Cloris Leachman - Cloris: My Autobiography

I had to smile. Writing your autobiography is something you do in contemplation, isnt that so? Its a look back at the traffic of your life, the places youve been, the people youve known and loved. But I cant get out of the traffic of my life today.

Recently, I won my ninth Emmy (the most ever earned by an actor), and I became a great-grandmother. In the last six months, Ive made four films: The Women , with Annette Bening, Meg Ryan, and Bette Midler; American Cowslip , with Peter Falk and Val Kilmer; New York, I Love You , with Eli Wallach and many others; and a Hallmark Theater film. Ive also traveled to New York, Rome, Cabo San Lucas, and Tempe, Arizona; had to cancel a cruise from India to Italy; been touring my one-woman show; celebrated my eighty-second birthday; and, oh yeah, been on Dancing with the Stars . Ill come back to that.

Thats a life with some real bang and smash in it, but you know what? I like it this way; I like life to be exciting. And actually, in the middle of all thats been going on, I did begin to write my autobiography. I really wanted to get it right, and I started off determined. I picked a chair, sat in it, with a pen and a pad, and it was move over, Shakespeare time.

Then, like autumn leaves, thoughts began to fall on me; they touched my soul. Emotions streamed through me: hilarity, tenderness, amazement, then sadness. Its too late, a voice inside me said. Its too late to collect the little girls who were you and herd them into the tale of your youth . Its too late to walk again through those febrile high school years, when you were holding three jobs and studying piano and dance all at the same time.

Its too late to recall the roles you played; the stars, the comedians, tragedians, and vaudevillians you shared the stage with; the costume and make-up men and women you became so fond of; the playwrights and presidents you dined with. Its too late to remember the early morning when Adam, your fair firstborn, came out of you and entered the world, and the unbearable hour when Bryan, your handsome second son, left the world.

Then a different voice spoke. Its too soon, too soon to peer into yesterday, when your eyes are so expectantly fixed on tomorrow, when your children, grandchildren, and great-grandchild are growing up around you. Its too soon to look back on your life, as if youre nearing the end of it.

Sitting there, utterly still, tears slipped from my eyes as the times of my life gathered around me. I thought, Whats the best way to tell the story of your life? Do you begin at the beginning and follow the calendar to where you are now? Or would it be better to begin with a particular event, the day you were married or the day you won the Oscar or the day your son died, and work backward and forward from there?

Or you could sum it all up in numbers. I was one of three daughters; I gave birth to five children; I have one Oscar, nine Emmys, and sixty-eight other awards. I have seven grandchildren, I am eighty-two years old, Ive been on six of the seven continents, and if they produce a television series on McMurdo Sound, I might soon visit Antarctica.

Enough of this inner dialogue, I thought. Im just going to write it. Ill start easy. Ill tell about what Ive learned and what I still dont know. Right away that brought up something big, I still dont know if theres a God. From the unkindness and slaughter in the world, its hard to believe Hes the good guy portrayed in the paintings. I tend not to believe in Him or Her. And yet, sometimes when my grandchildren and I are togetherout with the dogs on a sunny afternoon or in my living room, playing the pianosuch joy surrounds us, such tender emotions swell, that I feel were not alone, that some dear, loving presence is there, too.

Right here, at the beginning, I want to say some things about myself I know to be true. Ive lived my life; I havent trotted alongside it. Ive opened the doors of opportunity wherever Ive seen them. Ive walked into discoveries and dreams, disappointments and death. I bear the scars of not having obeyed rules made by others, and I wear the deep satisfaction of knowing I never bent to conventions I didnt believe in.

I never wanted to conform. I havent conformed. Ive tried, but I couldnt. Ive never put a label on myself. I find it distasteful that people put labels on other people and say thats who they are, that one thing. When I was forty-six, people said I was in middle age. I shrugged off that designation. I didnt want to be lumped into a group. Heres something I said in an interview with Playgirl magazine in 1972.

I knew from the very beginning that I didnt belong in Iowa. When I went into town for my first piano lesson, I took a streetcar to the teachers studio. It was the most staggering cultural shock of my life. There were all those gray people, the nine-to-fivers, sitting in a stupor. Right then I determined with every fiber in my being that I would never be ground down into a gray person. Im not going to adopt any wholesale anything. No organized religion, no organized anything. I have never known depression. Depression means there is no way out. I have been deeply saddened, heartbroken, hysterical, exhausted. But I never felt there was no way out. Ill make a door.

Having written this much, I decided it would be wrong to write my autobiography in chapters, because I didnt live my life in chapters. The long walk Ive taken wasnt divided into tidy sections. It came in arcs and rainbows, sprints and marathons, clouds and clear places.

Something else came into focus with razor sharpness, that everything Im going to write about, every minor event, every major accomplishment, took place in the past. As I absorb that thought, I see I am in a softly lit world. My mothers voice speaks behind meMusic from my twenties starts over thereIn the middle distance, a piano solo begins, Beethovens Fr Elise. Emotions rise in me, because piano music has filled my life since I was seven years oldNow an odor, alien and foreign, oh yes, gunpowder, from when I took that course in marksmanship at the armory to get Daddys attention.

There I am with Mama, carrying buckets of water from the well because we dont have enough water at home for wash dayLaughter erupts. There I am as Nurse Diesel in High Anxiety , with those conical breastsand, oh, remember, there I am at nineteen, holding the trophy I won as Miss Chicago.

I could start my book with any of these memoriesbut I think I wont. I think Ill start where I didnt think I would start, at the beginning.

In April 1926, Cloris and Buck Leachman were about to have their first child. Buck was in the early stages of building his business, the Leachman Lumber Company, and there was no extra money. Nevertheless, when their first offspring was about to enter the world, they wanted to make a proud announcement. Daddy decided hed send a telegram. That was a huge notion, because telegrams were costly. You paid by the word. Mama really didnt think they should go that far, but Daddy was heady and reckless. He went out the door like a riverboat gambler and sent a telegram announcement to his sister, who lived in another part of the state. GIRL was the entire message. That fanfare played me onto the stage of life.