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TV, radio, traffic, telephones, pagers - our minds are bombarded daily by constant noise and clutter. No wonder so many people find it increasingly difficult to listen and comprehend. Simple pieces of information such as names go in one ear and out the other. Poor listening may have tragic consequences such as the Challenger disaster and the Potomac River crash of 1982, or it can result in smaller tragedies such as lost promotions, stalled marriages, and troubled children.

Rebecca Shafir assures us that we can transform every aspect of our lives, simply by relearning how to listen. The Zen of Listening is grounded in the Zen concept of mindfulness, a simple yet profound way of learning how to filter our distractions and be totally in the present. Rather than a list of tricks, this book is an all-encompassing approach allowing you to transform your life.

Readers will be amazed at how simply learning to focus intently on a speaker improves the relationship, increases attention span, and helps develop negotiating skills. Learn the great barricades of misunderstanding, find out how to listen to ourselves, discover how to listen under stress, and boost our memory. This is a fun and practical guide filled with simple strategies to use immediately to enjoy our personal and professional lives to the fullest.

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THE ZEN OF LISTENING

MINDFUL COMMUNICATION IN THE AGE OF DISTRACTION

REBECCA Z. SHAFIR, M.A. CCC

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Copyright 2000, 2003 by Rebecca Z. Shafir

First Quest Edition 2000
Second Edition 2003
Sixth Printing 2011

Quest Books
Theosophical Publishing House
P. O. Box 270
Wheaton, IL 60187-0270

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Shafir, Rebecca Z.

The zen of listening: mindful communication in the age of distraction /
Rebecca Z. Shafir.

p. cm.

Quest books.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-0-8356-0826-8

1. Listening. I. Title.

BF323.L5 S53 2000

153.68dc2100-031759

ISBN for electronic edition, e-pub format: 978-0-8356-2031-4

Preface to the Second Edition

Since the publication of The Zen of Listening in 2000, numerous readers and students from all over the world have been kind enough to share their eureka! listening moments with me. It gives one hope to know that the so-called simple act of listening can engender profound personal change in transforming a business, reconnecting an adult child with his estranged parents, and saving marriages. And yet such benefits occur every day to people when they choose to listen to each other in mindfulness.

Take Evelyn, for example: a young, talented lawyer from Los Angeles who felt that the adversarial process of litigation was making her, in her words, confrontative not only in the courtroom, but in the bedroom as well. She became the object of disciplinary action at her law practice for client negligence. Shocked by this accusationafter all, she put in over sixty hours a week for the practiceshe sat through a kind but reprimanding lecture by a partner in the firm. Complaints included not returning phone calls; moreover, when she did, clients felt that she distanced herself from their pain. Associates felt she talked too much and listened too little. Unable to shake the do-or-die mentality when she was at home, Evelyn received similar feedback from her husband and friends. Her righteous, self-serving attitude was creating a gradual disconnection between her and her loved ones. She was becoming scattered and irritable. When her husband faced her with the prospect of divorce, Evelyn woke up.

She started taking yoga classes on the weekend. A friend in her classa fellow attorney who had traveled a similar pathgave her The Zen of Listening. Evelyn began introducing mindful minutes into her day. Over the next several days, she began to appreciate how her boss tended to his clients in a way that didnt leave him exhausted, frustrated, or angry when he went home. She noticed how listening more and allowing some silence helped her get a palpable sense of her clients real interests in solving their dilemmas. This insight led her to envision more creative and amicable solutions for them. As Evelyn recently reflected, Mindful listening put my life in balance.

Clifford, a forty-two-year-old single man who lives in Chicago, used to dread visiting his elderly parents. Without fail, after the usual small talk about work and the weather, his parents always seemed to sneak in some advice and suggestions for helping him find a nice girl, getting married, and raising a family. Clifford, through mindful listening practice, was able to put aside his anger; instead, he saw his parents nagging as their way of helping him find happiness in the only way they knew how. Rather than storm out of the house as he used to, leaving behind bad feelings, Clifford learned to set aside his defensiveness and accept his parents concern for him. He listened in mindfulness and thanked them for their suggestions. Delighted that they had been heard, his parents were able to hear Cliffords side. Even if they could not accept his life choices, they agreed that preserving their relationship was more important.

Daniel, a minister from Adelaide, Australia, began teaching mindful listening in his marriage counseling sessions. Learning to listen is the first rule of love, he noted to me. Listening to oneself helps one make the right choices. Without whole-hearted, selfless listening to your spouse, there is no respect. And without respect, there is no happiness in marriage. The hardest part was getting these young adults to sit quietly and think about someone else besides himself or herself. Daniel was able to accomplish this aim by bringing other adults into the sessionspeople who were either in the same age group as his young congregants or slightly olderto share their marital problems and regrets. These counseling sessions grew larger and became more popular. Before you knew it, people were bringing food and making new friends.... Helping others through tough times: thats what listening is all about.

I also want to share a personal story with you that strikes me as an apt metaphor for the process of mindful listening. Some of my clients and I recently took a trip to a postcard-perfect uninhabited isle in the Caribbean. Deemed a must-visit destination on our travel map, the island with its captivating beauty seemed designed to lull visitors into a hypnotic state of tranquility.

Once we had gotten past the confectioners sugar-like sandy beaches, our guide led us through a tropical palm forest dripping overhead with vines of succulent orange flowers. Tiny painted lizards and gekkos scurried across the not-so-well beaten path, which turned quickly into a treacherously steep trail lined with wild cacti. My hitherto dreamy state of consciousness began to dissipate, especially upon hearing the distant sound of a rhythmic, low, thunderous booma curious intrusion to the sweet trills of the little purple birds that had welcomed us to this paradise just minutes ago. We ascended the narrow hilly path, treading carefully upon the slippery rocks and linking hands for support on the steeper parts. Clearly, this hike required more climbing traction than my weatherbeaten flip-flops could provide. Wishing I had better prepared myself for the terrain, I leaned against a prickly cactus tree, removed the sandals, and caught up with the group. My arms and back did not emerge from the prickly encounter unscathed.

Several minutes later, as we neared the top, the thunderous beats pulsed even louder. When we reached the precipice, our conga line came to a halt. Our guide yelled, Hold on... and look

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