Kevin Klix - Stop Unreality: A Guide to Conquering Depersonalization, Derealization, DPD, Anxiety & Depression

Relax and breathe. Youre safe. I want you to know that by picking up this book, each and every time you feel those feelings of depersonalization, derealization, anxiety, or depression, just remember that this is me, this is you, and we are in this together inside this book. We both want you to get better. We want you to get your life back. So anytime you feel afraid, Ill be your buddy in your arm or pocket to comfort you back into a peaceful, livable reality. So lets give this a conscious effort, shall we?

First and foremost, I would like to introduce myself. Im not a doctor, Im not a counselor, nor do I personally even think Im quite educated enough to discuss the topic of depersonalization, derealization, anxiety, or depression (DP/DR/A/D). But I will say that I have been a sufferer of them for many, many years, and have been through a lot of trial-and-error to know enough about a few things on this condition. So rather I should go ahead and forfeit my knowledge, now, and tell you that you should pick up a list of these books: Feeling Unreal by Daphne Simeon, M.D./Jeffrey Abugel; Overcoming Depersonalization Disorder by Fugen Neziroglu, Ph.D/Katharine Donnelly, M.A.; and Stranger to Myself by Jeffrey Abugel. Those books will tell you the science behind DP/DR/A/D. The authors of them are nice, excellent people who have researched the condition for years. Those books will help you as far as that is concerned. I know because they helped me during my time of distress. And I know they can help you, too.

But wait! You may be asking yourself this question: Why is this author-guy deterring me away from his very own book? Why is he telling me he knows nothing of DP/DR/A/D? Phooey! Im not going to READ this nonsense! Well, guess what, its true: Im not a doctor/counselor educated enough on the science behind DP/DR/A/D, but I will say that I can act as your friend. Many years I always asked myself if I was alone with DP/DR/A/D because the feelings themselves are unbearable and dreadfully isolating. They leave you with a sense of loneliness beyond physical imagination.

I am primarily a novelist. That should tell you a few things about me and my writing habits. Im a good talker and a good listener in my real day-to-day life. I want to be a speaker for you and the entire community of DP/DR/A/D suffers. I want to help you get better, fight off the discomfort of DP/DR/A/D, and give you a sense of hope for a better future. Can you somewhat level with me on that? If thats something you wouldnt be opposed to, thats what I can offer you within these pages.

I can try to describe to you the feeling of DP/DR/A/D if you are not a sufferer. But if you are a sufferer, youd know that the feeling is always in as-ifs. Its as if Im an inanimate object. Its as if Im a piece of decaying matter. Its as if Im just another life-form aimlessly floating about in a bottomless abyss. Its as if Im nothing. The life you feel is basically a non-existent movie that you cant seem to shake from. You look in the mirror and see yourself as a human, but you dont feel human. You feel like you lost your sense of Self or your sense of worth. You may feel like youll never get out of it or even begin to feel any better about yourself. Trust me, as your new friend, I know those exact feelings.

But let me ask you something that may be an open-ended question in your life: How can you know what you are describing if you arent human enough to describe it? This probably sounds strange, I know. But hear me out. The mind often tries to wrap itself around things that it cant quite fathom to be true. And, in a way, life is baffling, is absurd! How can I have two arms, two legs, a head, a brain, a body?! These things are not things that I chose to have! Where am I?! This is crazy! How is this life possible?! How can we be living here? What is my purpose? But thats why I asked you the first question: How can you know what you are describing if you arent human enough to describe it? It implies that you are, in fact, still human, still having a soul, still having a mind, which often times would give me, personally, a sense of comfort during my days when DP/DR/A/D was at its worst peak. So keep that hope alive!

In this book I will discuss the idea of treatment with Mindfulness & Acceptance, Vitamins, Supplements, Medications to take into consideration, and debunking vicious-cycle existential/worrisome thoughts (or Pure-O, as YouTubers sometimes refer to it) that can trigger your feelings of DP/DR/A/D (my personal cause of it all). So, in essence, what Im giving you in not case-studiesIm simply a friend. Thats what Im getting at. I hope you understand.

So, as your new friend, I want to have you do an exercise. Take this book with you, go up to a mirror. Look at yourself. Look at your eyes, your face, your hands. Look at the body you haveyou havenobody elseand be proud of this gift. You are you, and not one person can ever be you. That is an impossibility. And with this, you are your own person. But keep in mind, there are others around you, too, with minds, bodies, spirits, hope, dread, regret, and everything else life has to offer.

You are within life. You are here, and were glad you are! So look into that mirror there and say these unwanted words: Hi, I have Depersonalization/Derealization. Say this with a smile. Because, often, we think of it as a bad thing. This is actually a human function that is entirely helpful to you and your survival. But yes, we are going to get to that theory in a later chapter.

Now, I want to explain something. What that previous paragraph described was a grounding techniqueor mindfulness. How did you feel afterward? Maybe worse, maybe better, maybe nothing at all. But do not judge it. Accept the feelings and be proud of it, good or bad. Thats what Mindfulness & Acceptance is. That, too, is what well look more into in a later chapter.

Im here with you today simply to help. If you feel alone right now, just know that Im a geeky guy behind a word-processor and I have experienced the worst DP/DR/A/D imaginablein my personal opinionso dont feel so alone. Im here in this book, talking. So just listen, breathe, take in what I have to say, and just see if what Im saying is total bull or could actually help you with your DP/DR/A/D dilemma. Be open minded to my suggestions. Thats all I ask. If not, itll be hard for you to get better.