Melissa Ambrosini - Comparisonitis: How to Stop Comparing Yourself To Others and Be Genuinely Happy

Praise for Comparisonitis

Since Melissa refers to people who have recovered from comparisonitis as unicorns, I suppose that makes this book a sort of unicorn training manual. Im so grateful that such a manual has arrived! Its been infinitely helpful to me. My hope is that the same holds true for you.

Gaby Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author

Comparisonitis is real. It can block us from our potential, our passion, and even our purpose. The impact its having on peoples mental health needs to be addressed, and this is the book to do that and protect future generations from comparisonitis.

Jay Shetty, #1 New York Times bestselling author

Comparisonitis is a wonderful, honest book for one of the most real human experiences comparing ourselves to others and feeling like we arent good enough. Melissa offers a real, practical approach to healing and realizing that we are worthy of the life that we desire.

Sahara Rose, bestselling author and host of The Highest Self podcast

Reader Testimonials

This book is a must-read for everyone. No matter who you are or what youre going through, I couldnt recommend it enough. It is the book I longed for as a teenager growing up and I am so happy it now exists! Melissa covers such fundamentals for everyone navigating their way through this modern day society and I truly believe itll be life changing for anyone who gets their hands on it.

Mia Castan

An incredible insight into our own thinking and an invaluable tool to help unpack and retrain your thoughts, a must-read for everyone.

Kym Chandler

Do you want to live a more fulfilling life and give your energy to the things that really matter? Comparisonitis is your book, its a game changer and will help you make magic happen in all areas of your life!

Jennifer Demiri

If you struggle like me with comparisonitis, this is a must read, to assist in stopping comparisonitis for good this book is a game changer. Melissa in her light hearted but serious writing style offers personal examples, practical ways forward intermingled with Inspo Action. Comparisonitis in a league with Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide, a truly practical and insightful guide.

Jane Bell

Prepare to be diagnosed and cured of comparisonitis within the pages of this I-cant-put-it-down book. Melissa uncovers the many nuances of comparison that often go unnoticed and rips the bandaid off healing this crippling disease, once and for all. This is a straight-talking, no BS remedy to recover from comparison and live life in your own blissful lane!

Sally Jane

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Cover photo of Melissa Ambrosini by Elisabeth Willis Photography

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This book is dedicated to you, my beautiful reader.
You are here on earth, alive and breathing,
which means you MATTER.
There is no one on the planet like YOU!
You are unique and amazing, just as you are.
Theres no need to compare any more.
May this book remind you of how truly magical you are.
Love, Melissa xx

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While this book is intended as a general information resource and all care has been taken in compiling the contents, this book does not take into account individual circumstances and this book is not in any way a substitute for the medical advice of physicians. It is essential that you always seek qualified medical advice if you suspect you have a health problem. The author and publisher cannot be held responsible for any claim or action that may arise from reliance on the information contained in this book.

Contents

by Gabrielle Bernstein

There has never been a better time to look at comparison. The human tendency to judge ourselves and our lives based on those around us is age-old. Yet as Melissa so aptly points out, the pool from which we draw that comparison has grown. As our world becomes increasingly connected through travel and communication, were suddenly exposed to far more people and ideas than we ever were in the past.

On the whole, that has potential to be a good thing but without the right tools to process this increased input, it can be dangerous. If being exposed to more people and ideas is a source of inspiration and empowerment, its helpful. If it pushes us into comparisonitis, it isnt.

Social media plays a big role in this increased input. It has exacerbated our tendency to compare, taking a comparisonitissniffle and turning it into a full-blown flu. Melissa isnt the first to notice something is up with social media and the way we use it. Yet shes breaking new ground in this book by suggesting that the issue goes much deeper than this, down to the very way we evaluate ourselves and our role in the world around us. Whether its through body image, finances, relationships, family structure, parenting, or career goals, comparisonitis can knock even the most successful person to the ground. Im with Melissa on this, because Ive seen it in myself and my readers. Weve always had comparisonitis. Social platforms just make the struggle more obvious.

Thats part of why its so important for us to do our work to heal comparisonitis right here and now. Addressing the way we compare ourselves to others can be life-changing. In some cases, its the missing ingredient that transforms us into super attractors.

The metaphysical text A Course in Miracles by Helen Schucman (1976) states: Love makes no comparisons. This book offers readers the guidance on how to transform comparisonitis by learning to see the world through the lens of love.

Since Melissa refers to people who have recovered from comparisonitis as unicorns, I suppose that makes this book a sort of unicorn training manual. I am so grateful that such a manual has arrived! Its been infinitely helpful to me. My hope is that the same holds true for you.

Gabby Bernstein

#1 New York Times bestselling