Joshua Becker - Things That Matter: Overcoming Distraction to Pursue a More Meaningful Life

Discover how to overcome eight common distractions to build a meaningful, no-regrets life in this practical guide from the bestselling author of The More of Less and The Minimalist Home--
Product Description
Discover practical steps you can take today to live a life focused on things that matter, from the bestselling author of The More of Less and The Minimalist Home.
Things That Matter points the way to free ourselves from the distractions of everyday life so that we can build the lives we seek to create.Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project
Do you want to live a meaningful lifewith very few regretsand make a positive difference in the world? But is culture distracting you from doing so? Perhaps moments, days, and years go by without you stopping to ask yourself, Am I living out my true purpose? Even if that question whispers to you, are you brushing it aside because you dont know what to change in lifes busyness?
In Things That Matter, Joshua Becker helps you identify the obstaclessuch as fear, technology, money, possessions, and the opinions of othersthat keep you from living with intention, and then he provides practical ideas for letting go of those distractions today so you can focus on what matters most. He uses practical exercises and questions, insights from a nationwide survey, and success stories to give you the motivation you need to
identify the pursuits that matter most to you
align your dreams with your daily priorities
recognize how money and possessions keep you from happiness
become aware of how others opinions of you influence your choices
embrace what youre truly passionate about instead of planning that next escape
figure out what to do with all those emails, notifications, and pings
let go of past mistakes and debilitating habits
Things That Matter is a book about living well. Its about overcoming the chatter of a world focused on all the wrong things. Its about rethinking the common assumptions of today to find satisfaction and fulfillment tomorrow.
How do we get to the end of our lives with minimal regrets? We set aside lesser pursuits to seek lasting meaning. And we discover the joy of doing it every day.
Review
The thought-provoking insights and stories inside Things That Matter will help you live your one precious life with more presence, purpose, and peace.Rachel Macy Stafford, New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama
Things That Matter is a must-read to recenter yourself and filter out the distractions of the world. Chris Norton, motivational keynote speaker featured in 7 Yards
Reminding us that chasing fame and fortune squanders our precious life energy, Joshua offers a compassionate guide to finding what really matters. Robert J.Waldinger,MD, professor of psychiatryatHarvard Medical School
Joshua shares his insight from the perspective of a caring friend who wants to help you move beyond the regret-and-avoidance cycle into purposeful living.Dawn Madsen, The Minimal Momandauthor ofDeclutter Your Home in 15 Minutes a Day
This delightful guide full of impactful and practical information will lead you through many of the roadblocks you may be facing.Ronald L. Banks,speaker, writer, and coach
Things That Matter is required reading for anyone seeking practical guidance on how to confront lifes many distractions andmore importantlyhow to overcome them.Christine Platt,author of The Afrominimalists Guide to Living with Less
By removing the distractions outlined in this book, we are able to clear the clutter and create space to build life balance, personal growth, and purpose.Dave Braun and Troy Amdahl(The OolaGuys),experts onwork-life balance
This books siren callthat we should aim to be generous, not wealthy, and get dirt under our fingernails by serving otherscements Joshuas status as a much-needed voice of reason and kindness in the modern world.Helen Russell, bestselling author of Howto Be Sad
Every once in a while you read a book that can save you years (or decades) of angst, disappointment, and missed attempts at finding significance and contentment. This is one of those books, packed with wisdom and insight.Carey Nieuwhof, bestselling author, speaker, and podcast host
Joshuas work and this book are a beautiful combination of wisdom, warmth, and practical advice to help us live with intention and meaning. We have the power to make choices every day to do more of what truly mattersand Joshua offers us practical suggestions to do this.Nataly Kogan, bestselling author of The Awesome Human Project
Ten years from now it wont really matter what shoes you wore today, how your hair looked, or what brand of clothes you wore. What will matter is how you lived, how you loved, and what you learned along the way. And Things That Matter is a beautiful guide for getting there.Marc and Angel Chernoff, New York Times bestselling authors ofGetting Back to Happy
About the Author
Joshua Becker, the bestselling author of The More of Less and The Minimalist Home, is the founder of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to inspiring others to find more life by owning less. The website welcomes over 1.5 million readers each month and has inspired millions around the world to consider the practical benefits of owning fewer possessions. He is a contributing writer to Forbes and has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, HuffPost Live, and the CBS Evening News. Joshua and his family live in Peoria, Arizona.
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1
A Life with No Regrets
Beginning with a View to the End
We are not given a short life but we make it short, and we are not ill-supplied but wasteful of it. . . .
Life is long if you know how to use it.
Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for people during the last weeks of their lives, routinely asked her patients about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently if they could. Later she posted an article called Regrets of the Dying about her findings. In it, Ware wrote of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gained at the end of their lives as well as the common themes that surfaced again and again during these conversations. This article has been shared millions of times online and was turned into a book in 2012.
Its a fascinating premise, isnt it? What do people most regret about their lives?
Im not going to include the list here. Instead, I want to ask you: How badly do you want to know whats on it? How tempted are you to google the article right now so you can see the top regrets that people have at the end of their lives? And more importantly, where does that desire to know the regrets of the dying come from? Isnt the strength of your interest proof that youre concerned that your life might be wasted?
(Now that Ive got you thinking about that, if you still want to know what the list is, you can turn to the first endnote at the back of this book and find the list there.)
Why did a list about other peoples dying regrets go viral? Its because we all know thats going to be us nearing death someday and we dont want to have regrets when we get there. And also, I believe, because were already starting to have regrets about our life choices.
For people in middle age, and even for people in young adulthood, its common to have nagging anxiety that were squandering our time and resources on things that are not important while not focusing enough on the things and people that really do matter. And we can easily imagine that well be sorry about it someday if we dont make a change. Yet on and on we go, putting the inconsequential ahead of the imperative.
On and on we go, putting the inconsequential ahead of the imperative.
Somethings got to change here. And theres only so much time ahead in each of our lives to make the change.
Were always going to make some foolish decisions along the way that we wish we could take back. So its probably not possible to live a life with absolutely no regrets. But it most certainly is possible to make changes that take us off the easy path of immersing ourselves in the ordinary and the immediate and put us onto a more intentional path that leads to a life that satisfies and resonates beyond our own mortal existencea life well lived. Presented with the choice, dont we all want a life of fewer regrets and more fulfillment?
One day, not long ago, I was forced to come face to face with something I just had to do before I died. And I want to tell you about it now, because its related to you.
One Thing
In October 2019, I sat with a number of team members from my staff at a conference called Start Finishing, at the K Main Street Learning Lab in Mesa, Arizona. Charlie Gilkey, author of a book with the same title as the conference, was our presenter for the day. Charlie told us he wanted us to be specific in applying the principles of the workshop to the most important work in our lives. To help us determine what that work was, he said, Close your eyes and answer this question: If you were to die today, what is the one project you would be most disappointed that you werent able to complete?
After asking ourselves the question, we shared around the table what work we saw as most important. The young woman next to me mentioned an art project she wanted to complete. A mother of two spoke about her desire to prepare her two teenagers for life. For me, without hesitation, I answered Charlies question this way: If I were to die today, I would be most disappointed that I never got a chance to write that book Ive been thinking about for a long time now.
I bet you can guess what book it was.
Its the one youre reading right now.
For a while, Id been thinking about writing a book that takes the principles of minimalism I am known for and paints a bigger picture of how distractions keep us from meaning, purpose, and satisfaction. And at that very moment in the Learning Lab, writing Things That Matter became my highest-priority task. Because there is one message that drives me more than any otherand its not helping people clean out their closets, as useful as that is. The one message that burns most in my heart is the invitation to live an intentional, meaningful life. Apart from my faith and my family, this message is what I most want to be remembered for after Im gone.
Ive been reading and writing and talking about this subject for years, which has given me the opportunity to pick up many viewpoints and stories. Now Im bringing all the most important insights together in one volume, focusing especially on how to achieve the focus that is required to live according to your priorities. In Things That Matter, I want to show you what you need to clear away from your life to transition to more intentional living.
Living a life of purpose is important not just to me or to a few others like me. Its important to all of us, because we all have at least one thing (probably more) that we feel we just have to do before we die. And Im not talking about bucket-list items like ride in a hot-air balloon. Im talking about living in a way that makes a difference. Im talking about knowing our lives matter and make an impact on the world in a positive way, that our existences mean something.
This brings me to you. Let me ask you the same question Charlie Gilkey asked me: If you were to die today, what one thing (or few things) would you be most disappointed that you werent able to complete? Please dont just cruise past that question. Stop and think about it. Identify your top-level goals, clearly and specifically.
If you were to die today, what one thing (or few things) would you be most disappointed that you werent able to complete?
In preparation for writing this book, I commissioned a nationally representative pollthe Things That Matter Surveythat asked a number of questions related to the themes of this book. Ill be referring to the survey findings regularly in the chapters to come, and I believe youll find the results fascinating. To start with, one question we asked was Would you say that you have identified a clear purpose, or purposes, for your life? I was pleased to see that 70 percent of respondents answered yes. Another 19 percent answered no, while 11 percent were unsure.
Do you know your purpose or purposes? If the answer is no or you are unsure (like 30 percent of the poll participants), I invite you to go to the Discover Your Purposes exercise at the end of this book. It will help you methodically think through the desires that land at the intersection of your passions, your abilities, and the needs of the world. Youll see what works of service youre suited for and drawn toward doing.
If youre a part of the 70 percent and you think you know your purpose, thats wonderful. Nevertheless, I encourage you to keep your mind open, because this book most likely will help you refine or redefine the things that matter to you along the way.
Right now, I want you to start believing that its not too late to reorient your life around your purposes. You can do something now to live the life you want to live and eventually come to the end with fewer regrets.
You can do something now to live the life you want to live.
The theme of this book isnt a how to be happy message, though I believe living a life aligned with your values and passions is the quickest way to happiness in both the short term and the long term. This book is about so much more than how you feel; its about how you live the one life you have and how to keep it focused on the things that matter. I would go so far as to say the world needs you to live for the things that matter to you because youre at your most productive and influential self when youre offering your unique contribution.
There may be no greater pursuit for yourself and others than choosing to live a meaningful life focused on the things that matter.