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Acknowledgments
So many peoples lives have crossed my path. Some have joined me, some have declined, some stayed awhile and left, and all have made a profound impact on my life and soul. Many teachers have brought me to this point in my life. Some of them are formal teachers, like Dr. William Easson, who captivated my interested in the workings of the human mind. Others taught in different ways, like my brother Bob, who taught me that there was meaning beyond the sounds of silence; my sister Pam, who responded so selflessly; my sister Pat, whose death when I was a young boy awakened my journey; and Steve, a young client I encountered early in my career, who taught me to be comfortable with the strange and unpredictable.
My children, too, have been teachers, sent to me from beyond: Laura Shawn, whose insistence on the musical and wondrous is an inspiration; and Karl, who taught me that nothing this life dishes out is any reason to quit or give up. Some of my children arrived in my life at a later point and already on their journey: Laura K, who taught me that the size of a person resides in their heart and enthusiasm; and Stephanie, who taught me that gentle and quiet are deep and strong places.
For unwavering loyalty and support, I thank my office manager, Kathy R., whose steady patience reminds me to keep from complicating things, and that simple is good, and also thank Simon. Teachers also appeared in the form of my mistakes, which were lifes corrective messages. I think I listened to most of them, and when I didnt, they kept coming back until I did.
Thank you to Jess OBrien and Jess Beebe at New Harbinger Publications for your patience, suggestions, and encouragement throughout this most challenging journey. Your ideas have made their mark on this book. A special thank you to Jasmine, copy editor extraordinaire. From beginning to end, your skill and grace are infused throughout this book. You helped me create a book that is both readable and useful.
Then there is Kathy, my love, my strength, my friend, my inspiration. Your patience, love, and acceptance of me have touched me deeply. Without you standing by and paying attention to everything, including all of the details of daily life, I could not have written this book. Your honesty about which parts of my manuscript had more or less merit allowed me the freedom and creativity to explore during the writing process without having to worry if I made sense. Now that I think about it, I guess this also applies to how you have handled me in general. We are truly on a journey together, and I cant wait for the next episode. With spacious love and gratitude I hold you in my heart always.
Introduction
Mindfulness is a way of being in the world. Being mindful means responding, not reacting, to the ever-present flow of events and experiences in your life with patience, openness, and compassion. Unfortunately, many of us have been conditioned to believe that we must protect ourselves from life and its experiences from a place of fear. This fear can harden you and influence the way you relate to yourself and your world, and ultimately create a great deal of suffering. Suffering doesnt lie in what occurs, it lies in resisting or fighting what occurs. But what if the true nature of the flow of your experiences is actually quite different from what you perceive and are reacting to? What if you could learn to observe the flow of your experiences without judgment, preconception, or distraction?