Crystal Stine - Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More

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Whether its a constant whisper or an overwhelming shout, the shoulds we play in our head over and over can plague us for a lifetime. In Quieting the Shout of Should , Crystal Stine helps us identify the nagging lies we believe and replace them with the truth and freedom that is available to us in Christ today. If you find yourself trapped in the endless cycle of doubt, fear, comparison, and insecurity and are looking for a solid biblical approach to experiencing your life anew, this book is for you.

Ruth Schwenk

Founder of TheBetterMom.com, cohost of Rootlike Faith podcast, coauthor of In a Boat in the Middle of a Lake

Crystal has done a clear job of identifying the many areas where women get defeated, carry guilt, or explain away how God has created them. She gives everyday examples that make me think she is reading my journal! Crystal provides practical, biblical ways to work through some of the lies and barriers we encounter. In a time when its so easy to compare ourselves to others, its a breath of fresh air to have someone give us permission to step into everything God has for each one of us uniquely!

Clare Smith

Speaker, trainer, coach

Its hard enough trying to navigate life without constant reminders of how were not doing it right. In her utterly upfront and expansive new book, Quieting the Shout of Should , Crystal reminds us our value to God is in who we are in His sight, not in who we or others think we should be. Crystal beautifully shares her own honest stories of faith and failure and how we can serve and love from a place of strength, not striving. Her wise words will provide readers practical actions and sound advice to quiet the shouts of should in our own lives.

Kate Battistelli

Author of The God Dare and Growing Great Kids

The shout of should beats its angry drum louder than ever now. With clarity and grace, Crystal Stine leads us through the battlefields of life, uncovering expectations and realities that keep us from fully embracing what God has for us. This book is a crucial guide for anyone who desires to live past the boundaries of should in the land of freedom.

Erin Moon

Author of Every Broken Thing, The Comfortable Words , and O Heavy Lightness

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Quieting the Shout of Should

Copyright 2020 by Crystal Stine

Published by Harvest House Publishers

Eugene, Oregon 97408

www.harvesthousepublishers.com

ISBN 978-0-7369-8100-2 (pbk.)

ISBN 978-0-7369-8101-9 (eBook)

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Stine, Crystal, author.

Title: Quieting the shout of should / Crystal Stine.

Description: Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House Publishers, 2020. | Summary: In this all-inclusive guide to letting go of the guilt and shame of trying to live up to what everyone else is doing, you will learn to quiet the shouts of should that keep you from moving toward Gods plan for our life Provided by publisher.

Identifiers: LCCN 2020012291 (print) | LCCN 2020012292 (ebook) | ISBN 9780736981002 (pbk) | ISBN 9780736981019 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Christian womenReligious life. | GuiltReligious aspectsChristianity. | GuiltReligious aspectsChristianity.

Classification: LCC BV4527 .S734955 2020 (print) | LCC BV4527 (ebook) | DDC 248.8/43dc23

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For Madi, Bella, Alex, Morgan, and Luke

May the shouts of should be quieted for your generation

Contents

I have a constant soundtrack playing in my head. I wish I could tell you it was music (although Carry On, Wayward Son by Kansas is usually my earworm of choice), but unfortunately, my life is less spontaneous Disney musical and more to-do lists, doubts, expectations, demands, and dreams.

After speaking with women around the country, I know Im not the only one who is looking for a way to quiet the shout of should from the world so we can fully embrace who God has created us to be. Thats what this book isnot permission to put on headphones and check out from our lives, but an invitation to go on a journey that navigates the noise of the world as we swap what weighs us down for the quiet, uplifting guidance from God our souls seek. Its also not a simple self-help book where youll finish the final chapter and have your life sorted out in a few easy steps. What you will discover is the ability to identify what, in your current season, is keeping you from living fully as a daughter of God.

There are a couple of ways you can read this book:

1. Read on your own .

Each chapter will introduce you to a specific should women struggle with and will include parts of my story, a deep dive into relevant scripture, and time at the end of each section for you to pause and connect with God.

2. Read with a group .