Dawn French - Dear Fatty

With a sharp eye for comic detail and wicked ear for the absurdities of life, Dawn French shows just how an RAF girl from the west country with dreams of becoming a ballerina/air hostess/bridesmaid rose to be one of the best loved comedy actresses of our time.

Here Dawn French shares her story, and in particular with her father who committed suicide when she was nineteen years old. She invites us into her most personal relationships with, among others, her mum and dad, her husband, her daughter and her friend Jennifer.

Dawn reveals the people, experiences and obsessions that have influenced her and that helped shape her comedy creations including kissing, dogs, grandmas, David Cassidy, teenage angst, school, stealing, Madonna and not forgetting chocolate. She is as open about her fears and sorrows as she is about her delights and joys, and for the first time shares the experience of losing her beloved dad and later finding a tip-topmost chap in Lenny Henry.

From raging about class, celebrity and bullying to describing the highs and lows of motherhood and friendship, Dear Fatty reveals the surprising life behind the smile.

Dawn French is presently fifty-one years old and almost entirely spherical. She trained as a teacher at the Central School of Speech and Drama but luckily for the kids at Parliament Hill School, she left teaching in 1981 to join the Comic Strip team with whom she has produced and appeared in over twenty films. Dawn made six series and various specials of sketch based hilariosity with another girl called Jennifer Saunders. She has done lots of other telly including Murder Most Horrid, The Vicar Of Dibley, Wild West, Jam and Jerusalem and Lark Rise to Candleford. She also does acting in plays sometimes.

She is married to a man called Len and has a daughter called Bill. She is alive and lives in Cornwall. This is the first book she has ever written or read.

Hoc Feci

For
Michelle Lillicrap
19682008
Stephen Handy
19722008
Marjorie Emily French ne Berry
1908Forever

SMALLER

lyrics by

Alison Moyet

Taken from the album The Turn

I used to dance to the drum in your chest

My feet on your feet, my head at your breast

You gave me a tune and I carry it still

And I promise my darling, that I ever will.

HELLO. I HAVE decided to think of this book as a memoir rather than an autobiography. As I understand it, the latter means that I have to be precise about chronology and touch on all aspects of my quite-dull-in-parts life. I think that would be quite dull because in quite a lot of parts my life has indeed been quite dull. You wouldnt want to read about those bits, believe me. Those bits would mainly be about puddings Ive enjoyed and when Ive set the washing machine on the wrong cycle and my quest for comfortable shoes, and the time I put a gun in a kittens mouth. You dont want to know about that ol faffle. So, Ive decided instead to concentrate on those memories that are especially important or vivid to me. The parts of my life I can still remember the taste and feel and smell of. Otherwise wed be here all day and Im hoping you can be finished by lunchtime sos you can have a nap and watch Loose Women. (Are they really loose? Ive seen no evidence thus far and Ive watched a lot Unless, of course, the looseness is under the table oh dear.)

Heres what Ive learned writing this book. Memory doesnt begin with or end in what happened. In fact, I dont think it ends at all; it goes on changing, playing a kind of hide-and-seek with our minds. Some of my memories are nearly 50 years old now and sometimes the startling clarity of them makes me doubt their reality. Do all of the people I write to in these pages remember what I remember? My dad, mum, brother, daughter, friends , lovers and so on? I am lucky that Ive kept diaries for large parts of my life on which I can anchor many of these memories. Even so, most of my diary-keeping is pure organisation and, annoyingly, doesnt tend to remind me of my true emotions at any particular juncture. For that I must rely on my rapidly deteriorating grey matter, and a lot of investigative chatter with my nearest and dearest. I shouldnt really be so surprised by the alarmingly speedy erosion of my memory, after all, my waistline has disappeared entirely. Like wearing a nappy or the Lost City of Atlantis, my waist is now only a vague memory or may even just be an ancient myth for all I know.

So, its in this spirit of reminiscence that I offer you this memoir of my life. My life so far, that is. To this end, I have decided to tell my story through letters, because this way, I can address my life to the people Ive actually lived it with. Its not that I dont want to tell it directly to you, its more that I know these people well, and hopefully, by the end, you might know me well too. I do hope you enjoy it. If you do, feel free to tell all your friends. If not, please replace the book neatly where you found it, and if youre in a residential area, be thoughtful, and leave quietly. Thank you.

SO, YOURE STILL dead. Its been 31 years and every day I have to remind myself of that fact, and every day I am shocked.

You and I only had 19 years together, and so when I think of you, I am still 19 and you are What age were you? To me, you were just the right age for a dad. Old enough to be clever and young enough to be handsome. Probably about the age I am now. Blimey, thats weird. I will soon be older than you ever got to be. Thats not right somehow. A parent is supposed to be older at all times. The natural form is, I get older and you get just old. Then, and only then, should you be permitted to die. Even that should happen in front of the telly after a bowl of stew and a cuddle up with your missus. Not the way you died. Not like that.

Im not 19 any more, Dad, and so many things have happened that you havent known, so I have decided to write this book for you. I want to remember our time together and I want to tell you about lots of stuff since. So far, its been better than expected

IM HAVING TROUBLE remembering my very first memory. Each time I try I think Im stealing other peoples first memories that Ive either read or been told of. I cant remember looking out of my pram at an adoring mother, I cant remember being shocked at the first sight of my own pudgy baby fingers, I cant remember the oddly delightful feeling of a nappy full of hot new poo. (Actually, on second thoughts, I can, but that came years later!)

There is something I can remember vividly, and when I experience it now, the effect is visceral. It takes me thundering right back to a mysteriously timeless but definitely very early blurry memory. The smell of my mother. Of Mum. A heady aroma that embodies birth and life and strength and sex and safety and fags. Whatever perfume she adds (currently shes favouring JLos new honk, I noticed, when I was last in her bathroom shes MoLo!), this smell is always there as the baseline, and for me its magnificent and it announces that Im home. I swear to God her cooking is flavoured with the same scent, which is why none of us can replicate her recipes. You have to be her to do it. I guess the scent is the code, the method of imprinting between a mother and child, and it is so potent. Sometimes even now I snuggle up to Mum just to get another headful to nourish me till the next visit.

I dont have such a strong early memory of you, Dad, although I do have one of something that happened when I think I was about two or three. I remember creeping into your bedroom while you two slept and crawling under your bed. Im not quite sure why I did this but I suspect it was the thrill of being hidden while being so close. A sort of delicious invisibility. (I did the same thing again years later at boarding school more anon.) It seems a bit pointless to eavesdrop when those youd like your eaves to drop on are fast asleep, but I suppose the joy was in the anticipation. Anyroadup, you might remember, a frightening thing happened. The bed was the kind that had low metal bars and bare springs beneath, and I only just managed to squeeze under. I must have had my hand inside one of the springs when one of you moved, resulting in a crushing pain as my little fingers were trapped. I shrieked and woke you. You leapt out of bed, full of confusion and dadly alert. You reached under the bed and, with a bit of gentle coaxing, pulled me out to safety and I ran into Mums arms for comfort (and most likely to smell that healing smell). All of this was fairly unremarkable except for one thing. You were completely naked and, although I was in agony, I couldnt take my eyes off that weird dark dangly wrinkled thing. What