Copyright 2008 by Robert W. Fuller and Pamela A. Gerloff
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2008-1
Acknowledgments
This book owes its existence to the wisdom and perseverance of dignitarians past and present, who daily set an example for those around them; and to the current generation of young people, who inspire us to live our way into the vision of a world without rankism.
We also wish to acknowledge and thank the following individuals:
Ruth Ann Harnisch, president of the Harnisch Family Foundation, for her early, visionary support of Robert Fullers work on dignity and rankism. Her creative ideas, commitment, and passionate philanthropy helped to boldly spread the word about rankism and the need to build a dignitarian world. She also provided valuable counsel to this project at various stages;
Adam Fuller, for helping to define the intent and scope of this project at the outset;
Joyce Gibson, for her powerful application of the dignity work, her unwavering support, and insightful commentary;
Joyce Hempstead, our book designer, for her skill, patience, and good humor;
Jan Hooker-Haring, for her discerning editorial eye;
John Beck, Paul Birnie, Noah Brand, Benjamin Fuller, Karen Fuller, Brian Gerloff, Nancy Haerter, Jeannie Norris, Jennifer Prost, Steve Renne, Carol Soderholm, Kathleen Spaltro, and Elizabeth Tobin, for their thoughtful comments on earlier versions of the manuscript and their insights and support for this project;
Wendy Anderson, Wendy Angus, Marianna Cacciatore, Deborah Dunham, Lillian Greeley, Vern Hunter, Christopher Mogil, Cathy Tell, Mary Terhune, and Ralph Tucker for their helpful input;
All those who provided supporting materials, such as anecdotes, quotations, resources, and appended material;
Elisa Cooper and Diane Castigliani, for their technical expertise and cheerful assistance with the dignity websites;
Stephanie Heuer, for making dignity rock for children and teenagers (see www.dignityrocks.com), and Suze Rutherford and Kim Holl, for also taking the dignity work to schools and young people;
Mara Peluso, for her enthusiastic support, editorial comments, and creative suggestions to improve all aspects of the book;
Lisa Gerloff-Banker, for her extensive feedback and sound editorial advice;
Robert Gerloff, for his comments on the manuscript and for truly championing the dignity work;
John Steiner, for his ongoing and invaluable support as connector, editor, and ally;
Claire Sheridan and Jane Gerloff , whose extensive and varied contributions have, as always, been indispensable;
Johanna Vondeling, Jeevan Sivasubramaniam, Dianne Platner, Debra Gates, and Berrett-Koehler Publishers, for their professionalism and their commitment to living by dignitarian values.
Insofar as Dignity for All draws on earlier works, we thank as well the many contributors acknowledged in Robert Fullers books Somebodies and Nobodies and All Rise.
Robert W. Fuller and Pamela A. Gerloff
chapter one
Dignity: What Everybody Really Wants
Dignity. Isnt that what everybody really wants? You, me, your parents, your children, your friends, your colleagues at work: All of us want to be treated with dignity.
The homeless person in the park; the elderly in nursing homes; students, teachers, principals; Christians, Jews, Muslims; taxi drivers, store clerks, waiters, police officers; prisoners and guards; immigrants; doctors, patients, nurses; the poor, the wealthy, the middle class; big nations, small nations, people without a homeland.
Dignity. Everybody wants it, craves it, seeks it. Peoples whole lives change when theyre treated with dignityand when theyre not.
Evan Ramsey, now serving a 210-year prison sentence for shooting and killing his high school principal and another student in Bethel, Alaska, told criminologist Susan Magestro:
I was picked on seven hours a day every day and the teachers didnt do anything to help meI told [my foster mother] and [my principal] more than a dozen times about all the bullying I was subjected to. They never did anything to help me.If I can prevent someone from having the experience I went through, I want to do that. I killed people. Dont respond with violence even if youre provoked. Theres no hope for me now but there is hope for you.
From The Realities and Issues Facing Juveniles and Their Families, The Warning Signs: Evan RamseyBethel, Alaska, by Susan Magestro, www.susanmagestro.com
Fundamentally, dignity is about respect and value. It means treating yourself and others with respect just because youre alive on the planet. Its recognizing that you and everyone else have a right to be here, and that you belong. It means valuing your own and others presence and special qualities. It means honoring who you are and what you have to offer. It means creating a culture in which it is safe for everyone to contribute their own gifts and talents.
Dignity. Its a need so strong that people will give up their freedom to have it met; an inner drive so insistent that it can move people to shocking acts of revenge when the attempt to achieve it is thwarted; a human value so critical to happiness and well-being that people sometimes value it more than life itself.