Sam Almond - How to Find a Wife and Then Have a Happy Marriage

By Sam Almond

Published by New Generation Publishing in 2013

Copyright Sam Almond 2013

First Edition

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I DEDICATE THIS BOOK TO MY WIFE, HAZEL, WHO GAMELY SUFFERS WHILE I TRADE AND WRITE

In ancient Greece, tossing an apple to a girl was a traditional proposal of marriage. Catching it meant she accepted.

Job done you might say. Now where can I buy some apples?

Although ancient Greece may have been an ideal place to live, weve all moved on and the game has become a tad more difficult - to say the least.

Having a desire to find your perfect partner is a natural and noble aim, and happily, your future wife is no doubt out there, somewhere, waiting for a guy just like you.

She is perfect for you, and will make you supremely contented and all your life complete.

And theres more good news - there are quite a few of them, all a little different, but all with mateability qualities that you will want.

Thats the good news, for now. And theres no bad news, only a few hiccups, hurdles and stumbling blocks to deal with, which I believe are all surmountable.

Will one of these super gals knock on your door tomorrow morning, imploring you, with all your talents, to marry them ASAP and live happily ever after?

Unless a herd of pigs can be seen aloft, this may not occur. Hence, youve got activity to do, plans to form, subtleties to unfold and impressions to make.

Lets get on with it.

Marriage is a serious undertaking, very serious indeed.

Successfully achieved, it makes your life complete and totally satisfying. So, deciding that you want to get married, and to a mate that will be good for you, the task should be approached with full and careful intent and with the absolute aim of making the right and sensible choice.

Your plan is therefore for a future union, with all that that entails. Two together are always better than one. Willing compromises and sacrifices will be needed and if you are not totally prepared to make them, the hunt could be long and difficult.

Analyse yourself and know your strengths and weaknesses, which we all have. Play to your strengths and, perhaps, tidy up those weaknesses.

In any mating game, it is always advisable, and these really are the basic rules, to look and act your best. Dress well and be cleanly turned out. If your finger nails are dirty or hair unkempt, this could be a first turn off for any female.

Never boast about your knowledge, possessions, earnings, sporting prowess, sexual conquests, or anything else. The girl, if she is at all interested in you, will find all that out for herself in her own good time.

Just be yourself - relaxed, slightly modest, somewhat humorous, a little mysterious, engagingly open and honest.

As the old saying goes, Softly, softly, catchee monkey.

At about the age of thirty two, and single, I realised a few home truths about myself, and importantly, where my life was going. My life was virtually the same pattern as when I was eighteen, the structure was getting stale, and I was, in effect, rudderless.

It didnt take too long to see that marriage was the answer; a mate, a confidant, a helper, a provider of ready cooked meals, a source for kids and ready sex on tap whenever.

Also, all my pals and girlfriends of the past had got married and I had already started to feel the semi forgotten outsider.

A long trail of finding the right girl then ensued for the next seven years, arduous and time consuming, towards my set goal of marriage.

Blind dates, introductions, chancy date making of all types sort of littered my rigorous courting process and history.

Along this rocky path there was one proposal turned down, for financial reasons only, that over time proved not to be sensible. I was also engaged, which fell through justifiably, as, beyond physical attraction (more on that subject later), we were just not properly suitable for each other.

As you get older, one gets more critical and choosy. But at last Hazel came into my life, through an introduction no less, and Bingo (it can be better than winning the lottery), my life was transformed for good.

I was thirty nine when I got married and as I write this forty seven years later, I have no regrets and every satisfaction that I did the right thing and kept on trying.

Everything gets better with practice, and it became a partial reason for writing this book. Just maybe I can unfold some winning angles and tips.

During my many days of wife searching I was given a lot of advice. The one that was best and really did seem worthwhile was that I should take three months off work on, say, 1st January and go to a smart well known hotel in a prominent ski resort. I should take up skiing (it is better of course if you know how to ski) and do it every day if possible. As your time there goes by, you get super fit, look suntanned and at your best, and importantly, are relaxed with plenty of leisure time on your hands. The icing on the cake is that every week a new selection of females, similarly enjoying the ski experience, stay at your desirable hotel, available and in holiday mode. You are nicely ready, and in peak condition.

A great idea I thought, but for me and probably nearly everyone else, impracticable and just a pleasant dream.

But the underlying theory is a good one. Meet if you can, even on a small holiday, females staying at your hotel or holiday complex. In choosing the same place they probably have similar tastes and outlooks. Going a stage further, consider all venue opportunities so that you can meet someone with at least something in common.

Your place of work, bars and clubs may be the first area you may think of for meeting females and they should be carefully and tactfully explored. Other areas, and possibly better for a same wavelength fit is to go to somewhere that you like and enjoy, where females going there have similar likings. It could be a local Health Club, a Golf or Tennis club, a Karate club, Yoga classes, a rambling club or an amateur acting club or organisation. Evening classes of all sorts make up a list that is long and varied.

Perhaps not to be ignored entirely is your religious affiliation. Churches, mosques, synagogues and other temples all have social programmes that could be worth exploring, apart from actual praying attendance pretty girls do go!

In summary, put yourself about and practise how to speak off the cuff to a new female. It can be surprising how a cheery smiling hello can be an easy start to a new friendship. Females expect you and very often want you to break the ice. They are looking for a mate as well!