Tubali Shai - Indestructible You: Building a Self that Cant be Broken

Indestructible You is a penetrating exploration into the source of the negative emotions that darken the human psyche. The book takes familiar terms from popular culture will, power, competition and using simple language reframes them into effective strategies for attaining authentic inner power. Whats more, it does so in ways that resonate with, and even transcend some profound spiritual teachings. The lucid writing, personal examples and simple practical exercises shift readers from common attitudes of victimhood to becoming heroes of their own lives. It is the sort of book which will be read and re-read as a practical manual of inspiration and empowerment.

Professor Louis G. Herman, Head of Political Science Department, University of Hawaii West Oahu and author of Future Primal: How Our Wilderness Origins Show Us the Way Forward

Shai Tubali has managed to develop a conclusive psychology of the will. His core thesis that will precedes suffering is a genuine key to increased autonomy. I have applied the ideas in Indestructible You in my own life and in my work with others, with astonishing results. His suggestion not to suppress and deny the will to power in certain areas of life, but to accept it and thus transform it complies with the most recent scientific research, which says that accepting an impulse, a thought or an emotion immediately calms it down. Struggling against it, on the other hand, creates stress and makes us sick and unhappy. After working with the exercises of this book I experienced an immediate physical relaxation and my clients have given me the same feedback. In sum, its a very helpful book.

Inke Jochims, Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, NLP instructor and author of Schtig nach Sem?

Indestructible You is a welcome antidote for the pressures resulting from todays turbulent world and frantic lifestyles. Shai Tubali and Tim Ward write in a reader-friendly manner; the exercises they have created are practical, useful, and for many readers life-changing. This is a book that provides a road map for resilience, empowerment, and transformation.

Stanley Krippner, Ph.D., Alan Watts Professor of Psychology, Saybrook University and co-author of Personal Mythology, Extraordinary Dreams and Haunted by Combat

I loved Indestructible You, mainly because it is different: the approach, the psychological practices, the unique understanding of meditation. I believe that the journey the book offers would require courage. But readers who would say yes to it would truly grow and change. With challenging ideas and stimulating practices this beautiful book invites you to transform and apply your will to life. This invitation would allow you to live life to the fullest; it would allow you to build a self that cant be broken.

Dr. Itai Ivtzan, Senior Lecturer and Programme Leader, Masters in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP), University of East London, and author of Awareness Is Freedom: The Adventure of Psychology and Spirituality

The great thing about this book is that it not only reveals the deepest drive behind everything we do in life. It also shows in a practical way how to turn this understanding into a reality of freedom and true power.

Theresa Buerlein, journalist and author of Tussikratie and Das war der gute Teil des Tages

Anyone interested in leadership development recognizes the importance of self-awareness. I found the combination of explanation, personal anecdote, and thought-provoking questions in Indestructible You a delightful invitation to self-reflect. I must admit to becoming aware of some habits of thinking that Id like to pay attention to as a result of having read this book.

Peter Schwartz, Best Practice Chair & Master Chair, Vistage International

An inspiring journey to the depths of the psyche.

Wade Davis, Professor of Anthropology, University of British Columbia, and author of Into the Silence

First published by Changemakers Books, 2015
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Text copyright: Shai Tubali and Tim Ward 2014

ISBN: 978 1 78279 940 5
Library of Congress Control Number: 2014958929

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Find a moment in your life when you felt fully alive, energized and connected to everything around you. Perhaps you felt oneness with nature when you entered a rich green forest, or drew breath in the thin cold air on a mountaintop. Perhaps you raised your head in the dark desert and felt infinite galaxies streaming down upon you. You may have been surprised by spring flowers bursting with life and color, the birth of a baby, or an artists canvas that overwhelmed you with beauty. Most likely you have experienced such a moment through lifes most intense pleasures: sex, falling in love, having an adventure, or simply sharing a delicious meal with close friends.

For most people such moments are fleeting and all too rare. The purpose of this book is to share with you a way to deepen your sense of connection to life so that you can feel fully alive whenever you want. The method may surprise you. We want to strengthen your awareness of the most alive part in you, the driving life force at your core: your will.

Life is will. To be alive means to want, and to want means to be alive. Behind the seeming harmony of nature intense forces and urges are always at work. Not only the strongest and the fittest, but even the nicest living things intensely want. Songbirds sing to attract and impress mates and to proclaim territories; they sing loud and long to overcome the competing songs of other birds. It is not at all about singing hymns to God or expressing the harmonies of nature. The lovely spreading trees are really an evolutionary adaptation; by growing taller, trees are striving to outmaneuver each other to better reach the sunlight. The breathtaking colors of spring flowers are an intricate evolutionary scheme: they draw bees and other pollinators into service of the plants reproduction. When life creates beauty it is because it wants to reproduce. The act of procreation is simply the will to become more than what one already is. Life is never content with mere survival. Life forever wants to grow in power, to expand in numbers, to seize territories. For this reason, life rarely rests, and when it rests, it is to regain its power for this tireless activity.