spanked by hundreds of people men and women and transsexual, gay and straight and bi. Ive used hands and paddles and hairbrushes and canes and birches and floggers and straps, and had them used on me. Ive participated in light spankings that barely pinkened the skin, and heavy ones that left the backside bruised for weeks. And I think I can safely say that Ive enjoyed every single one of them.

How this book came about

Ive written several other books (under this name, and as Catherine A. Liszt) that are more generally about erotic pain and power exchange play. My company, Greenery Press, has published several more. But Ive come to realize that theres nothing out there, as far as I know, that offers detailed, specific information about spanking and spanking only. Spanking is certainly a precise enough craft, with exciting enough rewards, and with enough risk of physical and emotional damage, to merit a small book of its own.

Furthermore, I recognize that many people who enjoy erotic spanking dont consider themselves to be into S/M, and thus may never look at the many excellent books on that topic. So this volume will, I hope, provide them with the information they need to practice safe and erotic spanking play.

My biases

I wont pretend to be completely open-minded about anything that involves smacking an ass. My biggest prejudice, of course, is against nonconsensual spanking. If you are reading this book looking for support for your practice of spanking a partner against his or her will in order to enforce proper behavior, youre out of luck; I believe nonconsensual spanking to be abusive behavior. If you are spanking someone against their will, or being spanked against your will, contact your local hotline for battering or battered partners immediately. (Contact information is listed in the Resource Guide at the back of this book.)

I also admit to looking with a very wary eye at the practice of spanking a partner as punishment for mistakes made in the real world, or out of a sense of anger or revenge. While I think that these practices can be done consensually and without harm, I think they are far riskier to the emotional well-being of the people involved and to the relationship between them than most folks realize. My suggestion is that unless you are in a very healthy relationship, and are a very skilled communicator with excellent personal boundaries, its best to keep your spanking play within the realm of role-play and fun. Thus, I will not discuss in this book the idea of integrating spanking

Lastly, I hope it goes without saying that spanking, like a fine brandy, is too rich and intoxicating a treat for children. I do not believe in spanking children, either as traditional punishment, or, of course, erotically. Please keep your adult spanking play between adults: do not spank, or be spanked by, anyone who is not of the age of consent in your state.

Dont worry theres still plenty of hot, realistic spanking fun to be had between consenting adults who follow these guidelines! With love, creativity, skill and a few carefully selected toys, you have a lifetime of amazing sensations and astonishing emotional experiences ahead of you.

Notes

Someofusarejustalittleslow,Iguess.

Ifantasizeaboutthisalot,butIvefoundthatformeandmanyfolks,itssafertokeepinfantasy.