Patti Normile - Overcoming-Jealousy-And-Envy Therapy

Overcoming-Jealousy-and-Envy Therapy Patti Normile Illustrations by R. W. Alley Foreword Chatting with a friend as I prepared to write this book about jealousy and envy brought his instant response: How can you write about that? You arent envious or jealous! Really?! I replied I proceeded to suggest to my friend how subtle envy and jealousy can be. Jealousy and envy do not have to have the rage of violence as when a teen wants another kids pricey gym shoes, or when a girlfriend lashes out because she cannot tolerate her boyfriend talking to another girl, or when a co-worker damages the reputation of one who got the job he desired. These emotions can, however, slowly degrade or erode our relationships, doing lasting damage to those we care about and, more importantly, to our own spirits and sense of self-worth. Early recognition helps stem the tide of envy or jealousy.

My hope is that this Elf-help Therapy book will help you discover how to weed jealousy and envy from your being to nurture growth toward maturity. Jealousy and envy distort the truth of what is essential for satisfaction or genuine happiness in life. Jealousy and envy are related, not twins, but born of the same emptiness within you. Envy is a selfish desire to have for yourself what another person possesses so that you can look or feel superior. Jealousy is that desire for another person to be deprived of something that you covet: a relationship, a quality or talent, a possession, leaving them with less. When you honestly confess to yourself or to another person, your feelings of jealousy or envy, you begin to heal their damaging effects in your life. Look inside yourself as in a mirror and ask: Whom do I envy? Why? Begin a conversation with yourselfperhaps by journaling about what you might do with those feelings. Take your personal inventory by recognizing where and when you experience jealousy or envy: is it based on appearance, relationships, possessions, or abilities? Discover a mantra for yourself to repeat when jealousy or envy re-enter your thoughts. Take your personal inventory by recognizing where and when you experience jealousy or envy: is it based on appearance, relationships, possessions, or abilities? Discover a mantra for yourself to repeat when jealousy or envy re-enter your thoughts.

Try, This moment is as perfect as it can be. Then begin again! Dont let envy or jealousy leave you stranded on an island of isolation. Build bridges for relationships by reaching out in friendship. Appreciation builds trust and friendship; jealousy and envy erode relationships. Ask a trusted friend what they treasure about you and believe! Envy-free relationships sail on the sea of trust, appreciation, and kindness. Offering a genuine compliment to the one with whom you experience envy or jealousy is the beginning of healing. Search for goodness in others and in yourself; then you will have less room for jealousy and envy. Explore what might truly set your heart at ease. Explore what might truly set your heart at ease.

Jealousy and envy eat at the heart of your being, creating dis-ease. Select a trait or ability in your life that you can develop to bring you satisfaction. What are you willing to do in terms of time, effort, and commitment to achieve what it is that you want? Sit with God. Share your feelings about jealousy and envy. LISTEN to what you hear in the silence of your heart. Forgiveness frees the one who forgives; you are called to forgive yourself when jealousy or envy creeps into your life. Maturity brings the ability to see what is truly enough in life.