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Simple, Powerful Techniques that Make Relationships Work

Why wont my husband ever express his feelings?
Why wont my wife listen?
Why is my sister such a control freak?
Why does my ex act like such a total jerk?
Whats wrong with people?
We all have someone we cant get along withwhether its a friend or colleague who complains constantly, a relentlessly critical boss, an obnoxious neighbor, a teenager who pouts and slams doors (all the while insisting shes not upset), or maybe a loving, but irritating spouse.
In his bestselling book, Feeling Good, Dr. David Burns introduced Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, a clinically proven, drug-free therapy that has revolutionized the treatment of clinical depression throughout the world. Now, in Feeling Good Together, he presents Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy, a radical new approach that will help you transform troubled, conflicted relationships into successful, happy ones.
Dr. Burns method for improving these relationships is easy and surprisingly effective. In Feeling Good Together, youll learn:
How to stop pointing fingers at everyone else and start looking at yourself.
How to pinpoint the exact cause of the problem with any person youre not getting along with.
How to solve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.
Based on twenty-five years of clinical experience and groundbreaking research on more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together presents an entirely new theory of why we have so much trouble getting along with each other. The book is filled with helpful examples and brilliant, user-friendly tools such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Relationship Journal, the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more, so you can enjoy far more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

You deserve rewarding, intimate relationships. Feeling Good Together will show you how.

David D. Burns M.D.: author's other books


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Also by David D Burns MD Feeling Good The New Mood Therapy Intimate - photo 1

Also by David D. Burns, MD:

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

Intimate Connections

The Feeling Good Handbook

Ten Days to Self-Esteem

Ten Days to Self-Esteem: The Leader's Manual

When Panic Attacks

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The ideas and techniques in this book are not intended as a substitute for consultation or treatment with a qualified mental health professional. The names and identities of the people in this book have been disguised extensively, and any resemblance to any person, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

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Part One:

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Part Two:

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Chapter 11

Chapter 12

Chapter 13

Chapter 14

Chapter 15

Chapter 16

Chapter 17

Chapter 18

Part Four:

Chapter 19

Chapter 20

Chapter 21

Part Five:

Chapter 22

Chapter 23

Chapter 24

Chapter 25

Chapter 26

Chapter 27

Part Six:

Chapter 28

Chapter 29

Chapter 30

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I would like to thank my daughter, Signe Burns, who was my editor in chief for this book. Signe's contributions were brilliant and extensive. Working with my daughter on this project has been absolutely wonderful!

Several other editors have also helped me tremendously along the way, including Amy Hertz, Marc Haeringer, and Sarah Manges. I am deeply indebted to all of them. Finally, I would like to thank my editor at Broadway Books, Rebecca Cole. Wow! Your contributions were awesome!

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T roubled relationships hurt. Most of us base our feelings of self-worth, at least in part, on our relationships with other people. It's no fun to argue or fight with someone you care about. Even a feud with someone you don't care about can eat away at you and rob you of energy and joy.

If you're not getting along with someone, I've got some good news for you: I can show you how to develop a far more rewarding relationship with that person. It makes no difference whether the person you've been battling is your spouse, sibling, parent, neighbor, or friend, or even a complete stranger. No matter who it is, I can show you how to transform feelings of frustration and resentment into warmth and trust, and it can happen much faster than you think. In fact, sometimes it only takes a few minutes.

However, it will require some hard work on your part, and you may have to look at some things about yourself that you didn't want to see. The path to intimacy is nearly always painful. If you can muster up some courage and humility, and you're willing to roll up your sleeves and do the work, I can show you something truly amazing something that will change your life.

David D. Burns, MD

Adjunct Clinical Professor Emeritus, Department of Psychiatry
and Behavioral Sciences, Stanford University School of Medicine

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What the Experts Say W e all want friendly rewarding relationships with other - photo 7
What the Experts Say

W e all want friendly, rewarding relationships with other people, but we often end up with the exact oppositehostility, bitterness, and distrust. Why is this? Why can't we all just get along?

There are two competing theories. Most experts endorse the deficit theory. According to this theory, we can't get along because we don't know how. In other words, we fight because we lack the skills we need to solve the problems in our relationships. When we were growing up, we learned reading, writing, and arithmetic, but there weren't any classes on how to communicate or solve relationship problems.

Other experts believe that we can't get along because we don't really want to. This is called the motivational theory. In other words, we fight because we lack the motivation to get close to the people we're at odds with. We end up embroiled in hostility and conflict because the battle is rewarding.

The Deficit Theory

Most mental health professionals, including clinicians and researchers, endorse the deficit theory. They're convinced that we wage war simply because we don't know how to make love. We desperately want loving, satisfying relationships but lack the skills we need to develop them.

Of course, different experts have different ideas about what the most important interpersonal skill deficits are. Behavior therapists, for example, believe that our problems with getting along result from a lack of communication and problem-solving skills. So when someone criticizes us, we may get defensive when we should be listening. We may pout and put the other person down instead of sharing our feelings openly, or we may resort to nagging and coercion in order to get our way. We don't use systematic negotiation or problem-solving skills, so the tensions escalate.

A related theory attributes relationship conflict to the idea that men and women are inherently different. This theory was popularized by Deborah Tannen in her best selling book You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation and by John Gray in his bestselling book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. These authors argue that men and women can't get along because they use language so differently. The idea is that women use language to express feelings, whereas men use language to solve problems. So when a woman tells her husband that she's upset, he may automatically try to help her with the problem that's bugging her because that's how his brain is wired. But she simply wants him to listen and acknowledge how she feels, so she gets more upset when he tries to help her. They both end up feeling frustrated and misunderstood. You may have observed this pattern in yourself and someone you're not getting along with, such as your spouse.

Cognitive therapists have a different idea about the deficits that lead to relationship problems. They emphasize that all of our feelings result from our thoughts and attitudes, or cognitions. In other words, the things other people dolike being critical or rudely cutting in front of us in trafficdon't actually upset us. Instead, we get upset because of the way we think about these events.

This theory may resonate with your personal experience. When you're mad at someone, you may have noticed that your mind is flooded with negative thoughts. You tell yourself, He's such a jerk! He only cares about himself. He

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