Jacqueline Omerta - The Psychology of Adult Spanking, Vol. 2, Role Play: Using Role Play Scenarios To Maximize Your Spanking Experience

The Psychology of Adult Spanking, Volume #2, Role Play
Using Role Play Scenarios To Maximize Your Spanking Experience

by Jacqueline Omerta, MA, MFT

Jacqueline Omerta is a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist specializing in human sexuality and the adult spanking fetish.

Produced and edited by Vinnie Spitliano.

Published by Pacific Force, Inc.

Copyright 2010

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Do you remember the game of pretend? As kids, we had an innate ability to be creative. We could do anything, be anything and act anyway we felt like. With no apology. We didn't have inhibitions, and playtime often reflected our feelings, hopes and dreams. Wed create scenarios with dolls and action figures. This self play often mirrored the relationships we observed both within our house and immediate world. As we developed, our games of pretend helped us to socially interact with others.

That's where the game of House comes in. You remember that one. It was often one of our very first interactive experiences. We played it with siblings and we definitely played it with our friends. House, helped us work through many childhood traumas. It allowed us to subconsciously express and act out the transitions that were taking place in our lives. The game often originated during toddler years but it continued well into kindergarten and primary school. During those early school years we also played School.

Why were those two pretend games important? Because they were reflective of our environment, social development and self-esteem. House and School gave us a vehicle in which to act out, mimic, or explore aspects of our home lives in a pretend environment. When we played the son, daughter or student we had the chance to finally understand how our behavior affected others.

The games also helped develop a sense of empathy for those who held positions of authority. We experienced the anger of a parent who deals with defiance. A teacher whos frustrated in a classroom of unruly children. The quandary of a principal who is face to face with a repeat offender. House and School gave us an arena in which to understand the meaning of rules, boundaries and discipline. And that discipline often included spanking.

Many adult spanking fetishists vividly recall these games as being the very first time they experienced real time spanking. Today they still enjoy role playing domestic and school scenarios as a build up towards erotic, adult spankings.

My name is Jacqueline Omerta and I am an adult spanking fetishist. I am also a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist. While I was never spanked as a child, I do have memories of being very interested and very curious about others who were spanked. This fixation started as early as the age of 6 and later grew stronger when I became sexually active in my early twenties. Although these feelings were compelling, I kept my spanking fetish a secret for many years and never shared my thoughts or desires with anyone.

By the time I reached my late twenties, I was unable to contain my curiosity any longer and I decided to act on my spanking fantasies. I soon discovered that I was not alone and there were others who shared my interests. Since then, I have dedicated my life to learning, understanding and enjoying my spanking fetish. I felt this was so healing that I then decided to reach out to others who may be experiencing the same confusion that I once felt.

By personally interviewing and counseling thousands of adult spanking fetishists over my 30 year career, I have accrued an in depth knowledge and understanding of the psychology of adult spanking. I use this information to help others overcome their feelings of shame and positively embrace their spanking inclinations in a healthy, manageable way.

Its my mission to normalize the spanking fetish by providing education, counseling and real time experience to adult men and women who identify as spanking fetishists. I teach people how to control their spanking desires rather than letting their desires control them.

You don't have to be a spanko to incorporate role playing into your existing relationship. Role playing allows you and your partner to engage in fantasies, scenarios and become characters as a prelude to sexual activity. Role playing is actually sanctioned by sex therapists as a safe, easy way to spice up bedroom activities. It's particularly useful for people who want variety or the excitement of first time sex, but can't because they are in a monogamous, committed relationship. Traditional sex role players use costumes, wigs and even pretend to pick each other up in a bar.

Role playing allows for creativity and sexual expression because psychologically we are not censoring ourselves and we can own up to our more primal desires. So the staunch feminist can turn into the damsel in distress. The controlled business executive can be the course construction worker. The harried mom can be a demanding movie mogul. In other words, we can try on and take on other traits that lead to another kind of sexual interaction. Role playing is creative, sexually expanding and adds variety to predictable sex. When it comes to the adult spanking fetish, role playing and spanking go hand in hand. Why?

Because spanking is a fetish that is totally cerebral. Almost all spankos get far more aroused by the story leading up to the punishment, than the actual spanking itself. Thats why so many of us have been able to remain happily in the closet and privately indulge our spanking fantasies. We read stories, look at photos and create imaginary situations where a spanking could take place. We then replay these images while masturbating or having sex. All of us have favorite spanking scenarios that reliably produce a very satisfying orgasm.

When we make the transition from solo fantasizing, to interactive spanking, role play is a great way to begin. Role play gets us right back into that child like state where we felt uninhibited, playful and anything goes. It's not you who is getting spanked. It's that other guy. Theres reason for the spanking but its not something that will cause emotional pain. Role play allows us to safely indulge in an imaginary world where spanking is a normal, natural part of life. You can be young or old. You can be complaisant or defiant. You can be spanked by all kinds of people; real or imaginary.

Many of us like to go back in time and think about the people who we would have liked to be spanked by; teachers, babysitters or that sexy next door neighbor. Some of us imagine being spanked by a celebrity or a movie star. Still others think in general terms. We create own characters with very specific characteristics. A strict school teacher spanking a defiant student. Or, a nurturing teacher spanking a contrite student.

Sometimes we like to imagine specific events. What if my tough Aunt Beverly spanked me that time I refused to eat the dinner she cooked for me? Or what about that hot babysitter? What if she had spanked me that time I fussed about bedtime? Many of us recall people, places and things from the past and we create spanking scenarios around these events. Sometimes the fantasy is more present. What if I just ask my friend for a spanking so she'll quit being angry with me? Maybe a spanking would help my misguided employee to buckle down and do her work. These spanking daydreams are easily brought to life in conjunction with spanking role plays. The role plays are obviously played out with you and your spanking partner.