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To my mom, Caroline Singer, for sharing her remarkable talent
and infinite wisdom since the day I arrived on this planet.
You are with me every step of the way.
Mark Brunetz
To my mom, Mary Ellen Berry, who daily demonstrates what it
means to love through all kinds of circumstances. You are my hero.
Carmen Renee Berry
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
From Mark:
To all of my professional colleagues who contributed so poignantly to my journey over the past decade, in particular, the cast and crew of Clean House including Niecy Nash, Trish Suhr, and Matt Iseman, thank you for championing my work both on and off camera. To my colleagues at the Style Network, thank you for providing me with a platform in which to change lives. And to the homeowners and clients who opened their homes and their hearts and became my friends along the way, you made all the difference in the world.
To my business partner Lia Brandligt at DesignandDecorate.com, my assistant Joel Sturdivant, Cameron Kadison at the Paradigm Agency, and above all, John Stellar and Kate-Romero Stellar at Stellar Communications, thank you for your unwavering contribution to the big picture. To my lovely co-author Carmen Renee Berry, bless you for seeing beyond the clutter and collaborating on something very special here. And to Denise Silvestro and Meredith Giordan at the Penguin Group and Kathryn Helmers at Creative Trust, Inc., a sincere thanks for your partnership in bringing this message to the world.
To my kindred spirit, Donna Marie Kent, whose love, enthusiasm and artistry inspire me on a daily basis and to my many dear friends including John Zaffarano, Tom Davila, and Lillian Dean, thank you for granting me the freedom to be me. Its a gift that keeps on giving.
To my family, thank you for always indulging me with curiosity and kindness. And to the love of my life, Eduardo Flores, my deepest gratitude for your love and support over the past eleven years. You are the living expression of all that is blissful in the world. You are my treasure.
From Carmen:
My close friends and family know what its like when Im possessed with a writing projecthow I wander around preoccupied with the manuscript in my mind, unaware of those around me. I want to thank all of you for loving me anywayeven though most of you rolled your eyes when I told you I was writing a book on clutter. Youve seen my garage... Thanks to the faithful Colleen Sutton, Pat Luehrs, Cathy Smith, Bob Parsons, Joel Miller and Denise Blair. To those who share my love for NepalMike Platter, Joanne Feldmeth, Lindsay Feldmeth, Joseph Rubio, and Rodney Burke.
My journey with clutter has not been an easy oneespecially for Marianne Croonquist who schlepped my stuff from house to house while I was learning how to let go. Thank you, Marianne. The mention of clutter demands a special thanks to Ricky Stewart who has organized and reorganized my garage more times that either of us can remember, and whose joyful encouragement has meant so much to me and my mother. I cannot express how grateful I am to our landlady, Shirley Muse, who welcomed us into a beautiful home in spite of the fact that we had a few cats. Every time I look out at the lake, I know God has loved me through you.
To the extraordinary Carolyn Rafferty who has given so generously of her time and energy through numerous adventures. You made this book possible by being a great Auntie to my daughter, Jenee.
I thank Kathryn Helmers, my long-time agent and friend, for sharing of her creativity, encouragement and finding just the right publisher for this project. Special thanks to Denise Silvestro and Meredith Giordan of Penguin for helping us birth something wonderful.
Lastly, I want to thank Mark Brunetz for his generosity, integrity and creativity that seem to know no limits. It has truly been a delight of immeasurable proportions working with you.
Part One
You Make theMeaning
Lets Be Partners
Dont buy another organizer bin! Dont plan another yard sale! Dont call a local charity to pick up more donations! In fact, dont do anything but get a cup of tea and sit with us for a little while.
Our approach is different from any other. We will be the first to admit that we do not know how you should live your life or organize your home. But we promise you wont be made to feel like you have a psychological problem that needs to be fixed. And since were fairly certain that you dont need a huge to-do listjust something else to feel guilty aboutwe wont give you 10 or 50 or 1,000 cleaning tips. Like you, we want to spend less time cleaning and organizing our homes, not more.
Instead, we put the power to create your home environment into your hands. We want to ignite your passion for living well, and inspire you to act intentionally, regardless of circumstances. The missing ingredient for creating and maintaining a clutter-free home is self-motivation, and unlimited access to it at all times.
We suspect that this isnt the first book youve bought on how to clear away the clutter. And your house is still full of this, that, and the other thing, right? Youre not alone. There are enough people who desire clean, clutter-free homes to support an entire industrythe clutter control and organizational products business! This is a relatively new phenomenon that has arisen over the last thirty years. Many books have been written, many television shows produced, many experts are available for hire for the purpose of telling you how to get organized.
Like many others, you may have a favorite TV show on decluttering that you watch in search of inspiration and cleaning tips. Perhaps you scour the Internet for websites for additional information, hoping that youll find the perfect scheme. Armed with the latest book or approach to home organization you take off to Home Depot or the Container Store to get the items needed for your new reorganization plan. This time is going to work, you promise yourself.
Energized by the vision of an orderly garage or family room, you may purchase the latest system of shelving units or color-coordinated plastic bins. After standing in long lines to pay for your new system, you lug it all into your house. Phew! Youre probably tired from all that shopping, but nevertheless, continue your intention of organizational success.
You start installing the new system, but it isnt long before you lose steam. You are distracted by something that seems much more important, like paying bills, watching TV, meeting up with friends, completing the work you brought home, spending time with your children, petting your cat. There are a lot of activities vying for your attention, some of which might actually be important. But when these activities call, you step away for a moment and the moment becomes an hour, the hour becomes a day, the day becomes a week.
Then one day, you trip over the new organizational system and that old familiar sense of defeat creeps into your heart once again. The enormity of the task weighs down on you until you slow to a complete stop. You may sit down to rest on your new organizer bins (at least theyre good for something!). Your head aches, your back spasms, or maybe your stomach cramps. Your home is in more disarray with the added organizing books and products you recently purchased strewn about. Instead of helping, they add to the clutterthey are a physical manifestation of the problem itself. Another dissatisfying attempt and more clutter to boot.