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Special thanks to:
The many clients who over the years guided my understanding of the pain of trauma and addiction and the power of healing and recovery.
Sandi Klein, my longtime assistant, who kept me together through this writing process and has been there for both the conception and delivery of another one of my books. Your feedback was invaluable.
Scott Edelstein, for helping organize the framework of the manuscript and contributing breadth and depth to the understanding of trauma and addiction within families.
The Central Recovery Press team, Nancy Schenck, and Patrick Hughes, for their insights and support.
Family
www.adultchildren.org Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families 562.595.7831
www.al-anon.org Al-Anon (for friends and family of people with alcoholism) 757.563.1600
www.al-anon.alateen.org Alateen (a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers affected by someones drinking) 757.563.1600
www.asca12step.org Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (recovery program for all survivors of childhood abuse and trauma)
www.chapter9-nyc.org Chapter 9Couples in Recovery Anonymous (a program of couples working together) 212.946.1874
www.co-anon.org Co-Anon and Co-Ateen (for relatives and friends of cocaine addicts) 520.513.5028
www.coda.org Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) 602.277.7991 or 888.444.2359 (toll-free English) 888.444.2379 (toll-free Spanish)
www.cosa-recovery.org COSA (for co-addicts whose lives have been affected by other peoples compulsive sexual behavior) 866.899.2672
www.familiesanonymous.org Families Anonymous (for anyone in recovery from the effects of a loved ones addiction) 847.294.5877
www.gam-anon.org Gam-Anon (for anyone affected by the gambling problem of a family member, loved one, or friend) 718.352.1671
www.naasca.org National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (child abuse trauma prevention, intervention, and recovery)
www.nar-anon.org Nar-Anon (for relatives and friends of people with drug addiction) 310.534.8188
www.recovering-couples.org Recovering Couples Anonymous 781.794.1456
www.sanon.org S-Anon and S-Ateen (for people who have been affected by others sexual behavior) 615.833.3152
www.12step.org offers information, tools, and resources for organizing a twelve-step program
Substance Addiction
www.aa.org Alcoholics Anonymous 212.870.3400
www.alladdictsanonymous.org All Addicts Anonymous (for anyone dealing with any addiction) 888.422.2476
http://cdaweb.org Chemically Dependent Anonymous (for anyone seeking freedom from drug or alcohol addiction) 888.232.4673
www.ca.org Cocaine Anonymous 310.559.5833
www.crystalmeth.org Crystal Meth Anonymous 213.488.4455
www.lifering.org LifeRing Secular Recovery (network of individuals seeking to live in recovery) 800.811.4142
www.marijuana-anonymous.org Marijuana Anonymous 800.766.6779
www.na.org Narcotics Anonymous 818.773.9999
www.pillsanonymous.org Pills Anonymous
www.nicotine-anonymous.org 877.879.6422
www.smartrecovery.org SMART Recovery (helps people recover from all types of addiction and addictive behaviors) 866.951.5357
www.sossobriety.org Secular Organizations for Sobriety (helps individuals achieve and maintain sobriety/abstinence from alcohol and drug addiction, food addiction, and more) 323.666.4295
www.womenforsobriety.org Women for Sobriety (helping women overcome alcohol and other addictions) 215.536.8026
Process Addiction
www.cgaa.info Computer Gaming Addicts Anonymous
www.debtorsanonymous.org Debtors Anonymous 718.453.2743
www.gamblersanonymous.org Gamblers Anonymous 888.424.3577
www.netaddictionrecovery.com Internet and Tech Addiction Anonymous 818.773.9999
www.olganon.org Online Gamers Anonymous 612.245.1115
www.sexaa.org Sex Addicts Anonymous 713.869.4902
www.slaafws.org Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous 210.828.7922
www.sa.org Sexaholics Anonymous 615.370.6062
www.sca-recovery.org Sexual Compulsives Anonymous 212.606.3778
www.sexualrecovery.org Sexual Recovery Anonymous 646.450.8565
Food Addiction
http://aba12steps.org Anorexics and Bulimics Anonymous 780.318.6355
www.ceahow.org Compulsive Eaters Anonymous (HOW) 562.342.9344
www.foodaddictsanonymous.org Food Addicts Anonymous 772.878.9657
www.foodaddicts.org Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous 781.932.6300
www.oa.org Overeaters Anonymous 505.891.2664
Other Fellowships
www.draonline.org Dual Recovery Anonymous (for people with addiction and mental illness) 913.991.2703
www.emotionsanonymous.org Emotions Anonymous (for people working toward recovery from emotional difficulties) 651.647.9712
Christian Twelve-Step Fellowships
For a more complete list of Christian twelve-step programs, organizations, groups, and ministries, visit the website of the National Association of Christian Recovery www.nacr.org.
www.alcoholicsforchrist.com Alcoholics for Christ (for adults who have grown up in an alcoholic family system or any other dysfunctional system) 248.399.9955
www.alcoholicsvictorious.org Alcoholics Victorious (for people recovering from the effects of alcoholism or drug addiction)
www.overcomersoutreach.org Overcomers Outreach (for individuals, their families, and loved ones who suffer from the consequences of any addictive behavior) 562.698.9000
Please do not assume the word anonymous automatically identifies an organization or website as a twelve-step fellowship. Some enthusiast sites and retailers use the word in their names. For example, Gamers Anonymous is a video game store, and screenaddicts.co.uk is a website for film, television, and video game enthusiasts. However, Computer Gaming Addicts Anonymous (cgaa.info), On-Line Gamers Anonymous (olganon.org), Computer Addicts Anonymous (computeraa.wordpress.com), and Internet and Tech Addiction Anonymous (netaddictionrecovery.com) are all legitimate twelve-step fellowships.
A ll names have been changed to honor anonymity in the examples and stories used throughout this book.
I strongly encourage the reader to keep a journal or notebook at hand so as to be able to respond to the exercises presented in various chapters. I also suggest you use a highlighter to emphasize the messages and words that speak to you. This allows you to readily find the information that was significant to your life.
I speak to you very personally, so throughout your reading be cognizant of your breathing, pause, and take deep breaths to stay grounded and to be able to hear the message.
To help with this you will see the icon suggesting a pause.
www.emdria.org Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
www.iitap.com International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (sex addiction and trauma) (IITAP)
www.nbcc.org National Board of Certified Counselors
therapists.psychologytoday.com is a directory of therapists, counselors, support groups, and treatment centers in the United States
findtreatment.samhsa.gov/locator/stateagencies links to state mental health agencies lists of mental health and/or addiction programs and professionals within each state
naadac.org/sap-directory
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