Gabriel Roth - The Unknowns

ITS IMPORTANT TO CHOOSE the right moment to arrive at a party. You want to get there after the vertiginous first hour, when the early arrivals stand awkwardly around the kitchen, but in time for the next phase, when the noise level reaches some threshold and triggers a feedback loop and everyone starts raising their voices to be heard. At such a moment its possible to imagine that this party will live up to the promise inherent in the notion of a party.

But as I step through the door of Cynthias apartment at 10:32, its clear that tonight that promise will go unfulfilled. A voice barely carries down the empty corridor from the kitchen, mingling with the faint jangle of a boom box. In the nearest room a few sad coats are piled on the bed. Tonight people will stand around drinking beer from plastic cups, talking about their bosses or their dissertations, before going home to masturbate.

I add my jacket to the heap and proceed to the kitchen, carrying a gift wrapped in brown paper and a six-pack of bottled beer. With so few guests it will be harder to hide, to lean against the wall as if waiting for someone. At a crowded party you can make three slow circuits of the premises, turning sideways to slip past the people in line for the bathroom, and then leave without self-reproach. The fewer guests, the more youre implicated in the events success or failure.

Cynthia emerges from the kitchen at the sound of my footsteps. You made it! she says, as though Id done something more hazardous than ride in a taxi.

To extend the moment alone with her before the introductions, I steer her into her bedroom and present the wrapped box. I have been rich for a little less than five months. She peels the tape off, then unfolds the paper as though preserving it for later use. When she sees that its a camera she makes an enthusiastic noise, but it takes her a second to recognize the brand and assimilate the specs and understand that its a better camera than shed first thought. Wait, this is too much, she says.

After all of Cynthias benevolent interventions into my life, an expensive piece of consumer electronics is not an extravagance. But nothing about being rich is as simple as you might imagine.

Hey, I can afford it now, I say.

She frowns and then, reading my face, takes on the appearance of a woman seized by inspiration. Oh my God, I know what Im going to do, she says. I had this idea at work: Im going to start a photo series of the pills my clients have to take. Like, one shot for each dose, which is five or six a day, and then at the end the patients face. But the pills in super-close-up, so you can see the textures, because some of them are capsules so theyre smooth and red and blue like rockets and others are tablets so theyll have this grainy organic texture like a sand sculpture. This hypothetical project began as a scheme to justify the gift, but now shes caught up in it.

Cynthia decided she was a lesbian about six months ago. It wasnt without foreshadowing: she has pictures of Claire Danes up on her wall, and shes told me about jokey little crushes on women, and once she said she regretted sitting out the dorm-room experiments of sophomore year, which made me sorrier than ever that I didnt go to college. And now, even though shes turning twenty-five and its embarrassingly late, shes coming out. A shorter haircut seems imminent, as does sex with a woman. A week ago she made out with a twenty-one-year-old named Ayelet.

So is she here? I say.

I dont think shes coming, Cynthia says, setting the camera on the bed. Its pretty mellow so far. A lot of people are out of town.

Thats what you get for being born in December.

In the kitchen I can identify two of eight people. Cynthias roommate Gretchen, who is thin and pretty and not interested in me, is talking to a bald man in suspenders. And standing by the fridge with two women is Justin. Justin is a firefighter; he rides in the truck and everything. He went to college with Cynthia, then moved out here to go to grad school in urban planning, and then right after the terrorist attacks last year, when America was going through its little love affair with firefighters, he quit school and signed up with the SFFD and now he walks with the quiet confidence that comes when you stare death in the face every day and save innocent lives and think of yourself without hesitation as a man. Justin is also taller than I am. He greets me as I put the beer in the fridge, and then he introduces me to the women hes talking to, and I make the first in a series of mistakes that will lead me, standing in a taqueria some weeks hence, to pray that I have not been recognized.

I shake hands with them from right to left, calibrating my grip to coed handshake strength. The one on the right is Lauren: nice curly blond hair, a big bulbous nose, bad khaki pants that she probably wore to work. Sweet, shy, works in some kind of helping-people job, a little insecure about her weight, a couple of flowy Deadhead skirts in the back of her closet. And on the left is Maya. Small body, small features, chestnut hair in a shaggy bob, neolibrarian glasses. A subtle smile at the corners of her eyes that says I see through you entirely and find you benign but a bit ridiculous. Girls spend years working on that look without reaching Mayas level. Anything I might say to such a woman would be a line, and would hang curdling in the air on leaving my mouth, so I open a conversation with Lauren.

How do you know Justin? I say.

We used to volunteer at the something something Homeless something together, she says as I calculate a follow-up question.

Used to? I say. What, did you decide to stop wasting your time helping homeless people?

A smile. No, I went to Latin America for a year.

Oh yeah? Where in Latin America? I ask, because it would be rude to say what Im really thinking, which is What is it with you white girls and Latin America? The Latin America phase that Bay Area girls go through in their early twenties, their attempts to transcend their whiteness via Frida Kahlo and salsa dancing, has always puzzled me. As Lauren begins the familiar litany Ecuador, Costa Rica, the D.R.Maya and Justin head out the door to go have sex in the bathroom or something.

How do you know Cynthia? she asks me.

We went to high school together, I tell her. I knew her when her name was Cindy and she was dating boys. I should mitigate the joke about wasting her time. So do you work in homeless services?

I work at a nonprofit, but its mostly policy around housing issues, she says. What about you? What do you do?

This is a difficult one, because right now I dont do anything, and what I used to do was a combination of computer programming and business, which Lauren would find arcane and distasteful, respectively. There are women who would be interested to learn that youve made a lot of money, but they dont live in San Francisco, work at nonprofits, and travel around Latin America. So I say, Oh, I started an Internet company, and shrug to acknowledge the fact that, in the Bay Area in 2002, this is a clich.

She asks about the company. Its a consumer profiling system, I tell her, hoping this dry phrase will prompt a subject change, but shes tenacious.

Assume youre talking to a fourth-grader, she says.

We give you special offers, like a discount at an online store or something, I say. And in exchange, everything you do on the Internet everything you read, everything you click, everything you buy is tracked and stored and put in a database. Not your email, obviously, or your banking, but all your public activities online. All that data could be compared with the data for millions of other people, and from there you can be categorized as, lets say, Espresso Granola, or, uh, DIY PYT.