Copyright Page
2016 by Jim Putman
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
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Ebook edition created 2016
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ISBN 978-1-4934-0494-0
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Endorsements
Eugene Petersen once said, It is hard being myself, by myself. Ubuntu is a popular phrase in South Africa that means We are, therefore I am. Jim Putman gets this profound truth about our design by God as relational beings and provides a path for us to discover it with power in our all about me culture.
Randy Frazee , senior minister of Oak Hills Church; author of The Connecting Church 2.0
Jim Putman helpfully shows us that the Just Jesus and me attitude of so many Christians is not only unbiblical but soul destroying and faith killing. Discipleship happens in relationships, period. As Jim points out, all the fruits of the Spirit are others-related. This book not only paints a positive, compelling vision for Christian community, it charts the way forward. Both pastors and dissatisfied Christians will find this book a refreshing, practical, and helpful read.
J. D. Greear , pastor of The Summit Church in Raleigh-Durham, North Carolina; author of Stop Asking Jesus into Your Heart
Jim is known for his commitment to Jesuss relational method for disciple making. But in this book he challenges the definition of spiritual maturity most accepted in the American church. He asks and answers the question, what is spiritual maturity? He makes the point that most Christians are not experiencing all that Jesus has for them, and the result is a faith that does not satisfy them, does not create stability in a shaky world, and does not attract the lost. This book gives everyone a better goal to shoot for and asks each of us questions that we need to answer about ourselves. Jims advice in this book can help you be all that Jesus desires you to be and help the church become a light in a dark world again.
Josh McDowell , author and speaker
Through humor, pain, life experience, and a biblical foundation, The Power of Together will raise your vision to new heights for the power of relationships in Gods family. Jim Putman will inspire you to fight for authentic, life-giving, and soul-building relationships.
Gene Appel , senior pastor of Eastside Christian Church
Jim Putmans The Power of Together touched me deeply. Most of the mistakes people make in attempting to be a disciple is to think information is the key to transformation. No one believes more in the power of Scripture and is more faithful than Jim to preach it. But what the people from afar dont see is Jims commitment to relationships, how he lives it, and how powerful they are. This book plumbs the depth of the human soul in a simple, powerful way. You cant read this book without changingI know it ministered deeply to me.
Bill Hull , author of Conversion & Discipleship: You Can t Have One without the Other ; leader of The Bonhoeffer Project
Dedication
To my parents,
Bill and Bobbi Putman,
who first showed me what discipleship and real relationship look like.
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
1. Something Is Definitely Missing
2. Hardwired to Connect
3. What Is Spiritual Maturity?
4. The Gospel of Relationship
5. Made for Family
6. Pride: The Spiritual Family Killer
7. A Better Return for Our Labor
8. A Helping Hand
9. Defeating the Enemy Together
10. A City on a Hill
11. So How Do I Grow Up?
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
1
Something Is Definitely Missing
As a former high school and college wrestler, I can tell you that I needed to learn to deal with pain. Few people understand what it takes to be a wrestler (the real kindnot WWE). The hard work, the extreme cardio endurance to maintain, the constant strain against joints, the jolting of the spineall of it is painful, and for many athletes the pain becomes cumulative and lifelong.
Wrestlers must practice extreme discipline when it comes to diet and water intake as well. Every day they keep one eye on the fridge and one on the scale. They weigh in before every match, and sometimes they weigh in on multiple days in a row. After they weigh in, they eat like crazy to get strength to wrestle, and then they begin dieting again to make weight (achieve the optimum weight level for their wrestling classification) the next day. These days, most schools and wrestling programs have rules that make wrestling far healthier for those who participate, but back when I wrestled I would often fluctuate fifteen pounds a week during wrestling season. Practices such as these can lead to an unhealthy view of food for the rest of a wrestlers life.
One lasting effect of all that weight watching is that some former wrestlers want to eat and drink more than we need to, as we try to make up for years of missing Thanksgiving meals, Sunday dinners, and midnight Taco Bell runs. Since we didnt get to eat often when we wrestled, we developed the habit of being picky about food. When we did eat, it had to be food we really liked as well as substantial enough to get our bodies through the workouts. Why waste one of our few precious meals eating food we didnt like? Once I tasted something I loved, I didnt care to try something new. I particularly loved lasagnaspecifically, my mothers lasagna. She always made it from the same recipe, and it was always perfect.
Putting all this togetherthe constant obsession Id developed as a wrestler with eating, a pattern of eating only the exact food I liked because Id grown picky, and a really good lasagna recipe from my motherled to some interesting times when I was first married.
I was still wrestling competitively when Lori and I got married in college. One morning when my wife (who hadnt had a lot of experience cooking or with wrestlers) asked what I wanted for dinner that night, I told her about my favorite dinner, lasagna. My new bride smiled and told me she would fix it for me. After being far away from my parents home for a while, and not eating much because I was in the middle of a wrestling season, I was thrilled. I thought about the upcoming dinner all day.