Advance Praise for
Creating a Life of Integrity
Gail Stark, in a voice that is intelligent, witty, and disarmingly candid, recounts her year-long study with her teacher, Joseph Goldstein, of the integrity factors of personal and spiritual development. In so doing, she firmly extends the line from the liberating teachings of the Buddha in the forests of India 2,700 years ago into the middle of business venues in the twenty-first century. Every minute of every day, given mindful attention, becomes an integrity choice. Undertaking this practice, as laid out here, is demanding and thrilling. We can lead worldly, engaged lives and be happy.
Sylvia Boorstein, author of Happiness Is an Inside Job
If you thought Buddhism was only meant for laid-back meditators, Gail Starks Creating a Life of Integrity shows you how the Buddhas teachings can become essential operational guidance for high-performing leaders and executives. Part passionate memoir and part practical how-to, the book captures the essence of a special teacher-student relationship and translates perennial insights into accessible, resolute action. An invaluable resource for business people on a path of purpose and impact.
William Rosenzweig, founding CEO, The Republic of Tea; recipient of the Oslo Business for Peace Award
Whether you are an experienced Buddhist practitioner or simply want to know more about Buddhism, Creating a Life of Integrity is a great book to add to your collection. First, the author is in conversation with one of the most renowned, insightful, and compassionate teachers of our time: Joseph Goldstein. The Buddhas teachings come alive in their spirited talks. Second, the book takes the reader step-by-step along a path that leads to what we all aspire to a life of purpose, joy, and contentment. Creating a Life of Integrity gets my highest recommendation.
Toni Bernhard, author of How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow
In Creating a Life of Integrity the reader receives personal lessons and practices for true well-being from the ultimate wisdom coach, the renowned mindfulness meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein. Gail Stark has written a fun, engaging, yet genuinely profound guide for living in alignment with your highest values. I highly recommend this gem of a book.
James Baraz, coauthor of Awakening Joy: 10 Steps to Happiness ; cofounder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center
Reading this book was like actually being present with Joseph Goldstein, a person of exceptional integrity, as he shares down-to-earth yet profound wisdom with the author, Gail Stark. Different parts of my mind and heart were opened to new possibilities because of her unique way of expression. Creating personal integrity is the deepest kind of respect and care we can have for ourselves and others. This book is deeply reaching medicine, leading to inner calm and inviolable peace .
Kamala Masters, guiding teacher and cofounder, Vipassana Metta Foundation, Maui
Creating a Life of Integrity is a delightful duet between Joseph Goldstein, a Western meditation master, and Gail Stark, his student and friend. Josephs teachings are candid, practical, and humorous. Gail carries them out and reports back with a charming blend of honesty and good cheer. Want to level up your life? These two make the journey accessible and inviting.
Guy Armstrong, author of Emptiness: A Practical Guide for Meditators
Gails clear and insightful words guide us through the perplexing world of ethics. Drawing on centuries of Buddhist wisdom distilled by Joseph Goldstein, Gails refreshing and personal accounts of putting these teachings into practice show us all how to live a life of integrity that creates a genuinely happier life.
Mark Coleman, author of From Suffering to Peace
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Stark, Gail Andersen, author. | Goldstein, Joseph, 1944
Title: Creating a life of integrity: in conversation with Joseph Goldstein / Gail Andersen Stark.
Description: Somerville, MA, USA: Wisdom Publications, 2020.
Identifiers: LCCN 2019049581 (print) | LCCN 2019049582 (ebook) | ISBN 9781614292791 (paperback) | ISBN 9781614293033 (ebook)
Subjects: LCSH: Religious life Buddhism. | Integrity Religious aspects Buddhism. | Reliability.
Classification: LCC BQ4302 .S73 2020 (print) | LCC BQ4302 (ebook) | DDC 294.3/444 dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2019049581
LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2019049582
ISBN 978-1-61429-279-1 ebook ISBN 978-1-61429-303-3
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Cover design by Jess Morphew. Interior design by Kristen Goble.
I dedicate this book to my teacher and dear friend, Joseph Goldstein, who patiently listens to my stories of woe and then responds, Perhaps you could try..., and I am struck silent at the sheer brilliance of his offering. Sometimes, yes, I will argue a point, and then stop, suddenly understanding the profoundly simple wisdom in his words. Oh to be in the world with such clarity and ease.
To my husband, Ron, my rock, my partner on the path, and for teaching me how to laugh in the midst of it all.
And to each of you who choose to live your life with integrity. Thank you.
Foreword
I have known Gail Stark for many years, both as a student and a friend, and I was delighted when she proposed the idea for this book on qualities that lead to a life of integrity. We decided on examining what in the Buddhas teachings are called paramis , or perfections of awakening, and had monthly conversations about how each of these qualities might be practiced off of the meditation cushion. These themes are eminently timely as they always are and Gails unique combination of life experience, deep Dharma practice, and a willingness to push the edges of what it means to walk the talk highlights the challenges and joys of living as impeccably as possible.
Her very loving nature and incisive investigation brought her into close contact with the wide range of beings inhabiting her world, from her Dharma-buddy husband, Ron, to friends and business colleagues, to people on the street. Each one provided opportunities to explore what generosity, patience, renunciation, and the other paramis might mean in the context of daily life. What made this exploration so fruitful was the strength of Gails mindfulness and the intensity of her interest as she tracked her own impulses and responses to the practice of these qualities. Her reports on each months investigation were always a joy. Her enthusiasm was infectious and we both learned a lot in the process.
In the midst of these challenging and often confusing times, I hope that this engaging book will be an inspiration for many others who would like to actively engage in refining the understanding of integrity and how that can express itself in the busyness and complexity of our lives. This one overarching value can be a healing balm both for ourselves and for the world we all share.
Joseph Goldstein
Barre, Massachusetts
Preface
At different times in our lives and meditation practice
we may get glimpses of something
beyond our ordinary, conventional reality,