Stewart D. Friedman - Total leadership : be a better leader, have a richer life

In a world of work-life trade-offs, Stew Friedman offers what most think impossible: a field-tested program that gives you not only what you want in business, but also what you want in life. Brilliant!

Timothy Ferriss, author, The 4-Hour Workweek , #1 New York Times bestseller

The best leaders are those who stay connectedto their communities, to the people they love, to themselves. In Stew Friedmans Total Leadership , youll learn simple, powerful new ways to make these connections happen and enjoy the rich rewards that inevitably follow.

Keith Ferrazzi, CEO, Ferrazzi Greenlight, and coauthor, Never Eat Alone

In the future, being a leader will require new ways to integrate work with the rest of ones life, resulting in more effective leadership and a more fulfilling life. Total Leadership points the way.

Robert Reich, professor, University of California, Berkeley; former U.S. Secretary of Labor; and author, Supercapitalism

Destined to be a classic, this is a remarkable book. I have studied leadership and led organizations for over twenty years. No other book has reshaped my thinking about leadership development as much as Total Leadership .

David A. Thomas, professor, Harvard Business School, and author, Breaking Through: The Making of Minority Professionals in Corporate America

Stew Friedman absolutely gets it. He is both a visionary and a much-needed advocate for a new kind of leadership in the twenty-first century. What an empowering book!

Janet Hanson, Founder, 85 Broads

Total Leadership will help you build a life, not just a rsum. Stew Friedman has written the owners manual for all types of leaders, young and old, who aspire to both professional success and personal fulfillment.

Tom Tierney, Chairman and Cofounder, The Bridgespan Group, and former CEO, Bain & Company

With a refreshingly simple approach to winning the daily struggle between family bliss and career satisfaction, Stew Friedman outlines clear and innovative solutions for better managing the competing demands of our lives. Engaging and inspiring.

Anne Erni, former Managing Director and Chief Diversity Officer, Lehman Brothers

Stew Friedman brings a new definition of leadership to every sector, with four-way wins that will inspire leaders at every level. A rare and moving guidebook for your journey to leadership.

Frances Hesselbein, Founding President and Chairman, Leader to Leader Institute, and former CEO, Girl Scouts of the USA

As the pace of business continues to race forward at lightning speed, Stew Friedman offers us an innovative and sustainable model for successful leadership. Total Leadership provides a unique proposition for individuals who strive to be their very best both personally and professionally.

Dave Lissy, CEO, Bright Horizons Family Solutions

It is difficult to translate the dynamic process of learning into the pages of a book, but Stew Friedman has done it! When we become more intentional leaders, it benefits every facet of our lives: our work, our families, our community connections, and, at the deepest level, ourselves.

Ellen Galinsky, President, Families and Work Institute

Total Leadership is so aligned with my thinking as an HR executive and medical director of a global business. With practical tools and compelling stories, Friedman demonstrates how to achieve four-way winsa distinctive, important new concept for todays leaders.

Dr. Robert W. Carr, Vice President and Corporate Medical Director, GlaxoSmithKline

Stew Friedman defines leadership in an exciting new way that can lead not only to greater success at work, but also to greater success at home, in the community, and for yourselfwith each mutually reinforcing the other.

Raymond V. Gilmartin, professor, Harvard Business School, and former CEO, Merck & Co., Inc.

Total Leadership is a rich and satisfying call to action. Tapping into his innovative work in executive education and work/family research, Friedman teaches us how to create productive work settings that also enable satisfying personal and family lives.

Denise M. Rousseau, professor, Carnegie Mellon University, and author, I-deals: Idiosyncratic Deals Employees Bargain for Themselves

Stew Friedman accomplishes something quite rare in Total Leadership . Through a combination of gripping narratives and lucid descriptions of his framework, he points the way to enduring satisfaction for executives and others by uniquely connecting the richest aspects of their lives.

Mitch Wienick, Partner, Kelleher Associates, Inc., and former President/CEO, CDI Corporation

Across nations and industries, leaders strive to juggle the multiple aspects of their lives and meet the demands of an ever-growing list of stakeholders. Friedman calls an end to this zero-sum game. Time and time again, I have seen his method generate a great return for individuals and their organizations.

Shlomo Ben-Hur, Vice President of Leadership Development & Learning, BP International Limited

Praise from Friedmans former students:

By weaving stories of real people into this engaging narrative, Stew Friedman shows you how to succeed in all areas of your lifeat once. From personal experience, I know that the program in Total Leadership delivers profound results for both individuals and organizations.

Harry B. Weiner, Managing Partner, On-Ramps Services

Stews class at Wharton transformed my development as a leader and Internet entrepreneur. This book and the exercises in it are equally powerfulIm buying a copy for everyone in my company.

Brett A. Hurt, Founder and CEO, Bazaarvoice

Stew Friedmans framework is the most comprehensive and meaningful distillation of how to lead yourself and others that I have encountered. I use the precepts of Total Leadership in my daily life, and Im better off for it.

Richard Smith, Chief of Staff to the CFO, Sears Holdings Corporation, and former Army company commander and combat veteran

Stews class and book helped me tremendously to rediscover and re-affirm my core work values. For a journey to authenticity, this is the must-read road map for leaders and leaders to be.

Jane Lin-Baden, CEO, Audacee Digital Inc., China

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Friedman, Stewart D.

Total leadership : be a better leader, have a richer life (with new preface) / Stewart D. Friedman

pages cm

ISBN-13: 978-1-62527-438-0 (paperback)

1. LeadershipPsychological aspects. 2. ExecutivesConduct of life. 3. Quality of work life. 4. Work and family. 5. Self-actualization (Psychology)Problems, exercises, etc. I. Title.

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