Carla Marie Manly - Aging Joyfully: A Womans Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond

Praise for Aging Joyfully

There are many ways to age, if we are fortunate enough to do it at all. No way comes without challenges that cant be avoided. But how we meet them and go beyond coping to experiencing joy and appreciation for the development and opportunities aging can bring is optional. Dr. Carla Marie Manly provides clear directions and insights for a successful, satisfying journey that rings true. This book is a life-changer that gives new meaning to the term self help.

Dr. Thelma Reese, coauthor (with Dr. Barbara Fleisher) of The New Senior Woman: Reinventing the Years beyond Mid-Life and The New Senior Man: Exploring New Horizons, New Opportunities

Aging Joyfully is an uplifting, essential read for every woman facing aging issues. Dr. Carla Marie Manly demonstrates beautifully that we each have the power to choose a path of joy in the inevitable aging journey. Dr. Manlys compassionate guidance promotes this essential shift: Aging can be beautifully empowering; it can offer every woman a new lease on life when its gifts are honored with grace and dedication. In the pages of Aging Joyfully, Dr. Manly moves the reader away from worry, doubt, and fear and into the creation of a most powerful, joyful future.

Orchid D. Johnson MS, PhD, LMFT, LPCC, and Board Certified PTSD Clinician

In Aging Joyfully, Dr. Carla Marie Manly projects aging holistically using grace, mindfulness, and humor. I am eager to share her wisdom with friends, colleagues, and nursing students to encourage approaching womens aging with understanding, compassion, and empathy.

Kathleen Rockett, MSN, RN, professor at Sonoma State University, BSN program

Aging Joyfully is a much-needed, empowering read for women of all ages. Whether youre in your 30s, 70s, or somewhere in between, this book takes the reader on an adventure into the heart and soul of womanhood. Dr. Carla Marie Manlys genuine, open style invites the reader to understand and embrace all aspects of her life. She covers a vast array of vital topics with clarity and ease. Aging Joyfully is a must-read for every woman who wants to live with intention and joy.

Joan Tabb, MA, author of Building Blocks for the NEW Retirement

Aging Joyfully offers the reader extraordinary insights for creating a joy-filled life. Although the journey of aging can be discomforting in many ways, Dr. Carla Marie Manly offers the reader comprehensive, reassuring wisdom. With a tone that is at once gentle and intelligent, Dr. Manly guides the reader step-by-step into the realm of aging with joy and grace.

Walter Tom, MD, FACS

In the pages of Aging Joyfully, Dr. Carla Marie Manly guides readers into a full appreciation of the freedom to be found in the later years of life. With an honest, humorous approach, she illuminates the unexpected delights of aging while offering expert insights into navigating aging challenges.

Erica Manfred, author of Im Old, So Why Arent I Wise?: Snarky Senior in the Sunshine State

The blend of intelligence and compassion in this beautiful book should help many women deal with the real issues in getting older. You will find guidance, understanding, and a positive but not unrealistic approach to aging. Dr. Manly is an excellent writer and has deep experience, both of which make this book stand out. You can trust it and be inspired to be your best self.

Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul and Ageless Soul

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Copyright 2019 by Carla Marie Manly, PhD

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

2019935097

Print ISBN 9781641701419

Ebook ISBN 9781641702102

Printed in the United States of America

Edited by Laurie Duersch and Peg Sandkam

Cover design by Derek George and Carlos Guerrero

Book design by Brooke Jorden

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A Womans Guide to Optimal Health,

Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond

CARLA MARIE MANLY, PHD

Preface

I t is one of my greatest privileges and joys in life to be a guide to others. My work has been informed by countless mentors, authors, and psychotherapists who have blessed me with their wisdom and talents. Manyfrom Carl Jung to Thomas Moorehave paved the way for me, and it is with humble gratitude that I honor their brilliant contributions to the world and my own life.

Given the poignant, intimate nature of this book and the aging process in general, it is important for the reader to consult with a primary care provider and engage professional psychological support whenever needed. As you journey into greater awareness and well-being, may you find and embrace the joy, love, and connection you so richly deserve.

Please note that the case studies and examples in this book are representative amalgamations. Although names and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy, the challenges and journeys are real. No story, case study, or example is intended to, nor do they, depict any singular person, event, or situation.

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to you, the reader. Thank you for having the courage and desire to embrace the years before you with love and joy. You have the power to live every day of your life filled with purpose, passion, and delight. May you feel the light of my loving and supportive friendship throughout your journey.

Love, I am ever grateful to have you by my side and in my heart. Thank you for sharing this beautiful adventure of love and life with me. Love never fails.

Introduction

I f you are a woman approachingor already withinyour fifties or sixties, its likely that the array of changes you are encountering is at least somewhat disconcerting for you. From sagging skin and libido fluctuations to the uncharted territory of retirement, these changeable decades of life can be filled with oddities and unknowns. As a result, some women are absolutely terrified by the transition into their more mature years. Many feel an uneasy mixture of emotions, from occasional anxiety to chronic irritation. Some are angry as they fume in frustration at what seems like yet another stage in their forced march away from youth. Still others find joy and graceful ease in this new era of life, welcoming these interesting decades as a time to create greater individuality and freedom. These rare women seem to have discovered the art of aging with wisdom and powerful grace. If you find yourself yearning to join those who delight in these precious, mature years of life, Aging Joyfully is your warm and loving guide.

In truth, no book or doctors waiting room can promise you a quick remedy for the challenges that might come your way. What I can offer you, however, is more valuable than any temporary cure. I can promise you this: When you embrace your journey with wisdom and loving awareness, you will find freedom through true understanding and acceptance. Your heart will be filled with joy and serenity as you come to appreciate and honor your life and the adventures ahead.