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Nigel Latta - How to Have Kids and Stay Sane

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Following the success of his first parenting book, Before Your Kids Drive You Crazy, Read this! writer, clinical psychologist and family therapist Nigel Latta has gone on to become a regular columnist for Littlies magazine and has a regular patenting spot on National Radio each week. In great demand as a public speaker, Nigel has condensed his key tips and added some more of his trademark ironic humor to deliver the good news in manageable bites for harassed parents in danger of exploding. And because a spoon full of sugar always helps the medicine go down and we all know laughter is the best medicine, the book has been illustrated by the inimitable cartoonist Daryl Crimp, another laid back father with two young children. together these no nonsense dads ladle out the laughs in generous helpings to help battle-weary parents cope with the trials and traumas of living with your little darlings 24/7and not going totally insane.Packaged in an attractive two-colour gift format, it will be the perfect safety valve for anyone you know who lives with little people . . . and is starting to look a little wild around the eyes!

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Yeah well good luck with that When my son was born I made a brief attempt at - photo 1

Yeah, well, good luck with that.

When my son was born I made a brief attempt at being a good parent. Im a professional, a Clinical Psychologist, and Id been working with families for over a decade by then. I thought it was going to be easy. So off I set, convinced that Id be a very good parent. I was educated in the ways of children. Id spent years being paid to tell other people how to raise their kids. I was qualified, and motivated, how hard could it be?

I tried hard to be a good parent, damn hard, and to my credit almost made two weeks.

The crunch came one afternoon when my wife was going out for a couple of hours to pretend she was still a real person and still had a life. Despite her misgivings, I was left in charge, pretty much by default because there was no one else left. There were lists covering every eventuality from puking to tsunamis. It was supposed to be quality time for me and the boy. That was the plan anyway. To be fair we had at least a good 20 minutes of quality time. I made stupid faces, he made odd facial expressions (mostly I suspect from wind) and that was OK for a while. Then the novelty of quality time wore off. Theres only so much quality time you can have with someone who cant control their bowels.

The next step, obviously, was the television. Wed bought one of those Mozart videos for babies with the interesting visuals that are supposed to make your kids brain grow. I knew it was complete nonsense, but if we hadnt and hed turned out to be a bit of a thicky then Id have never heard the end of it from his mother. We watched it for about 10 minutes. It was dull. Very dull. Then it moved beyond dull into the realms of utter tedium, and finally into the no mans land of just plain annoying.

And heres where we reached the crunch point, my boy and me, because I knew a good parent would soldier on. A good parent would sit and watch the whole thing whilst saying the colours out loud and being suitably encouraging. A good parent would sing, and count, and jiggle. A good parent would STIMULATE their precious little ones BRAIN DEVELOPMENT.

We sat there for a bit, me and my boy. I knew that my next step was important. Whatever I did next would set the tone for the whole parenting experience.

Everything went very quiet.

Finally, after thinking it all through, after reflecting on all that Id learned about infant development and neonatal neurobiology, and all that Id learned from over a decade of working with all kinds of families, I looked down at my infant son whose life and psychological wellbeing his mother had entrusted to me. This would be my defining moment as a parent. This was where I would discover what kind of parent I really was.

Little man, I said, quietly, my voice tender, filled with the soft warm tones of the wise old father, shall we watch Arnie in Terminator 2 instead of this stupid baby crap?

He was as keen as I was, honestly.

So we ditched the alleged brain development nonsense and watched the Governor - photo 2

So we ditched the alleged brain development nonsense and watched the Governor of California blow shit up instead. It was quality time in the truest sense of the word. My, how we bonded.

From that moment on I promised to forget all that good parent nonsense and just be a plain old parent instead. My parents had just been plain old parents and that seemed to go pretty well for me and my brothers and sister. None of us had died and no one lost an eye, although having said that I do have a scar on my knee from falling off a bike and I also nearly cut off my little brothers finger in a gold sluicing machine. Long story. It should be noted, however, that neither of these two misfortunes was my parents fault.

If you try and be a good parent you will go mad, die, or simply turn into a painfully boring person. The rest of us will find you very annoying. You will show off little Tarquins extraordinary ability to poke out his tongue, and we will secretly wish youd just shut up. We will look at you and, even though we will be smiling and nodding, secretly we will be thinking that you are just a big fat pain in the arse.

We will feel sorry for your children.

Good parents, in the modern sense of the phrase, are just plain painful. So instead of telling you a hundred different ways to become one of the Stepford parents, and therefore a hundred different ways to feel guilty and inadequate, this book gives you the skinny on how to be a plain old parent.

Trust me, its better this way.

Ever get that feeling? You know the one I mean: when youre so angry with your kids that you can actually feel the blood throbbing in the major arteries that supply your brain? This is an alarming sensation because you know that it is probably the kind of feeling people get just before their brain actually bursts and squirts out their ears as they collapse lifeless to the ground.

This feeling is the first time you realize your children have the power to kill you out of sheer, unadulterated, unsustainable frustration. This is the first time it dawns on you that actually you might be the one who doesnt make it.

Having said that, on a bad day the idea of instant death from brain implosion might not seem like such a bad thing.

They wind us up, our little ones. We love them, but oh how they wind us up sometimes. Its worse if there are two. If there are two, then youre in real trouble brain-wise because they hunt in packs. If there are two, then they will stand one each side and let you have a double dose. It might be whining, it might be endless questions, it could just be inane little-kid banter. Whatever it is, you can be sure that two is definitely worse than one.

When you feel that pounding you have to act because if you dont something - photo 3

When you feel that pounding, you have to act, because if you dont something important probably will burst and then you will die. Dying should always be your last option. You might need to walk away, you might need to stash the kids in their rooms for some time out, you might need to go sit in the bathroom with the door locked, you might even need to go to some higher internal plane of existence.

Whatever you do, just get the hell out before your head bursts.

When the pounding finally subsides, and it will, then fix a slightly desperate smile on your face and get back out there. You have no choice, because its bad form to simply hide in the bathroom for their entire childhood. Hiding in the bathroom is cheating. After a while people are going to start to ask questions. Just wait till you no longer have the uncomfortable sensation of feeling the arteries in your head straining under the intense pressure of barely suppressed rage, then fix the smile to your face with sticky tape, and get back out there.

It happens to us all, make no mistake about it.

Your most important goal should be to get through the moment without your brain exploding. Then all you have to do is get through the next 20 or so years, and you should be fine. Simple, really.

Heres a paradox for you, a big un. This is a book for parents advice, wisdom, wit and the like and one of the most important things I have to tell you is this: Beware experts. Im no expert; 16 years of working with all kinds of families and having two kids of my own has convinced me of that. The truth is that no ones an expert. Im not playing some kind of slightly nauseating all-you-need-is-love humility card here, I really mean it. I work with some of the hardest kids around, and have met some of the smartest people around, and let me tell you something: we are

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