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Copyright 2020 by Willie Nelson and Bobbie Lee Nelson
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Alfred Music Publishing: Excerpt from I Thought About You, Lord words and music by Willie Nelson, copyright 1996 WARNER-TAMERLANE PUBLISHING CORP. and ACT FIVE MUSIC. All rights administered by WARNER-TAMERLANE PUBLISHING CORP. All rights reserved. Used by Permission of ALFRED MUSIC.
Brumley Music Company: Excerpt from Ill Fly Away written by Albert E. Brumley, copyright 1932 in Wonderful Message by Hartford Music Co. Renewed 1960 by Albert E. Brumley & Sons/SESAC (admin by ClearBox Rights). All rights reserved. Used by permission.
Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC: Excerpt from I Never Cared for You words and music by Willie Nelson, copyright 1982 Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC. All rights administered by Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, 424 Church Street Suite 1200, Nashville Tennessee 37219. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
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Names: Nelson, Willie, 1933 author. | Nelson, Bobbie, author. | Ritz, David, author.
Title: Me and sister Bobbie: true tales of the family band / Willie Nelson and Bobbie Nelson; with David Ritz.
Description: First edition. | New York: Random House, 2020.
Identifiers: LCCN 2020005622 (print) | LCCN 2020005623 (ebook) | ISBN 9781984854131 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781984854148 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Nelson, Willie, 1933 | Nelson, Bobbie. | Country musiciansUnited StatesBiography.
Classification: LCC ML420.N4 A3 2020 (print) | LCC ML420.N4 (ebook) | DDC 782.421642092/2 [B]dc23
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Contents
BROTHER
Nearly nine decades. A long lifetime.
Hard to believe that it was sixty years ago I wrote a song called Funny How Time Slips Away. Wrote it when I was only twenty-seven, and I really didnt know what I was talking about. Except I did. As a kid, I was only imagining a romance that had gone sour. As it turned out, my imagination was pretty good. Little did I know that one day Id wake up and realize I have enough memories to fill a shelf of books. Ive written a few books before, but theres one that passed me by. Probably passed me by cause the heroine is too humble to demand attention. The heroine is my sister, Bobbie.
Bobbies got the best story in our whole family. But to tell it right, I needed Bobbie by my side. I needed Bobbie to tell it herself. Its our good fortune that Bobbie has agreed. Without my sister, Id never be where I am today. Ive always needed her.
I was born restless. Born curious. Born ready to run. And I did. Started running at an early age. Kept running, stumbling, getting back up and running some more. Would have run into complete ruin if it hadnt been for my first and best friend, Bobbie. If I was the sky, Bobbie was the earth. She grounded me. Two years older, she also protected me.
She was there at the very beginning and remains with me, on- and offstage, to this very day. Theres no stronger or longer or steadier relationship in my life. Our stories are intertwined as only sibling stories can be. Many a time shes mended my broken heart. Many a time Ive tried to mend hers. In the Nelson family, high drama comes with the territory. Crazy twists and turns began in our childhood and never stopped. Good breaks and bad breaks, triumphs and tragedies.
My bond with Bobbie is a testimony to the healing power of family. Ironically, perhaps, our bond was born out of the collapse of our original family. It could have been devastating, except I was a toddler when it happened. I have no memory of the actual event.
But for Bobbie, it was different.
SISTER
Willie and I had always lived with Dads parents, Alfred and Nancy Nelson. I was not told why. I liked the arrangement because our grandparents were kind and caring. But I was also comforted by the knowledge that my mom and dad lived right next to us. Willie and I saw them every day. My parents rounded out my world. So to see that world fall apart scared me to death.
I was a little girl when my grandparents told me that my mother and father were leaving Abbott, the little Texas town where Willie and I were born. Not only were they leaving us, they were leaving each other. My father had another woman. None of this made sense to me. It just brought on a torrent of fear.
It happened in a flash. There was no preparation. I remember seeing two cars parked outside my grandparents house. My mother came in to kiss me goodbye. My dad did the same. All they said was that they were going away. Thats it. Then they were gone.
I was three years old.
I didnt know about going away. No one went away in our world. We all stayed in Abbott.
A woman named Lorraine was waiting in my fathers car. He was going away with her. My mother was going away in another car.
I was hysterical, screaming and crying my little eyes out. I held on to my fathers shirt, held on to my mothers blouse, held on to both of them so tightly that my grandfather had to drag me away screaming.
He took me to the bedroom I shared with Willie, closed the door, and locked it. The click of the lock was a dagger through my heart. I sobbed until I couldnt breathe. It didnt seem right. It wasnt fair. I had no say-so in the matter. How could that be?
I wept for hours. It felt like life was over.
No mother, no father. It cant happen just like that.
I cant remember the words they said. Im sure they tried to explain, but none of the words mattered. What mattered was that they were leaving, and I knew that nothing would ever be the same.
Willie, only six months old, had been crawling around the house. When he saw me crying, he stopped. He was a happy spirit, but he sensed my panic. He looked at me with worry in his eyes. Hed never seen me break down before, not like this. I picked him up and held him in my arms.
Dont worry, little brother, I said.
He knew only a few words like mama and dada.
Now he said something I hadnt heard before.
Sister, he said, though it sounded like itta. As he spoke, he smiled. His smile got to me. I was able to stop crying.
BROTHER
We were isolated. I know that now, but I didnt know it then.
Abbott, population four hundred, is a tiny farm community in Hill County halfway between Dallas and Waco. Bobbie was born January 1, 1931, and I made my appearance April 29, 1933. We were babies of the Great Depression. My fathers folks had come to Texas from Arkansas. One of their daughters, Clara, had died young, and their other daughter, Rosa, had moved to Aquilla, close to Abbott. My grandparents, always wanting to be close to their children and grandchildren, followed Rosa to Texas.