Jack N. Raven - How Not to Give a Shit!: The Art of Not Caring

The Art of Not Caring

How Not To Give A Shit!

Jack N. Raven

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the purpose of this book is to give you the tools or the off-switch, when necessary to prevent you from caring too much! There is inherent power in being a psychopath as it were, of not being too emotionally invested and operating with more logic and control of over our primal instincts and emotional urges.

The true professional!

The ideal is to achieve the power inherent with the natural psychopaths while retaining our humanities. To have full control of our emotions, be in touch with them without being enslaved.

This book contains tools to make you understand why we care too much, that it incapacitates or hampers our performances, preventing us from maximizing our potentials and getting the job done.

What I did in this book is lay out a minefield so you can navigate them better. Better understanding of the nature of the beast (The Carebear lol), will allow you to tame it.

It is my goal that by the end of this book youll have something to practice out in the real world. That youd have installed an OFF switch in your mind that will let you turn off the caring mechanism should you desire it.

Survival and Replication values

In evolutionary psychology there are only two things important in life. Survival and Replication. Survival is anything that helps you survive and increase the quality of life. This could be money, properties, social alliances, power etc. Having lots of material potential allows you to increase your survival quotient. Some like the above increase both S and R values!

Replication value is anything that will allow you to spread your genes! Having gorgeous face and body, creates attraction within us because they are health indicators they make good mates wholl improve our genetic pools and produce healthy off-springs!

Almost anything in life can be reduced to these 2 values. We emotionally react to anything that threatens or can quite possibly may improve it. And to stop caring is to stop reacting! A hot chick passes by, you probably cant help but check her out and feel aroused! The prospect of making lots of money makes some of us excited. Anything that threatens to take them away, creates the opposite emotional reaction within us.

All in all at the very core a lot of it is just due to Survival and Replication values plus things that may affect our egos in some fashion. Anything that doesn't directly affect the S&R but damages our self-esteem and self-image is an example of caring due to ego issues which is another matter. At time it can get tricky not knowing if the influence comes from the unconscious mind or the ego/pride.

Receiving credit for a job well done, without seeking recognition is completely different from someone doing things entirely for the purpose of getting their egos stroked! That is ego influenced caring. Suppose someone is doing his best, completely committed to closing that multi-million dollar transaction, is that merely pride or trying to improve his financial holdings? Survival value increase if he succeeds in closing that deal after all.

How about those lame guys we constantly hear about, no self-respect left, he does everything the girl thinks she wants, and anything that he believes will impress her? All to no avail, he still gets rejected, disrespected and hurt, but spew he trudges on! If he succeeds? Thats replication value for him!

It is never good to solely decide on courses of action youll take for the praises youll get. Even if you succeed you are still supplicating or living in reaction to people like a puppet! You are still trying to validate your self worth by how others react to you! Self-worth and core self-esteem comes from knowing your real values regardless of others contrarian opinions.

For one reason or another let's say for political gains you may need to gain people's favor, empathy, respect and validation-which are valid reasons in this case to seek it! In this sort of situation you are no longer doing it to feed your ego but for actual material gains.

Although they may seem identical-trying to get validation from people and getting their approval etc. they are not identical. One is entirely concerned and perhaps care too much of what other people are thinking and saying. The politician or the tactician on the other hand only cares because of the actual, tangible, material benefits it will give him!

He couldn't care less what they think of him personally as long as it gets the job done and gets the desired results!

He's not surrendering his power nor self-worth or value to the opinion of others He may care what they think AS A WHOLE, for political gains but on a personal level? He just doesnt give a flying fuck!

If you are not careful you can get stuck in the same routines doing things for the glory and the praises instead of the actual tangible benefits from those courses of action. It is this very same addiction that could later on take its toll on you because you are doing things in supplication without realizing it. Who really is in control of you? Are you doing it for you or for others reactions?

Supplication is caring too much what they think that everything you do is motivated one way or another by their opinions! It is a position of lameness or weakness to go through life just wanting to impress everyone in your life! Be naturally impressive and theyll get impressed, but dont do it because you care of what they think and want to impress-big difference! Do things for you and the benefits, not because theyre going to stroke your ego.

There is inherently nothing wrong with people naturally being impressed by your accomplishments ; consequently receiving credit where it's due. Many, perhaps too many don't realize theyre becoming enslaved by external validation. Thinking they are in command of their lives but deep down actually just want the approval and validations coming from their peers.

It's a Catch-22 trap or a vicious cycle which can get addicting if we don't hold it in check.

Music to our years whenever we get good compliments and praises. We want more of anything good! If we dont? It sucks so bad we need to get our next fix from the next thing! A vicious cycle indeed.

Sometimes it is not enough to change your values and internal programmings to stop caring or giving a shit. You may need to manually manipulate the feelings and discharge the emotions. In order to do that you can employ NLP, hypnosis but the more preferred tools are either Sedona method or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). They are designed specifically for that purpose: discharge emotions. The metaphor which could explain how this works is that underneath, structures and roots make up the emotions.

By chopping down on the root causes of emotions, you can from the ground up minimize or completely eliminate the entire emotional energies powering it-thus disabling and rendering it impotent.

Some problems can only be fixed by emotionally and energetically discharging or chopping down the roots of the problems, not merely eliminating the symptoms-not even addressing the problem logically!

Others require more and need the rebuilding of the internal programs that make it up. For the most part it is beneficial to combine techniques.

Discharge & Reprogram the mental and emotional programs and influences from the inside-out.

How does it feel?