Brianna Wiest - When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal

For the ones who face a fork in the road

Introduction 9

When Youre Ready, This Is How You Heal 15

When You Are Ready To Change Your Life, Read This 19

This Year, Let Go Of The People Who Arent Ready To Love You 23

47 Ways To Practice Micro-Healing In Your Everyday Life 27

The Truth Of Who You Are Is More Than You Let Yourself Believe 33

This Is How To Start Over, Even If Youre Staying Right Where You Are 37

The Greatest Healing Often Happens In The Most Ordinary Ways 43

The 8 Phases Of Deep Personal Transformation 47

7 Psychological Biases That Are Making You Resist Your Own Growth 55

Everything Thats Truly Right For You Will Make You Feel At Peace 63

You Have To Practice Letting Go 67

This Is How You Find The Confidence To Pursue What You Really Love 71

Read This If Youre On The Brink Of A Breakthrough, But Are Afraid To Take The Leap 83

16 Ways Emotionally Intelligent People Interpret Negative Feelings Differently 87

When Youre Ready To Take Your Power Back, Begin Here 99

13 Things You Need To Stop Doing If You Truly Want To Move Your Life Forward 105

Within The Emotions You Are Afraid To Feel Exists The Wisdom Your Soul Is Waiting To Receive 117

10 Signs Youre Actually Making Progress In Life, Even If It Doesnt Feel Like You Are 121

How To Remember Youre Not Alone, Even When It Really Feels Like You Are 131

7 Ways To Become Your Most Emotionally Resilient Self 137

Trust That Your Heart Knows The Truth, Even If Your Mind Cannot Make Sense Of It 143

How To Get Over Someone: The Ultimate Guide To Releasing Attachments, Reinventing Yourself, And Opening Your Life To New Love 147

If You Ever Feel Lost, Please Remember That You Can Make A Home Within Your Own Heart 159

16 Little Reminders For When You Feel Like You Arent Quite Where You Want To Be In Life 163

When Life Gives You An Opportunity To Change, Please Dont Let It Pass You By 171

On The Days It Feels Like Youll Never Move Forward, Just Remember How Far Youve Come 175

10 Things You Will Start To Feel When A Big Life Change Is Around The Corner 179

Theres No Such Thing As Falling Behind, There Is Not Just One Way Your Life Can Unfold 185

This Is How You Will Know If Youre Actually On The Wrong Path In Life 189

You Will Start Feeling Like Enough When You Decide What Is Enough For You 193

9 Questions That Will Help You Make The Most Of Every Day 197

This Year, Please Stop Fighting Battles You Cant Win 201

This Is What It Really Means To Be Kind To Yourself, Because Its Not As Easy As You Think 205

Remember That Everything Will Feel Impossible Right Before A Huge Shift Takes Place 209

If You Dont Know What You Want In Life, Start With What Youre Most Afraid Of 213

Sometimes Purpose Can Be So Subtle, You Dont Realize Youre Already Living It 217

This Is How You Start To Let Go, Even If You Dont Feel Like Youre Ready Yet 221

There Are 3 Types Of Losses In Our Lives, And Each Teaches Us Something Different 225

How To Write A Personal Mission Statement, Because Your Vision Can Become Your Reality 229

Youre Not Going To Realize Youre Blossoming, But Its Going To Happen Anyway 233

7 Thought Patterns That Are Keeping You Stuck In A Life You Dont Want 237

You Cant Lose Relationships, You Can Only Outgrow Them 245

Read This While Youre Waiting For The Storm In Your Life To Pass, Because This Could Be The Moment That Changes Everything For You 249

We Crave Perfection Because We Want To Feel Safe 253

How To Know If You're Overcorrecting Your Life 259

You Already Know What Your Next Step Is, You Just Have To Find The Courage To Take It 269

I Hope You Learn How To Gently Start Over 273

Healing is not a one-time event.

It can begin with a one-time eventtypically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be.

The experiences that catalyze healing are not trying to prompt us to simply recover from a blow to the ego, but for the first time, in many cases, to recognize our ego at all. It is a moment of reconciliation where we are asked to realize that, in the words of Michael Murphy, a greater life is pressing to be born.

If we do not answer this call, it will continue to show up in our lives, often in similar patterns and feelings. We will continuously return to wondering: How am I still here? or How did I get here again? The answer is that the same wake-up call keeps coming in until our subconscious minds agree to embark on the journey of our own becoming. This is a process of fully restoring us into remembrance of the perfect, whole and complete truth of who we are. It is a life-long quest, because we must tend to the gardens of our minds on a daily basis. Like children, they cannot completely manage themselves. Our lives require a higher functioning, future-considering adult aspect of ourselves to come forth and sit in the drivers seat.

This is a journey because no healing, whether physical or spiritual, is something that occurs linearly, nor seamlessly. Life contracts before it expands, and pulls back before it leaps forward. This balancing act is not something we should resist, but rather, embrace. The longer we avoid doing so, the longer we will dwell on the event or series of events that arose on our paths for the sake of waking us up, rather than truly beginning the more difficult, but far more rewarding, work.

In many ways, the journey of healing is not so much a chapter in your story, but changing the way you write the entire book. Its a shift in the way you move through the world, one in which you move from being disappointed that life has not met your every expectation to expanding your vision to perceive all of the magic, the wonder, the awe, the heartache, the loss, the gain, the contrast that makes us all perfectly and unpredictably human.

Our healed selves are not our most flawless selves. They are not immune to sadness or grief or fear. They are just not controlled by those experiences any longer. They feel sadness when it is time for sadness, and grief when it is time to grieve, and contentment on a more regular basis. They fear things that are unknown or important or both, but they do not allow that emotion to prevent them from moving forward. Life can be deeply challenging and profoundly unfair, and without the ability to move through the feelings that may accompany our experiences in real time, we often become trapped in the old stories we once wove around them.