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Ozyegin, Gul, 1955
New desires, new selves : sex, love, and piety among Turkish youth / Gul Ozyegin.
pages cm Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-0-8147-6234-9 (cl : alk. paper) ISBN 978-1-4798-5381-6 (pb : alk. paper)
1.YouthTurkeySocial conditions. 2. YouthSexual behaviorTurkey. 3. YouthReligious lifeTurkey. I. Title.
HQ799.T9O99 2015
305.23509561dc23 2015007383
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To those brave parents in Turkey who lovingly embrace their offsprings nonpatriarchal desires and struggles to enact new gender and sexual identities.
Contents
Passive Resistance and Class in Lesbian Self-Making: Alevs Story
Vulnerable Masculinity and Self-Transformation: Alis Story
Becoming a Sade Pious Woman in a Secular Society: Aknurs Story
The Classless Penis
I most wish to acknowledge the anonymous subjects of this book, whose narratives, perspectives, conduct, and intimate experiences appear in these pages. Without them this book simply could not have been written. My profound thanks go to them for the trust, generous cooperation, and openness with which they accepted my inquiries. I tried to treat their stories with the utmost care and respect, as they deserve, but the retelling, with all the caveats that framing, selection, and interpretation entail, is mine.
I thank the Netherlands Institute for Advanced Studies in Humanities and Social Sciences for a fellowship during the academic year 20062007, which provided freedom to develop and work on the book. The research and the book were also supported by two research leaves from Arts and Sciences at the College of William and Mary. I wish to thank Social Identities and the European Journal of Womens Studies for their permission to publish in revised and expanded form portions of the articles Reading the Closet through Connectivity (Social Identities 8.2: 2022) and Virginal Faades: Sexual Freedom and Guilt among Young Turkish Women (European Journal of Womens Studies 16.2: 10323).
Many people in Istanbul, too numerous to name, contributed to the research for this book. Especially, I want to thank those colleagues and friends who often went beyond the call of friendship in supporting my work and providing such a stimulating environment in which to conduct research: Ferhunde zbay and Nkhet Sirman and, above all, my research assistantsCenk zbay, Arzu nal, and Umut Sar, who were of invaluable help in providing research assistance and reshaping the research design with their critical feedback. My former students Erin Caro and Laura Grandy at the College of William and Mary gave me research and editing assistance at different stages. My special thanks to them and to the following friends, mentors, and colleagues for reading the earlier drafts of the chapters and offering excellent, thoughtful suggestions for improvement: Kathy Davis, Helma Lutz on chapter 1, Sherri Grasmuck, Kay Jenkins, Magali Larson, Dee Royster and Aye Saktanber on chapter 3, and Pierrette Hondagneu-Sotelo on chapter 4. I am also grateful to Ilene Kalish, who offered unwavering support for this project from the beginning. My deep appreciation goes to Asl Saktanber, the talented illustrator of the book cover, who has not read the book yet, but perfectly understood the gist of it to create a remarkable original artwork.
My close friends Nancy Gray and Sibel Zandi-Sayek, scholars in divergent fields, always engagingly listened to me and asked good questions throughout the process. I give thanks to them and to Aye Saktanber for lending passionate support and reminding me that what I was writing about was important and worthwhile. One friend and sister book writer in particular, Carla Freeman, came into my life thirty years ago and has been inspiring me ever since. Our deep friendship and intellectual companionship continues to delight me. Our intensive engagement with one anothers work has created a less lonely context that has nurtured this book in important ways. With her discerning questions she helped me enourmously to sharpen my ideas and pointed out what needed further elucidation. I am immeasurably grateful to Carla.
I have been writing this book, in one way or another, for a long time during which both the Turkish and American sides of my family grew. Thanks to the Weber clan, John, Joe, Kim, and Bobbi, I have four wonderful grandkids: Evelyn, Evan, Zack, and Kaleb. My nephews in TurkeyPayda, Yeliz, Mert, and zgegave me the gift of becoming a great-aunt to lovely Efe, Ada, and Bade. They all add great joy to my life. My family in Turkey has provided a central emotional underpinning to this project. I am grateful beyond measure for my sisters, Oya zda, Yasemin Erbil, and Fato Mersin, for their example of female strength, connectivity, and compassion. I thank them for their unconditional love, endless nurturance and encouragement, and their pride in me. My brother, Murat Bozdemir, and my brothers-in-law, Celal Erbil and Selahattin Mersin, have been true loving supporters. I thank them and my nephews, Payda Mersin, Mert zda, Ender Mersin, and Ula Bozdemir, for the optimism they inspire in me that women and girls in Turkey are not alone in their fight against patriarchy.
I owe special thanks to John Weber, who, besides sharing my love for my home country and its people, supported me in emotional and practical ways. He made frequent appearances in my home office to deliver caffeine intake and fruit plates and provided many other forms of infrastructural help that he called butlering. I am glad that long hours in my writing cave in the pursuit of my passion provided ample distractions for him to pursue his own passion of golf more intensely.
Finally, this book would have been radically different without the meticulous editing of Elizabeth Ferris, my former student, who through her sensitive inquiries challenged me to make the book more readable. I deeply thank her for her brilliant and close intellectual companionship.