Emily Maroutian - Thirty: A Collection of Personal Quotes, Advice, and Lessons

Thirty

A Collection of Personal Quotes,

Advice, and Lessons

By

Emily Maroutian

2015 by Emily Maroutian

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ISBN-13: 978-1506116617

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#1 Quote

What people think about you has more to do with their habitual thinking than with who you really are. You, as you are right now, are filtered through decades of their life experiences, traumas, disappointments, heartaches, and suffering. It is a reflection of their patterns of thought and stories about life. Their judgment has nothing to do with you as a whole because the experience of you cannot be separated from their experience of life.

-Emily Maroutian

#2 Advice

Nothing from the past can still exist unless we drag it into the present moment through our minds. Holding onto past pain creates present pain. Holding onto old fears creates new fears. Holding onto former injuries caused by others is an act of current self-injury. Whats done is gone. The only way it can live within us again is through our willingness to revive it in this moment.

-Emily Maroutian

#3 Lesson

The people around you are either enhancers of your dream or distracters from it. Some fill you up through support, love, and inspiration and others empty you with drama, draining conversations, and emotional manipulation. You will know by the way you feel after every interaction. Your likelihood for success depends just as greatly on who you spend time with as much as how much you work on it. Your work will become harder and more challenging with more distracters. Surround yourself with enhancers and your work will feel easier and lighter.

-Emily Maroutian

#4 Quote

Resilience is choosing the hopeful thought over the resigning thought day after day, regardless of what happens.

-Emily Maroutian

#5 Advice

If you want to know where to find your contribution to the world, look at your wounds. When you learn how to heal them, teach others.

-Emily Maroutian

#6 Lesson

Words are things. They are real. They are alive. They have a smell, a sound, a taste, a touch, they can be seen, and they can be felt. Even if its all in the mind. You can see the word tree, you can taste the word watermelon, you can smell the word jasmine, you can feel the pain of the word fire, you can hear the word guitar. They elicit a powerful response from the person receiving it. They have the ability to move us into action, anger us, make us fall in love, express passion, express sadness, wage war, create peace. They color our world. They bring us to life. Their power lies in how they are used.

-Emily Maroutian

#7 Quote

Pain might make you stronger or smarter for the next time around, but learning to heal that pain makes you wiser for the rest of your life.

-Emily Maroutian

#8 Advice

Each soul is equipped with its own GPS. If you follow someone elses, you'll get lost. Theyll arrive at their destination full of joy, but youll arrive at their destination full of emptiness and frustration. Follow your own instincts; they will never get you lost.

-Emily Maroutian

#9 Lesson

You cant criticize yourself into self-love. Whatever change that is inspired by self-criticism will be criticized later as well. Its the critical and self-hating mindset that requires the changenot anything else in the body or character.

-Emily Maroutian

#10 Quote

The difference between a soulmate and a cellmate is your freedom. Stuckness is not stability. Possession is not love. Control is not caring.

-Emily Maroutian

#11 Advice

The problem with thinking youre too sensitive is that youre saying youre not justified in your feelings. You dismiss your right to feel whatever it is that you feel. You immediately invalidate yourself because you are too sensitive and shouldnt be feeling what youre feeling.

If you continuously invalidate your feelings, then you will stop trusting your instincts. You will stop trusting your internal GPS and you will wander all over the place. Thats when youll begin to make mistake after mistake in relationships, in career, always making off moves and then shaming yourself afterwards for not knowing better. If you judge your emotions, you wont be able to trust them. If you cant trust them, you cant navigate through life accurately.

-Emily Maroutian

#12 Lesson

Haters hate because theres something missing within them or within their lives that they see in you. They believe they cant have it, and that causes negative emotion within them. If they believed they could have it too, they would be inspired by you to get it themselves. It would be a positive emotion. The fact that it brings out hate or jealousy is because they dont believe they can. Belief in possibility is the difference between jealousy and inspiration.

-Emily Maroutian

#13 Quote

Stress is when you hold two opposing thoughts in your mind about the same subject. I want to do it, but I cant do it. I want that, but I cant have that. Im sitting in traffic, but I shouldnt be. All stressful emotions that arise are the result of an opposing thought that contradicts a desire.

-Emily Maroutian

#14 Advice

When someone tells you something about another person, dont take it as a fact. Everyone experiences their current life and the people they encounter through their past experiences, expectations, and life stories. Just because someone has had a hard time with someone else, doesnt mean you will too. Just because it was someone elses experience of that person, doesnt mean it will be yours. But if you believe what they say, then it will be.

-Emily Maroutian

#15 Lesson

You have to value your time, energy, and love before you can offer it to anyone else as something worthwhile.

-Emily Maroutian

#16 Quote

Insecure people use whatever strength they have to keep others down so they can feel good about themselves. Confident people lift others up because they feel good about themselves.

-Emily Maroutian

#17 Advice

If you dilute yourself trying to please everyone, you wont have anything substantial or powerful to offer anyone, including yourself. Be selective in how you spend your energy; it is your lifes currency.

-Emily Maroutian

#18 Lesson

If you feel defensive about something, it inspires others to attack it. The more resistance you put up toward a subject, the more others will push back. Defense signals to an offense that you are ready for a fight.

-Emily Maroutian

#19 Quote

Resistance isnt there to stop you from getting what you want; its there to strengthen you into the person who can handle it.

-Emily Maroutian

#20 Advice

View all past events in kind-sight. You made it through. You are better now, wiser, and stronger. Of course youre going to wonder what you were thinking back then. You have grown now. Its that growth that makes you want to judge your past. Its because you have a wiser and more mature pair of eyes now. But resist the urge to be unkind to yourself. You dont reprimand yourself for when you were two years old and just learning to walk. You dont sit and think about all the times you fell down as you were trying to balance yourself. Well, thats what you were doing at sixteen as well, and at thirty-six and even seventy-six. You were just learning balance.

-Emily Maroutian

#21 Lesson

Sometimes we need time to grieve for a future that might have been. After a loss of a relationship, friendship, job, or even the loss of the possibility of those things can be a painful process. When a possibility is cancelled out, it can feel like a sort of loss, even if we didnt really lose anything. Even if we didnt have it to begin with. Just knowing something cant happen can be very painful. It can create a state of mourning within us. However, the sooner we let go of that possibility, another one will become open to us. There is no real loss in the universe, just pieces moving toward each other and shifting away from each other. Where there is one, there is another.