Adegoke Yomi - Slay in your lane: the black girl Bible

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Copyright Yomi Adegoke & Elizabeth Uviebinen

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Version: 2018-09-13

For Yem, who taught me to Slay In My Lane before I knew what it meant to, and for Yinks, who inspires me to do so daily, and more than she will ever know.

Yomi

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In loving memory of Ingrid & Sidwell, thank you for everything.

Elizabeth

Ade Hassan MBE

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Afua Hirsch

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AJ Odudu

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Alexis Oladipo

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Althea Efunshile CBE

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Amma Asante MBE

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Dr Anne-Marie Imafidon MBE

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Bola Agbaje

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Charlene White

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Clara Amfo

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Dr Clare Anyiam-Osigwe BEM

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Cynthia Erivo

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Dawn Butler MP

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Denise Lewis OBE

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Estelle

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Florence Adepoju

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Funke Abimbola MBE

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Gemma Cairney

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Irene Agbontaen

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Jamelia

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June Sarpong MBE

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Dr Karen Blackett OBE

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Keisha Buchanan

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Lady Leshurr

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Lakwena

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Laura Mvula

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Dr Maggie Aderin-Pocock MBE

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Malorie Blackman OBE

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Margaret Busby OBE

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Melanie Eusebe

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Dr Nicola Rollock

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Patricia Bright

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Sarah-Jane Crawford

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Sharmadean Reid MBE

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Sharmaine Lovegrove

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Susan Wokoma

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Vanessa Kingori MBE

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Vannessa Amadi

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VV Brown

Teacher or nurse?

These were the only jobs that my career advisor at school thought I would be able to achieve. Both vocations are admirable and worthy, but come on, just two career options for a working-class girl from Reading?

I had several passions growing up in the UK as the second daughter of two Bajan immigrants. I loved sport, specifically athletics, and I loved travel. The excitement of going to the airport, getting on a plane and flying to a new destination was a very special and rare occurrence in my household. I treasured it. I also loved TV advertising as much as I loved the TV programmes. I would critique the ads, think about whom they were trying to talk to, and think of better ideas as to how they could get their message across.

I ended up running for my athletics club, and I was good, but not good enough to pursue a career in it. When I was eight, I wanted to be an air traffic controller or an air stewardess, but I rapidly went off both ideas as I got older, when I realised that I would just be staring at a screen all day (or night), and I might not get time to enjoy the exotic places that I would be flying to. But my love for advertising never wavered. Back then, though, advertising was (and to a certain extent, still is) a very white-male, middle-class domain. So how would I carve out a career for myself as a young, black, working-class woman?

My dad was a very wise man. He knew nothing about the industry that I entered, nor did he know anyone in this field. My dad wanted myself and my sister to be doctors, lawyers or accountants vocations that had a high standing back home in Barbados. These were professions that would earn us respect and, most importantly, a salary that meant we could have a good life. My older sister became an accountant and is now a university lecturer. She inspires me every day; she is strong-willed, bright and has a joy for life. I am the black sheep of the family. I didnt go into medicine, law or finance. I pursued my love of advertising.

My dad knew how difficult it would be to be successful in the UK. It would be a marathon with many obstacles and challenges. He would often say,