The church should be the one institution in all of society that announces rest for the weary and heavy laden, but all too often what broken and burned-out people get instead is a to-do list. My friend Elyse (actually, more like my older, wiser sister) has written a book for all the women whose souls are burdened by the unending pressure to be the perfect woman. If youre in need of good news that relieves and liberates, please read this. And thank you, Elyse, for reminding me once again that it is finished.... I keep forgetting.
TULLIAN TCHIVIDJIAN
Senior pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church and author of One Way Love: Inexhaustible Grace for an Exhausted World
When you pick up a book written by Elyse Fitzpatrick, you know youre going to hear good news. And who doesnt need to hear good news? Weary women dont have time to waste on fake hope. Every woman needs to look away from herself and to the Man who is seated in heaven at the right hand of the Father. Every page in Good News for Weary Women is laden with the burden-lifting news that Christ is our sufficient strength.
GLORIA FURMAN
Pastors wife, mom of four, cross-cultural worker, author of Glimpses of Grace and Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full
I feel like Elyse Fitzpatrick has been mentoring me and discipling me for years through her books. You can find her words stacked on my nightstand and residing in the basket on my coffee table, and there are extra copies in tote bags, just waiting to be given to women I disciple myself. This book, however, is one that needs to be read by every single gal I know. Its a loving and hope-filled coffee date for my entire generation. Its the words were longing to hear, which I believe we can receive only from women like Elyse women whose eyes are on Jesus and who are still running the race well in front of us.
JESSI CONNOLLY
Author and entrepreneur, naptimediaries.com
I first heard about Elyse Fitzpatrick when I picked up Comforts from the Cross, and was right or wrong refreshingly surprised that a devotional written by a woman could be so stinkin good. Ever since, J. D. and I have been fan-club members for all things Fitzpatrick. She majors on grace in real and practical ways. Any woman who has ever thought, I get that the gospel is the center, but what do I do with my screaming child, my screaming conscience, or this screaming voice of anxiety? needs to pick up Good News for Weary Women. Elyse celebrates legitimately good news for women drowning in a sea of bad advice.
VERONICA GREEAR
Mother of four and wife of J. D. Greear, pastor of The Summit Church
Elyse Fitzpatrick is an unflinching, no-nonsense ambassador for the truth about grace. For the try-hard lifers, the weary worriers, and the never-enoughers, Elyse points again and again to this: You are welcomed and you are loved because of Jesus. The End.
EMILY P. FREEMAN
Author of Grace for the Good Girl: Letting Go of the Try-Hard Life
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Good News for Weary Women: Escaping the Bondage of To-Do Lists, Steps, and Bad Advice
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Fitzpatrick, Elyse, date.
Good news for weary women : escaping the bondage of to-do lists, steps, and bad advice / Elyse Fitzpatrick.
pages cm. (Resurgence books)
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-1-4143-9538-8 (sc)
1. Christian women Religious life. 2. Time management Religious aspects Christianity. 3. Simplicity Religious aspects Christianity. I. Title.
BV4527.F584 2014
248.8'43 dc23 2014020742
ISBN 978-1-4964-0017-8 (ePub); ISBN 978-1-4143-9564-7 (Kindle); ISBN 978-1-4964-0018-5 (Apple)
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To all the wearied, burdened, wounded, and struggling women who love their Lord but cant seem to find the joy, peace, or freedom theyve heard so much about. Hear His good word for you: Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28).
AUTHORS NOTE
I TS MY HOPE that this book will be the catalyst for many discussions among women whether over the phone, over coffee, in the park, or in small groups. It is also my hope that through these conversations, women will begin to open up about the ways they struggle to fulfill all the demands that are foisted upon them and that they will grow in their discernment not only about the demands themselves but also about their own desire for approval as they check off all the little boxes on their list.
In all of this, I pray most sincerely that women will rediscover the profound grace that is ours through the good news: that we are forgiven, loved, and already counted perfect.
To help facilitate discussions, I have included questions at the end of each chapter. Feel free to use these questions in whatever way works best for you. For instance, you may want to look over them before reading the chapter so youll have a sense of where the chapter is going. Or you may want to wait until the end and then go back through the chapter, underlining and reflecting on the important points. Or youre welcome to ignore them altogether, if you like.
The final question for each chapter asks for a summary of what youve read. This is something I do myself, because its way too easy for me to forget what Ive read, and then two years later, I wonder what the book was about... or whether I actually read it. Again, do this if youd like to and if you find it helpful, but dont stress over it. Enjoy.
VOICES CRYING IN THE WILDERNESS
M Y HEART ACHES for all the weary women who are desperate for good news. My heart aches because Ive personally spoken to countless women who are burdened and exhausted and on the verge of either giving up on what has been passed off as Christianity or are nearly killing themselves trying to keep up with impossible demands. Ive wept with women who are shocked by the freedom and grace of the gospel message women who have trouble believing it, who cant get over thinking that God is mad at them.
Ive watched women sigh in relief when I tell them that God cant be disappointed with them because disappointment is a by-product of unmet expectations and that God has none when it comes to them. Ive had friends who have cut, burned, or starved themselves because they cant take the pain of their failure anymore, and they simply dont have the faith to keep trying to be good enough. Did it hurt when they pressed the cigarettes into their arms? Of course it did. But this was nothing compared to the pain in their souls when they failed to measure up once again.