Christopher L. Heuertz - The Enneagram of Belonging: A Compassionate Journey of Self-Acceptance

PRAISE FORTHE ENNEAGRAM OF BELONGING

The Enneagram of Belonging is truly a pathway to radical self-compassion. As you dive into this book, you will begin the process of life-change that leads to accepting ourselves, loving others, and finding the connection we crave.

Father Richard Rohr, OFM, author of Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

Chris is more than an expert in the world of the Enneagram. He has lived and breathed its wisdom for decades. Here, in an approachable way, he draws us into deeper realms of personal association and application by shining fresh light on this ancient understanding of human behavior.

Kyle Korver, NBA veteran

Heuertz is the most compassionate, fresh, and thoughtful voice in the Enneagram. A true luminary. The Enneagram of Belonging, his finest work to date, so beautifully reminds us that the Enneagram, at its very best, is a map to better loving ourselves and others. What a gift.

Ryan ONeal, Sleeping At Last

Chris has lived with the teachings and traditional language of the Enneagram long enough to integrate and embody its insights, and he has found creative new ways to explain them to newcomers and to those familiar with the system. The Enneagram of Belonging is essential reading!

Russ Hudson, coauthor of The Wisdom of the Enneagram

In his earlier bestselling The Sacred Enneagram, Chris showed us that the Enneagram is not just a map of personality but a map of the archetypes of soul. In The Enneagram of Belonging, Chris reveals his gifts not just as a mapmaker but as a soul-archaeologist. If you long to more deeply belongfirst and foremost to yourselfyou will want to grab a figurative shovel and let Chris compassionately companion you as you dig up the buried parts of your True Self.

Nhin Vng, JD, MDiv, founder of Evolving Enneagram

I have found the Enneagram a helpful tool in enabling me to better understand not only my own strengths and weaknesses but those of others as well. Chris Heuertzs new book invites us to use the Enneagram to grow in compassion for our own complicated selves and, therefore, love ourselves more and allow God to encounter us in our limitless complexity.

James Martin, SJ, author of The Jesuit Guide to(Almost) Everything and Becoming Who You Are

The Enneagram of Belonging is a book that was everything I didnt know I needed to accept myself wholly and to live into my own goodness. Chriss voice comes through as a dear friend, chatting over coffee and guiding me through my own walls, uncovering places I needed to see to better hope for the best in myself and those around me.

Sally Kang, musician in Run River North

In The Enneagram of Belonging Chris Heuertz has successfully distilled the essence, research, and finding of all schools of the Enneagram into a highly readable and balanced book. Bravo! If I had to name one book that offers a most complete and thorough portrait on the subject of the Enneagram of Personality, I would choose this one.

Jack Labanauskas, editor and publisher of Enneagram Monthly

OTHER BOOKS BY CHRISTOPHER L. HEUERTZ

Simple Spirituality:

Learning to See God in a Broken World

Friendship at the Margins:

Discovering Mutuality in Service and Mission

Unexpected Gifts:

Discovering the Way of Community

The Sacred Enneagram:

Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth

The Sacred Enneagram Workbook:

Mapping Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth

The Enneagram of Belonging Workbook:

Mapping Your Unique Path to Self-Acceptance

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The Enneagram of Belonging

Copyright 2020 by Christopher L. Heuertz

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To the EnneaCurious, may you continue

wading through the murky waters of this

tradition to bring forth its mysteries.

Contents

1. PART I:
   Going Deeper into the Enneagram of Personality
   1. 1. Show Me a Dragon:
      Finding the Courage to Face Our Shadow
   2. 2. Transcending Type:
      The Nature of Type, the Limits of Type, and Living in True Freedom
   3. 3. Introducing the Kidlife Crisis:
      How Compassion Helps Us Reimagine the Childhood Wounds
   4. 4. Practicing Compassion toward Our Type:
      A Fresh Take on the Origins of Personality
   5. 5. The Dynamic Movement of the Enneagram:
      Wing Theories and the Meaning of the Crisscrossing Lines
2. PART II:
   Bringing Our Thinking Center Back to Belonging
   1. 6. The First Truth We Tell Ourselves:
      Exploring the Holy Ideas
   2. 7. Making Peace with Our Fixations:
      The Counterforce of the Holy Ideas
3. PART III:
   Bringing Our Feeling Center Back to Belonging
   1. 8. Gifts of the Heart:
      Exploring the Virtues
   2. 9. Making Peace with the Passions:
      The Counterforce of the Virtues
4. PART IV:
   Bringing Our Body Center Back to Belonging
   1. 10. Body Intelligence:
      Exploring the Nine Faces of the Instincts

T his is a book about dragons. Dragons that deliver messages, dragons that protect treasures, and dragons that need to be slain.

While working on this book Ive had to face my own dragons. It has not been an easy journey but one well worth it. And I imagine if youre searching for the courage to welcome and face your own dragons, then a little volume like this serves as the perfect guide.

Ive faced these dragons during late nights and early mornings; at writing retreats in Berlin, Mxico City, and Santa Fe; and while being warmed by more pots of Ethiopian pour-over coffee than I would want to count. Ive encountered these dragons during battle after battle of wills with my sweet dog Basil, as if he were trying to Jedi-Mind-Trick me into a walk to the park where he likes to chase bunnies instead of letting me slug away at my own inner work in peace. Facing these dragons has been one of the most enthralling inner journeys Ive undertaken. Its also been one of the most demanding.