Endorsements
Reading Unexpected Blessings was like being wrapped in an enormously comforting hug that I didnt even know I needed! It is both practical and emotional, offering affirmation to all special-needs parents. I know Sandras beautiful words will give fellow parents the tools they need to not only accept a diagnosis but also to thrive. Her stories and encouragement reminded me again and again of the immense joy found along this detour were on as special-needs families.
Courtney Westlake, author of A Different Beautiful
Unexpected Blessings is a book rich with faith. Sandra Peoples has learned faith in the trenches of life as she discovered how to do life by loving and caring for a son affected by autism. This book is only incidentally about disabilitiesits mainly about life as it should be lived as dependent, believing children .
Paul Miller, author of A Praying Life
When my husband and I stood facing our familys Plan B, we didnt know what our next step should be or why God had allowed it. Unexpected Blessings provides a biblical and helpful resource for parents like us who are facing a difficult diagnosis for their child. I only wish Id had it from the very beginning of our autism journey!
Christine Hoover, author of Searching for Spring and Messy Beautiful Friendship
It is always uplifting for me to pick up a book written by a parent of a child with disabilities. I know I am reading authentic words written in blood, sweat, and tears. Sandras writing is particularly encouraging because it is incredibly practical, faithfully scriptural, and saturated with the gospel.
Greg Lucas, author of Wrestling with an Angel: A Story of Love, Disability, and the Lessons of Grace
In this excellent book, Sandra Peoples offers not only empathy (as a both a parent and sibling of a child with special needs), but also a biblically-grounded cause for hope for all those living a Plan B life. Unexpected Blessings will comfort you, challenge you, encourage you, and ultimately point you to Jesus. I cannot recommend it highly enough.
Rachel Wilson coauthor of The Life We Never Expected: Hopeful Reflections on the Challenges of Parenting Children with Special Needs
This is a must-read that will bring hope and offer practical insights to anyone on the unchartered journey of raising a child with special needs. Read this book and learn from one of the best!
Marie Kuck, cofounder of Nathaniels Hope
For those struggling with the hardships of disability, Unexpected Blessings is an encouraging reminder that Gods Plan B is always better than our Plan A. With biblical truths, thought-provoking questions, and practical tips, Sandra speaks to readers who may be caught in their own cycles of fear and grief, and helps them to identify the blessings hidden within the beauty of Gods unexpected but faultless designs.
Sarah Parshall Perry, author of Sand in My Sandwich: And Other Motherhood Messes I m Learning to Love and Mommy Needs a Raise ( Because Quitting s Not an Option)
Sandra Peoples knows all about the heartache a special-needs diagnosis can bring. In this book, she helps parents like her to rise above the emotional chaos and breathe easy again. At each turn, Unexpected Blessings points us back to the hopeful promises of Scripture and the nearness of God.
Jason Hague, author of Aching Joy: Following God through the Land of Unanswered Prayer
You may be cautiously optimistic on your journey like Sandra was, but she guides you through the diagnosis to the differences a special-needs addition to your family brings, tackling topics of family, marriage, friends, and church as we learn to let go of the challenges that come our way so that change can happen and bring us from pain to purpose!
Dr. Joe and Cindi Ferrini, national speakers with FamilyLife and authors of Unexpected Journey: When Special Needs Change Our Course
A wise, empathetic, and seasoned guide to navigating... the universal struggles of special-needs parents. We are not alone!
Diane Dokko Kim, special-needs ministry consultant and author of Unbroken Faith: Spiritual Recovery for the Special Needs Parent
Sandra Peoples writes from the same vantage point as her readers. Shes a parent on an unexpected, challenging, and rewarding journey as she and her husband raise their child with special needs. From the first page to the last, she shares compassion and hope that equip parents to embrace their journey and help their families thrive.
Jolene Philo, author of the D IFFERENT D REAM P ARENT ING series and coauthor of Every Child Welcome
Half Title
unexpected
blessings
Title Page
Copyright
2018 by Sandra Peoples
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
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Ebook edition created 2018
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meansfor example, electronic, photocopy, recordingwithout the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-1598-4
Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2011
Cover design by Kathleen Lynch/Black Kat Design
Author represented by Karen Neumair of Credo Communications
Dedication
To my mom and her friends, who made the world a better place for their kids and for mine:
Thresia Wood
Jessica Baldridge
Mary Sue Leu
Michelle Presley
Sharon Garrity
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Half Title
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Introduction: Unexpected Circumstances, Unexpected Blessings
1. Shipwreck
2. Letting Go
3. Where Can I Go? (Cycles of Grief)
4. What We Overcome in Order to Move On
5. Hold On
6. Adjust Your Routines
7. Forging a New Path
8. Rebuild on the Rock
9. Strengthening Relationships with Your Family and Friends
10. A New Tribe
11. Making a Difference
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
Notes
Back Cover
Acknowledgments
Be of good cheer, my Brother, I feel the bottom, and it is good.
These words from Hopeful to Christian in The Pilgrims Progress were the inspiration for writing this book. We all hit the bottom, but it is good because God is good and He is there, even at the bottom. As Hopeful encouraged Christian and as I have hopefully encouraged you, I want to say thank you to those who encouraged me on this journey.
Thank you Karen Neumair (Credo Communications) and the entire Bethany House team, especially Andy McGuire and Jeff Braun, for taking each step of the book publishing process with me! Thank you for believing in the message of this book and in the special-needs community who it will reach.
To friends who have supported me through this process with your virtual and IRL encouragement, I appreciate you each more than I can say. Thank you Teri Lynne, Kristin, Brooke, Erin, Sarah, and Lisa. And an extra thank you to Caroline, who has given feedback on this project through every stage. It is better because of your investment in it.
There are many friends I would not have known if we hadnt shipwrecked on this island. James prays for them each night as he says, Thank you for everybody who helps us take good care of James. From those friends who have been with us since day one, like Nicole, Pam, Mrs. Gross, Ms. Michelle, and Ms. Jess, to those who support us today, like Mrs. Kirk and Ms. Sarahthank you for loving James and loving us.