Morgan Thorne - Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More) Discovering Kink

MORGAN THORNE
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Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More) Discovering KinkISBN: 978-0-9958780-4-4
Copyright 2017 Morgan Thorne
www.MsMorganThorne.com

Published by:
Nymphetamean Publishingwww.Nymphetamean.comToronto, Ontario

All content, including all text, photographs, and layout by Morgan Thorne.Cover art & design by Morgan Thorne
All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in anymanner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for theuse of brief quotations in a book review.

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Warning & Disclaimer: This book is intended to be a reference guide and leaning aid. It is nota complete education on BDSM. The author strongly advises that people get in personinstruction from an experienced instructor prior to engaging in BDSM activities.

The author and publisher assume no responsibilities for any injuries, loss, or damagesresulting from the ideas presented in this book. The practice of BDSM comes with significantrisks and while these can be lessened, they still exist. The use of drugs or alcohol greatlyincreases these risks. By acting on the information in this book, you assume allresponsibility for your actions

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AFTERCARE............................................................55
Not Enough Communication............................67Reviewing the Scene.......................................103
Not Checking In or Communicating in Scene....67
Sky High Expectations.......................................68SCENE CREATION AND IDEAS..............................114
Kink as a Competition or Race to Extreme Play 68
Not Communicating After a Scene...................69
Using Booze or Recreational Drugs to CalmPlanning Your Scene.......................................115
What Can We Learn?......................................119Not Understanding What Youre Getting Into..70AFTERCARE AND SCENE REVIEW.........................121EXPLORING YOUR FANTASIES ...............................72Sensation Play Specific Aftercare...................121USING THIS BOOK..................................................72Reviewing the Scene.......................................122IMPACT & PAIN PLAY SAFETY:...............................76SCENE CREATION AND IDEAS..............................140General Safety Issues.......................................83Bondage Specific Safety Concerns..................140Play Safe...........................................................84Planning Your Scene.......................................145SCENE CREATION & IDEAS.....................................93What Can We Learn?......................................146impact & pain play specific safety concerns.....93Panic While Bound.........................................146Planning Your Scene.........................................96AFTERCARE AND SCENE REVIEW.........................148What Can We Learn?........................................98Bondage Specific Aftercare............................148Overcoming Childhood Programming..............99Reviewing the Scene.......................................149SCENE REVIEW.....................................................101ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY...............................154 viiMORGAN THORNE A Note on Cheating........................................154Feeling Silly.....................................................201
Sexual Monogamy, Poly Play..........................155Aftercare and Scene Review................................202
Mono/Poly......................................................156Situational vs Personal........................................208
Polyamory......................................................156But Why?........................................................209
Open Relationships........................................157Situational Humiliation...................................209
Other Non-Monogamous Relationship Styles 159Personal Humiliation......................................210
Jealousy and Compersion...............................159Intensely Personal..........................................211
Non-Monogamy as Fantasy Only....................160Exploring Humiliation Play: .................................212
Considerations for Negotiation......................161Scene Creation and Ideas....................................218
Exploring Sexuality & Sexual Taboo: ...................164Humiliation Specific Safety Concerns.............218
Scene Creation and Ideas....................................174Planning Your Scene.......................................222
Gender & BDSM.............................................174What Can We Learn?......................................223
Sexual Taboo Specific Safety Concerns...........175Aftercare and Scene Review................................225
Planning Your Scene.......................................181Humiliation Specific Aftercare........................225
What Can We Learn?......................................182Reviewing the Scene.......................................226
Overcoming Sex Negative Programming........183EXPLORING PROTOCOL & POWER EXCHANGE: ..231
Aftercare and Scene Review................................184Bedroom Only D/s..........................................231
Sexual Taboo Specific Aftercare.....................184
Sexual Taboo Scene Review...........................185Total Power Exchange....................................232
Exploring Role Play: Checklist..............................190Who Holds the Power?...................................232
Scene Creation and Ideas....................................196Archetypes in D/s...........................................233
Role Play Specific Safety Concerns.................196Key Values When Starting A D/s Relationship 235
Planning Your Scene.......................................199First Steps into Power Exchange.....................235
What We Can Learn........................................201Creating Rules.................................................236 viii CREATING PROTOCOLS .......................................238Edgier Edge Play.............................................261
What is a Protocol?........................................23839 EXPLORING TABOO & EDGE PLAY: .................263
Types of Protocol............................................239SAFETY.................................................................269
Which Protocols Work for You?.....................241Taboo Safety...................................................269
What Level of Protocol?.................................242Edge Play Safety.............................................271
EXPLORING POWER EXCHANGE & PROTOCOL: ..243EDUCATIONAL RESOURCES .................................273
SCENE CREATION AND IDEAS..............................249CREATING AMAZING SCENES...............................276
Power Exchange and Protocol Specific SafetyConcerns.........................................................249Setting the Mood............................................276
Setting the Scene............................................277Preparing Your Scene.....................................250The Element of Surprise.................................277What Can We Learn?......................................253The Structure of a Scene................................278AFTERCARE AND SCENE REVIEW........................254Aftercare........................................................279Scene Review..................................................254Creativity........................................................280NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART............................260Glossary...............................................................281Taboo Play......................................................260