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In a society that worships youth and relegates its seniors to second-class citizen status, many elderly women end up ignored, mourning their lost youth. It doesnt have to be that way, says Dr. Ruth Harriet Jacobs, Remarkable Aging Smart Person and self-proclaimed troublemaker. Her solution: Be An Outrageous Older Woman. A unique guide to living it up in the senior years, this feisty book addresses the many issues faced by older women in a sassy, humorous and yes, even outrageous way. Drawing from her personal experience and from years of meticulous research, Dr. Jacobs covers such areas as:
  • Sexuality: an A-to-Z list of different ways to keep the fires of passion burning
  • Reinventing yourself
  • Having fun on a tight budget
  • Fostering relationships and social groups
  • Being outrageous with your descendants
  • The benefits and bonuses of aging the most freedom since puberty
  • Much, much more

    Filled with practical advice and innovative ideas, Be an Outrageous Older Woman gives readers the knowledge and inspiration they need to live as first-class citizens and make their golden years shine.

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    Be an
    Outrageous
    Older
    Woman

    Advice, ideas,
    humor, anecdotes,
    poetry, and warmth
    for women
    in the
    second
    half of life

    S ANDRA M ARTZ , editor of
    When I Am an Old Wonan I Shall Wear Purple

    Ruth Harriet Jacobs, Ph.D., R.A.S.P.
    (Remarkable Aging Smart Person)

    CONTENTS Part One Becoming Outrageous Why and How to Reinvent Yourself in Your - photo 1

    CONTENTS

    Part One Becoming Outrageous
    Why and How to Reinvent Yourself in Your Older Years

    Part Two Advocating For yourself With Professionals
    From Doctors to Job Counselors to Your Boss

    Part Three Remarkable Me
    Treating Yourself Well

    Part Four Housing Yourself Outrageously
    Be the Queen of Your Castle and Enjoy Outrageous, Affordable Travel

    Part Five Outrageous Companionship
    Fostering Relationships and Social Groups

    Rage is in the middle of the word outrageous. Rage occurs when we are frustrated, ignored, hurt, trivialized, denied needed resources, insulted, treated as second-class individuals, and in other ways injured. In our society, women are often discriminated against when they age. This can be as major and open as not being hired or as subtle as being treated as though we are invisible in society and perfunctorily at social gatherings. When we brood about this and take no action, our rage or anger often turns inward, eventually developing into depression or passivity.

    However, we can move beyond rage by being outrageous older women, refusing to accept the stereotypes or slights. This book will give you recipes for coming out of rage and into being a magnificent older woman who takes what she can from life to be happy, to be productive, and, above all, to laugh. We need joy in our lives as we age. There are decrements in aging, but we can be creative about increments.

    As I grew older, I learned that if you are outrageous enough, good things happen. You stop being invisible and become validated. For example, in 1987, I decided to call myself a R.A.S.P. I had never been a WASP (White Anglo-Saxon Protestant) because, among other disqualifications, I am the wrong ethnic group and too fat. But I figured I could RASP my way though my older years fighting for my own rights and my own joy and for those of other older women. To me, R.A.S.P. stood for Remarkable Aging Smart Person, and I painted it on a T-shirt and sweatshirt to handle all seasons. I also made a R.A.S.P. bottom by putting masking tape over the button of a disliked politician and writing R.A.S.P. with a magic markerbright red, of course.

    Other women suggested R.A.S.P. also stood for, as the situation warranted. Ravishing Aging Sexy Person or Radical Aging Strategic Person. Wherever I went, I invited mature women to join R.A.S.P., explaining that it was a treat organization because there were no dues, meetings, newsletters, or financial appeals. Other R.A.S.P. buttons began to appear. By 1990, the prestigious American Aging Society sent me an unsolicited letter addressed to Ruth Jacobs, President of R.A.S.P., inviting me and my members to join. If the American Aging Society says R.A.S.P. is real, it must be. Its no longer just my private joke. So now I ask you to join R.A.S.P.

    In this book, you will learn how to start Rasping. What I will offer comes from more than my personal experience. It grew from the research, teaching, and advocacy on women and aging that I have done since I earned my Ph.D. in sociology in 1969, at age forty-five (after getting my B.S. at age 40 while my children were in school). I am the older womens Dr. Ruth, come to tell the truth, and I hope by the time Im done, youll think I am the better one.

    My research and my work on behalf of older women has been supported by such agencies as the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Science Foundation, the U.S. Department of Education, the Stone Center for Womens Development and Services at Wellesley (College, and the Wellesley College Center for Research on Women, where I have been affiliated since the seventies. I have learned a great deal from wonderful aging women who have taken my Older Women Surviving and Thriving workshops and from women I have interviewed for my research books and articles. Many of them, like me, had to overcome the internalized cultural bias against aging, especially against aging women.

    My own crisis of aging came when I was sixty, an age that signaled to me the end of midlife. When I was nearly sixty-one, I wrote in a poem how I had conquered my fears.

    Becoming Sixty

    There were terror and anger
    at coming into sixty.
    Would I give birth
    only to my old age?
    Now near sixty-one
    I count the gifts
    that sixty gave.
    A book flowed from my life
    to those who needed it
    and love flowed back to me.
    In a yard that had seemed full,
    space for another garden appeared.
    I took my aloneness to Quaker meeting,
    and my outstretched palms were filled.
    I walked further along the beach,
    swam longer in more sacred places,
    danced the spiral dance,
    reclaimed daisies for women
    in my ritual for a precious friend
    and received poets wine
    from a new friend who came
    in the evening of my need.

    In addition to the things listed in the poem, I tried many other new activities the year I turned sixty. By sixty-three, I was really enjoying my older womanhood and asking myself what I wanted to do with the rest of my life.

    Please write down now what you want to do with the rest of your life.

    When I did my list. I discovered I no longer wanted to work full-time teaching and chairing the sociology department at Clark University, and I resigned to teach only part-time elsewhere and to do other things. Writing the list made me confront my life and change it. It is easy to stick to a known, safe-but-uncomfortable identity. We have to shake ourselves up once in a while. Writing to ourselves can give us access to our deep wishes as my poem that follows did for me.

    At Sixty-three

    What I want for the rest of my life
    is to live simply and joyfully
    close to nature and God
    ministering, as I am led to do
    to people in new ways,
    communicating with my children
    as equals without dependency
    or guilt on either side
    or the reliving of old history.
    What I want for the rest of my life
    is to accept that in my living
    I made serious mistakes
    but did the best I could at the time.
    I want to stop blaming myself
    and have as much compassion and respect
    for myself as I have for others.
    I want to travel to new places
    to witness and be touched
    by the stories of others
    then tell their stories
    in my books and poetry
    to help people see themselves
    in others and know we are all
    kindred spirits within the spirit,
    and that what injures one of us
    insults all of us
    while the triumph of one of us
    is a mountain climbed by all.
    What I want for the rest of my life
    is to deal gracefully and graciously
    with the decrements of aging
    so that by example and testimony
    I give others the courage
    to see that the missions and ministry
    of the aged are as important as of youth
    and are important to youth.
    Finally, I want to meet my death knowing
    that I lived fully, returning to life
    the talents and time given me by grace.

    Aging gives us a chance to know ourselves and to learn the meaning of life. I have learned, as you should, to enjoy the perks of being olden When a passenger, I happily accept the front seat in two-door cars that require pretzel crawling to get into the back; I am delighted when the sixteen-year-old movie cashiers ask, Senior citizen ticket? which is half-price. I graciously accept snow shoveling help. But I will not tolerate being considered mentally incompetent. In response to the people who, in this youth-oriented society, try to curry favor by calling me and other older women young woman, I say:

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