Guide
Imagine the wave of change that would wash over the country if every leader adopted Dr. Maria Churchs model!
DEB NICHOLSON, author of She Never Knew, and editor of the Chesapeake Real Producers magazine
Finally, a leadership model one can wrap her arms around! Dr. Church brings to light the real qualities of true leadership based on the very foundation of love, honor, and respect for ones fellow man (and woman). Her ability to guide others on this journey of self-discovery for the authentic leader within is a gift to all. After embracing LBL, one cant help but realize, with perfect clarity, the benets of going for a walk.
MARCELINA WERNE, R.N., C.E.O., Horizon Health Care Institute, LLC
The timing for Dr. Maria Churchs Love-Based Leadership (LBL) model for business leaders could not be more appropriate. With the country coming out of crisis and the labor force wounded and skeptical, this model of leadership will attract the best employees looking for a safe and caring environment under which to work.
MICHAEL G. CEREPANYA, president, MGC Consulting, LLC
Through her writings, her teachings, and most of all her contagiously enthusiastic actions, Dr. Maria Church reminds us that service, particularly public service, is not diminished by, but rather is made possible through a genuine love for self, those served, and the Why that brings the two together. Everything becomes so much easier and more rewarding when you focus on loving yourself enough to be you at your best and loving others enough to do whatever you can to help them achieve the same. Contrary to what fear-based approaches would have us believe, facts arent lost in love-based leadership. In fact, if we are willing to let ourselves be vulnerable, the truth of who we are and our experiences is illuminated, the connection to those we serve and their needs is created, and in that intersection lies the place for both hope and opportunity.
MARYELLEN SHEPPARD, MAOM, SPHR, CPM; human resources director, Pinal County, AZ; assistant county manager, Maricopa County, AZ (retired)
Love-Based Leadership has taught me that leading with heart and love fosters a work environment where authenticity, growth, and collaboration flourish. Focusing on skills, listening, and respect, I was able to develop and communicate my vision, and then support my team as they owned and ran with that vision. I am eternally grateful to Maria and her work for showing me how to become the leader I want to be and how to develop and support the best in myself and my team.
SHAUNA MCISAAC, MD
Love-based Leadership
2020 Maria Church. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be used or reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form, or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopied, recorded or otherwise, without written permission of the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.
Published in the United States of America by
Dudley Court Press
PO Box 102 Sonoita, AZ 85637
www.DudleyCourtPress.com
Cover and interior design by Dunn+Associates, Dunn-Design.com
Publishers Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Church, Maria, 1961- author.
Title: Love-based leadership : the model for leading with strength, grace, and authenticity / Dr. Maria Church.
Description: 10th anniversary edition, completely revised and updated.
Sonoita, Arizona : Dudley Court Press, [2020]
First edition issued by Balboa Press, 2010. | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: ISBN: 978-1-940013-67-1 (paper)
978-1-940013-68-8 (EBook)
978-1-940013-69-5 (audio)
LCCN: 2020915924
Subjects:
LCSH: Leadership. | Authentic leadership. | Business communication. | Success.Success in business.
Love--Psychological aspects. | LoveSocial aspects. | Self-acceptance. | Self-actualization (Psychology)
BISAC: BUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Business Communication / General. | BUSINESS & ECONOMICS / Leadership.
SELF-HELP / Personal Growth / Success.
Classification: LCC: HD57.7 .C48 2020
DDC: 658.4/092--dc23
For Brian.
I will love you til the stars
fall from the sky.
Love is not a word that is used often in professional settings, yet we say it freely everywhere else. We love our families, of course, and our pets; our hometowns and our home teams. When love does come up in our professional lives, its usually in the context of lovingor notthe work we do.
I have spent my career in local governments across four states, including the last 15 years as the city manager in Fort Collins, Colorado, and I do love my work. It has also become abundantly clear to me through the years that building a community requires love beyond the work itself. It requires a deep love for the community, for the people and businesses in it, and for my colleagues who are equally passionate about this form of public service.
I first met Maria Church several years ago when we were both speaking at an Alliance for Innovation conference in Phoenix. As we learned more about the work the other was doing, we discovered that our leadership philosophies are very much aligned. She has proven an invaluable resource in this space, and her research and teaching captures so much about the ways we are trying to lead in Fort Collins.
Her message of leading from love instead of fear resonates deeply. Like many leaders I confess that earlier in my career I sometimes approached my work with a harsher, all-business tone. As Ive grown in my own leadership journey, Ive come to understand that how we do our work matters just as much as the work itself. Leading with genuine care for others and ourselves is the best way for any organization to achieve the results it is working toward.
Sometimes when I talk to various work groups across my organizationpolice patrol officers, perhaps, or a street or utility field crewthis notion of loving our colleagues meets some initial resistance. After all, traditional professional language doesnt typically go there. But as Dr. Church explains, if we can easily talk about loving our families, friends and neighbors, I dont think its at all a stretch to talk about loving our colleagues, too. We spend the majority of our waking hours with our co-workersof course those relationships matter! I know I wouldnt last very long in a job where the human interactions were purely transactional.
It is apt that Dr. Churchs book is being re-released in 2020, and I cannot think of a year that we need this message of love-based leadership more. In just a few months we have endured a global pandemic and the ensuing economic fallout, a reckoning around systemic racism and police accountability, and the effects of climate change through devastating hurricane and wildfire seasonsnot to mention a highly contentious presidential election still to come. It is quite a collection of traumas for us to live through, much less lead through. When the world recovers and economies begin to thrive again, the way we treated our people during these difficult times will be critical in determining our longer-term success or failure as leaders.
Throughout this book Dr. Church makes clear that the traditional, fear-based approach to leadership is the very antithesis of love. Leading via fear is easyits been modeled throughout history and weve all experienced it in our lives.