Crystal Victoria - The Importance of Divine Gifts

THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUR PURPOSE AND DIVINE GIFTS

Copyright 2015. Boss Lady Enterprises, LLC. All Rights Reserved

You have a purpose. You're life has a meaning. Do you know what it is? How many people know what they are on earth for or why they were born? How many want to know if you have a divine gift or superpower? How many know you have a purpose, but it costs money and you're trying to figure that part out?

7-8 years ago, I was in your seat, and what you're going through now. Frustrated and pissed off all of the time. I hated it, and to make matters worse I had a physically abusive crazy boyfriend giving me black eyes, of which my PO kept finding out about, and they started locking us both up. YES BOTH OF US. He wouldn't stop hitting on me and I wouldn't stay away from him. Partially, because I was trying to be a mother to his daughter, who didn't have anyone but me, him, and his dysfunctional family, which is another story I tell in my first book. I suggest you go check out that interesting story, also known as my life, its called "From the Streets to the Skies No Limits: Diary of a Boss Lady". The story is crazy, inspirational, sad, and funny, all at the same time. I used to be a crazy, but I'm better now! I didn't say I wasn't still crazy, just a little less crazy now, then I was back then. But I'm still crazy and now I've come to like it.

Today, you may not be where you want to be, but you are here for a reason. Some of our parents didn't tell us we were special and had a purpose for living. In fact they may have told you the opposite. Looking from where you are today, you may think you've messed up and there is no way that you'll ever do anything worthwhile, or that you're unworthy and undeserving of anything better than settling for the mediocre. You may not have much education, may not know a lot of things, and how to do them. It's okay. Some of you think you just want to get off drugs, get off probation, get a job, take care of your family, and get on with your life. That's okay too, that's good, and thats a start. However, those first two steps (getting off drugs, getting off probation) are not easy and I know, I've lived it.

Nowadays, I see my "craziness" as an opportunity, leadership, and ambition. I see my "craziness" as serenity, courage, wisdom, strength, determination, perseverance, and boldness. There was nothing really wrong with me and there is nothing all that wrong with you either. Or else you wouldn't be in this program. What was wrong was my thinking and how I reacted to life based on what I knew and had been conditioned to believe. That is all that is wrong with each of you. To know better is to do better. A verse says "For lack of knowledge people parish". Now I truly know and understand that, so I've committed myself to getting knowledge, being honest with myself, being open minded to change, and willing to do the work. It takes WORK.

Ive also noticed unhealthy relationships, sex, food, gambling, playing the victim and blaming others, not taking responsibility for your actions and wrongs, AND trying to make money to pay bills and in debt, are all vicious cycles. Not just drugs or being put in jail over and over again. We all have problems and we all react to them in different ways. Some people don't commit crimes and abuse drugs, when in a vicious cycle of life's problems. Everyone has their own way of dealing or coping with life and things that happen. This is where we go wrong, in our ways of dealing and coping, or reacting. I want to tell you a story called, Are You a Carrot, Egg, or Coffee Bean.

Are you a Carrot an Egg or a Coffee Bean?

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

(PAUSE, can you relate to that feeling?)

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word while the young woman was ranting and raving.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, Tell me, what DO YOU see?

Carrots, eggs, and coffee, the young granddaughter replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The granddaughter then asked, What does it mean, Grandmother?

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity boiling water but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

Which are you? she asked her granddaughter. When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you changed by your surroundings or do you bring life, flavor, to them?

ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?

Living right and enjoying life does not mean an easy life or less problems. Sobriety or recovery doesn't mean that the realities of life just go away and you can skip care-free and happy into the sunset. It comes with a price, and some of the price you'll pay is time, HARD WORK, and patience. The time is going to pass anyway, right? Youre having birthdays and get older every second. We all know that historically and realistically, things takes time. Nothing happens overnight, Rome wasn't built in a day and neither was America, it took time for you to get in this cycle and way of thinking, and it will take time to get out and on with your life. Why not start now? No need to be frantic and rushing trying to get things right on your death bed or when you're older. That is all too stressful and frustrating, and for some the end comes too soon. You never know. Time serves you and is the only way that you will become patient, develop the characteristics necessary for you to be stronger and manage your life, and notice opportunities to do great things that will ariseusually out of chaos. But it takes time!