Jonathan Holmes - The Company We Keep

THE COM PANY WE KEEP

In Search of Biblical Friendship

Jonathan Holmes

Cruciform Press | September 2014

To Kelly, Scott, Nathan, and Joe: Your friendship in my life has been an unexpected grace from God. Thank you.

To Jennifer: Your friendship has been the single greatest testimony to our Saviors sacrificial love.

I love you, friend.

-Jonathan Holmes

CruciformPress

2014 by Jonathan Holmes. All rights reserved. CruciformPress.com |
ISBN: 978-1-936760-95-4
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Jonathan Holmes has the enviable ability to say a great deal in a few words. Here is a wonderful primer on the nature of Biblical friendship what it means and why it matters.

Alistair Begg, Senior Pastor, Parkside Church

I talk with many Christians who have intensely practical questions about how to make and maintain friendships with their fellow believers. Jonathan Holmes book is filled with answers that are equally down-to-earth, nitty-gritty, and specific. This book isnt just a roadmap for cultivating Christian friendship. Its also a tour guide, taking us where we need to go with warmth and wisdom.

Wesley Hill, Assistant Professor of Biblical Studies, Trinity School for Ministry; author of Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality

Jonathan Holmes has tackled an often neglected and sometimes misunderstood topic: biblical friendship. He brings clarity to what Christ-centered friendships are and how to cultivate them. In a time when friendships are defined by a few taps on a keyboard, this book will cause you to take pause and reflect on why and how God intended our friendships to be a testimony to a desperate world looking for intimacy in all the wrong places. Pick a friend, read this together, and watch how your faith and the faith of others grow as a result.

Dr. Garrett Higbee, author of The Uncommon Community: Biblical Soul Care for Small Groups; Board Member, Biblical Counseling Coalition

Short. Thoughtful. Biblical. Practical. Im planning to get my friends to read this book so we can transform our friendships into something more biblical. I am grateful to Jonathan Holmes for carefully helping us think through the topic of Christian friendships.

Deepak Reju, author; Pastor of Biblical Counseling and Families, Capitol Hill Baptist Church

So often, books on biblical fellowship place our relationships in a spiritual realm where none of them really exist. Thankfully, Jonathan has succeeded in giving us a picture of how normal, daily, biblical friendships can be used by God to mold us into the likeness of Christ. He successfully steers clear of over-spiritualizing what friendship between brothers and sisters in Christ should look like. It is rich in its application of Scripture and practical in the way it connects all of our relationships to Christ. If you want a solid, fresh way of re-thinking all of your relationships, read this book.

Dr. Tim S. Lane, President, Institute for Pastoral Care; conference speaker; co-author of Relationships: A Mess Worth Making and How People Change

Thought provoking, rooted in theology, and a topic that has needed to be addressed more deeply. Ive often bemoaned the superficial relationships in the church so Im thankful for a book that addresses this and takes gospel-saturated one-anoth-ering seriously. I can assure you the church would be different and get the attention of the world if these types of friendships were pursued. I finished reading and wanted to invest more in Christ -focused relationships.

Dr. Ernie Baker, Professor of Biblical Counseling, The Masters College

The Company We Keep presents a compelling vision of biblical friendship that glorifies Christ, builds up believers, and witnesses to the world. I was both encouraged and challenged in my own relationships and counseling ministry through the wisdom of this book. The section on friendship and same-sex-attraction is especially timely and helpful for the church today. Jonathan has written a clear, concise book that is biblically faithful, relationally practical, pastorally wise, and, above all, Christ-centered. I highly recommend it!

Pat Quinn, Dir. of Counseling Ministries, University Reformed Church

We live in a world of easy, quick, superficial, and selfish relationships where Christians need biblical wisdom about how to develop meaningful friendships. In The Company We Keep Jonathan Holmes provides this wisdom in abundant supply. This guide to biblical friendship is grounded in the timeless truth of Gods Word, centered in the grace of Jesus Christ, and focused on relevant and practical application. This book is required reading for anyone desiring to grow in deeper Christian friendship.

Dr. Heath Lambert, Executive Director, The Association of Biblical Counselors

The Company We Keep casts a vision for the kind of friendships we all really wantto love and be loved as Christ loves us. Jonathan provides practical guidance that is both biblical and inspiring. Ill be recommending this book to friends and counselees.

Winston T. Smith, faculty and counselor, Christian Counseling and Educational Foundation

The Company We Keep is a refreshing and challenging book. Here you will find rich, practical, and theologically grounded counsel. Jonathan Holmes demonstrates that our need for friendship is rooted in the eternal relationships within the triune God in whose image we are created, illustrates how the self-centeredness of sin has distorted our view of friendship, and teaches us how to apply the humility of Christ to the intentional pursuit of careful relationships that draw attention to the gospel. This is a book that I wish had been available in my early years as a believer. I really need this book.

Paul Tautges, author; founder of Counseling One Another

In The Company We Keep, Jonathan Holmes has made a significant contribution to the Kingdom. We expect far too little from our friendships, and Jonathans work not only encourages us to expect more, it also equips us to give more. His four marks of biblical friendshipconstancy, candor, carefulness, and counselprovide a robust and relevant GPS for intentional and vulnerable gospel-centered friendships. The Dig Deeper sections embedded in each chapter make this a great book not only for individuals, but also for small groups.

Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D., author; Executive Director, Biblical Counseling Coalition

People want to connect with others. It is part of the image of God in man. But so often we struggle to have meaningful relationships, settling instead for various kinds of cheap substitutes and wishing for more. In this work, Jonathan helpfully teaches a biblical theology of friendship and along the way he provides wise counsel while having his feet firmly planted in the reality that we have many God-given responsibilities. Wise will be the one who evaluates his own life and seeks to make practical changes to pursuing and enjoying true biblical friendships based on the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

Rob Green, Pastor of Counseling and Seminary Ministries, Faith Church

Friendship is a word like trust. We all know what these words mean but were not always sure how to do them. Our tendency can be either to fear friendship or to deify what it means to have a good friend. In The Company We Keep, Jonathan Holmes serves us well by giving us a functional definition, realistic expectations, and practical steps to develop the kind of biblical friendships God intended for his people.

Brad Hambrick, Pastor of Counseling,The Summit Church; author of Burnout: Resting in Gods Fairness

Friendships are such an important part of our lives, but there is so much confusion about what a true friend is. Is it someone I shop with, someone I play sports with, someone I meet for lunch, or someone I call when Im in trouble who never condemns me? Jonathan winsomely unpacks what biblical friendship really is. Prepare to be blessed, encouraged, and perhaps surprised. Then look forward to putting his wise words into practice and enjoying sweet fruit. I wish all friendships had the focus Jonathan describes.