UNEXPECTED GRACE
UNEXPECTED GRACE
Comfort in the Midst of Loss
SHEILA WALSH
Copyright 2002 by Sheila Walsh
Previously published as Stories from the River of Mercy. Copyright 2000 by Sheila Walsh.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Walsh, Sheila, 1956
[Stories from the river of mercy]
Unexpected grace / Sheila Walsh.
p. cm.
Originally published: 2000.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 0-7852-6489-2 (HC)
ISBN 0-7852-6530-9 (TP)
1. Walsh, Sheila, 1956- 2. Pfaehler, Eleanor. 3. Christian biography
United States. I. Title.
BR1725.W2965 A3 2002
248.8'66'092dc21
[B]
2001054660
Printed in the United States of America
02 03 04 05 06 PHX 5 4 3 2 1
This book is dedicated to Christian Walsh Pfaehler by two women who love you very much, your mommy and your nana. We offer this story as a remembrance of the goodness of God in all the days of our lives. In our good days and in our bad days, we are loved with an everlasting love. Remember that, darling boy.
CONTENTS
Janet, I want to thank you with all my heart for your vision and passion for this book. You stood by my side, encouraging me to tell this story. I believe this book will impact the lives of many families. Eleanor and I thank you.
ELEANOR AT AGE NINETEEN
I never imagined I would write a book like this. To write about the relationship between two people when you are one of the two and the other one is gone, how could that ever be fair? How could my version of the events that changed our lives forever be the whole truth? I know now that I dont even remember all that happened.
What I do know is that when Eleanor Pfaehler and I met, we stood on opposite sides of an invisible, and seemingly insurmountable, wall. She was Barry Pfaehlers mother, and I was his girlfriend. Barry was an only child; Eleanor and William had waited twelve long years for this baby boy who now shared his heart and his dreams with me. Eleanor and I talked over this wall. At times we reached up to hug. But the wall was always there.
Then Eleanor was diagnosed with liver cancer. For a time the wall got higher. Finally, by the grace and mercy of God alone, that wall came crashing down. Eleanor and I found ourselves swimming in the river of mercy with our arms around each other, holding each other up, willing to give our lives for the other.
What happened? Im not sure I understand it completely. All I know is that Eleanor found in her dying what she had been looking for in her living, and I got over myself enough to see beyond the stuff that doesnt matter to love my mother-in-law, my sister in Christ. The events that happened in the last few weeks of her life made me realize I could try to write this down, because in the end Eleanor trusted me in her most vulnerable, weak moments. She even gifted me with the care of her body, a most intimate, sacred charge.
Before we get there, however, I have to tell you where we began. Its not always pretty, but its true. I find it strange that it seems so hard for us as Christians to tell the truth. I was in New York recently and a reporter asked me what one question I am asked more than any other. That was easy: Do you find it hard to be so honest?
Isnt that a strange question to ask a Christian? Apparently not. Lies are much more comfortable and comforting. We long to be inspiringyet, the truth is, much of our everyday lives is not inspiring. For myself, I have made a new commitment to simply tell the truth.
I have been changed by Eleanors life and death, as indeed she was. So this is our story. Its not my story. Its our story. I have included some of the psalms that I read to Eleanor in her last days. I have shared some of her favorite hymns so that you can join the worship service of our last days together. I have also included some song lyrics from my album Blue Waters, and other poems I wrote throughout this time.
So now, I like to think that she is sitting right beside me as I write. In a way she is. She is part of the fabric of my life forever. Only God could have done that.
PART ONE
In the Beginning
I am still confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the LORD
in the land of the living.
Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.
PSALM 27:13-14 NIV
See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.
HEBREWS 12:15 NIV
I remember the first time I met Eleanor, during Thanksgiving of 1993. I had been dating Barry, her son, for about six months, and he invited me to spend the holiday with his parents in Charleston, South Carolina. I was a student at Fuller Theo-logical Seminary in Pasadena, California, and Barry worked for a television network in Orange County, so it was a flight from coast to coast for both of us.
As our plane left Atlanta, Georgia, on the final leg of our trip, I said, Tell me about your mom.
He smiled. Now, where would I start?
Are you two close? I asked, trying to narrow the field.
Yes, were close, he replied. Mom and Dad waited twelve years before they were able to have a childand Im it!
Oh great! I thought. I get to be the other woman.
I had talked with Eleanor a couple of times on the phone. Her strong Charleston accent was a match for my Scottish brogue any day. It reminded me of the gentle Southern accents in the movie The Prince of Tides. She always sounded warm and kind. You sure are an answer to prayer, she once said. We never knew what Barry was going to bring home!
I had visions of stray dogs, Amazon women, biker chicks. Eleanor had watched me on television when I cohosted The 700 Club, so I was past first base. In her book I was definitely kosher. Mom talks a lot, Barry continued.
My kind of woman! I said.
Yes... well, be prepared for Twenty Questions. Mom likes to know stuff.
I have stuff, I answered. Every woman has stuff.
When the plane began its descent into Charleston, I looked out the window at fields of swaying sweet grass and a multitude of little rivers running into each other, like veins connected to a throbbing human heart.
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