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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Rupp, Joyce.
Your sorrow is my sorrow : hope and strength in times of suffering / by Joyce Rupp ; illustrations by Mary Southard.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-8245-2710-5
1. Sorrows of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Devotion to.
2. Suffering Religious aspects Catholic Church. 3. Consolation.
I. Title.
BX2161.5.S6 R87 1999
242.4 dc21 98-31344
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 04 03 02 01 00 99
For the members of my religious community
the Servants of Mary
in gratitude for our shared history
and our devotion to the Sorrows of Mary
and
For my mother
Hilda Wilberding Rupp
who has held many sorrows in her arms
while always remaining
a woman of hope and joy
CONTENTS
THE SEVEN SORROWS OF MARY
The First Sorrow: The Prophecy of Simeon
Guided by the Spirit, Simeon came into the temple; and when the parents brought in the child Jesus, to do for him what was customary under the law, Simeon took him in his arms and praised God....Then Simeon blessed them and said to his mother, Mary: This child is destined for the falling and the rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be opposed so that the inner thoughts of many will be revealed and a sword will pierce your own soul too. (Luke 2:2735)
The Second Sorrow: The Flight into Egypt
...an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, Get up, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you; for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him. Then Joseph got up, took the child and his mother by night, and went to Egypt, and remained there until the death of Herod. (Matt. 2:1315)
The Third Sorrow: The Loss of the Child Jesus in the Temple
When the festival was ended and they started to return, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem, but his parents did not know it. Assuming that he was in the group of travelers, they went a days journey. Then they started to look for him among their relatives and friends. When they did not find him, they returned to Jerusalem to search for him. After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers.... When his parents saw him they were astonished; and his mother said to him, Child, why have you treated us like this? Look, your father and I have been searching for you in great anxiety. He said to them, Why were you searching for me? Did you not know that I must be in my Fathers house? But they did not understand what he said to them. Then he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them. His mother treasured all these things in her heart. (Luke 2:4351)
The Fourth Sorrow: Mary Meets Jesus Carrying His Cross
A great number of the people followed him, and among them were women who were beating their breasts and wailing for him. (Luke 23:27)
The Fifth Sorrow: Mary Stands beneath the Cross of Jesus
Meanwhile, standing near the cross of Jesus were his mother, and his mothers sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing beside her, he said to his mother, Woman, here is your son. Then he said to the disciple, Here is your mother. (John 19:2527)
The Sixth Sorrow: Mary Receives the Dead Body of Jesus
Joseph of Arimathea, who was a disciple of Jesus, though a secret one because of his fear of the Jews, asked Pilate to let him take away the body of Jesus. Pilate gave him permission; so he came and removed his body. (John 19:38)
The Seventh Sorrow: Jesus Is Laid in the Tomb
Nicodemus, who had at first come to Jesus by night, also came, bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes, weighing about a hundred pounds. They took the body of Jesus and wrapped it with the spices in linen cloths, according to the burial custom of the Jews. Now there was a garden in the place where he was crucified, and in the garden there was a new tomb in which no one had ever been laid. And so, because it was the Jewish day of Preparation, and the tomb was nearby, they laid Jesus there. (John 19:3942)
PREFACE
It is the feast of Mary, Mother of Sorrows. I am on the coast of Maine, relishing two weeks of solitude for writing and reflection. Today I begin this book on the Seven Sorrows of Mary. I think it is more than a coincidence that two days ago, on the very day I arrived at this place of strong beauty, the owner of the cottage here was experiencing one of the sorrows of Mary.
Like Mary holding her dead son in her compassionate arms, Jo Betsy held her dying husband, Victor, in hers. She had lovingly and patiently accompanied him on the long journey of tests and treatments for brain cancer, finding hope and losing hope, over and over. On the day I came to her summer home in Maine, she kissed her beloved Victor one last goodbye in Austin, Texas.
Experiences of sorrow such as this have led me to write about the seven traditional sorrows of Mary of Nazareth. Whether or not anyone has any affiliation or devotion to the mother of Jesus, I have come to believe that everyone can find their struggles and sadness hidden in the folds of Marys robe of sorrows. Whether Mary is approached as a historical or symbolic figure of compassion, the heartaches and sorrows of her life contain a message of strength and encouragement for those who hurt.
I have personally found much hope and inspiration when I have discovered my own struggles reflected in the sorrows of Mary. I have felt comfort and kinship in knowing that Mary has been there before me. In this Mother of Sorrows I have found a woman of compassion and courage whose life experiences give me strength to weather my own tribulations.
It is with this conviction that I approach the seven sorrows of Mary. May you be given what you need for your own lifes journey as you find your sorrows reflected in those of Mary.
Penobscot Bay
Camden, Maine
September 15, 1997
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
The content of this book has been greatly shaped by the women in my community who contributed their wisdom in our monthly discussions and by their own written thoughts and feelings about the sorrows of Mary. I consider them co-authors of Your Sorrow Is My Sorrow. A few were unable to join us for these gatherings but still offered me suggestions and resources that assisted in my reflection on the seven sorrows of Mary. It is with deep gratitude that I thank each of these sisters of my Servite community:
Veronica Marie Balazs | Mary Anthony Matz |
Cecile Marie Bissonnette | Callista McNamara |
Clementia Dressel | Cleopha Murphy |
Eleanor Galt | Kathleen OSullivan |
Rosalie Helinsky | |
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