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2016 by
LINDA DILLOW AND JULI SLATTERY
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Though the stories are true, some names and details have been changed to protect privacy.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Dillow, Linda.
Title: Surprised by the healer : embracing hope for your broken story / Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery.
Description: Chicago : Moody Publishers, 2016. | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2015039126 | ISBN 9780802413406
Subjects: LCSH: Sexual abuse victimsReligious life. | Abused womenReligious life. | Christian womenReligious life. | SexReligious aspectsChristianity.
Classification: LCC BV4596.A2 D55 2016 | DDC 261.8/3272dc23 LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2015039126
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To the nine brave women who shared their stories, exalting the Healer and giving hope to countless others with broken stories.
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CONTENTS
2. Marians Story
Exchanging Lies for Truth
3. Hopes Story
Coming Out of Hiding
4. Lorraines Story
Walking in Forgiveness
5. Anns Story
Taking a Step
6. Angels Story
Experiencing Jesus Radical Love
7. Amys Story
Surrendering to the Power of God to Change You
8. Ritas Story
Making Peace with a Broken Life
9. Kathys Story
Discovering a Gift in Your Pain
10. Alaines Story
Living a Transformed Life
Dear Friend,
W e are so grateful that you are holding Surprised by the Healer in your hands! Why? Because we believe this book will breathe hope into youbody, soul, and spirit. We began talking and praying about this book three years ago, long before we began to write it.
Over the course of decades, we have met many women who are suffering from wounds in the most intimate area of their liveswounds caused by broken vows, past mistakes, sexual addictions, and the trauma of sexual abuse. Because this brokenness is so private, women typically dont reach out for hope or help. Instead, they limp along, assuming that their stories will never be rewritten.
Regardless of how put together they look, many of the women around you also have broken stories. This book is for you and for them. It contains the powerful stories of nine honest, brave women whose lives demonstrate that God is the healer of emotional, relational, and sexual brokenness. We pray that you will see that He has the power to redeem your pain and story too!
Whether you are single or married, young or not so young, no matter the circumstances of your brokenness, we invite you to be surprised by the Healers work in your story.
May God be with you as you read,
O ur eyes scanned the delectable delights before us: pecan-crusted salmon, warm homemade rolls, and Mississippi mud brownies. No one would be dieting at this luncheon.
Twelve women encircled the table, talking as only women can about the enticing lunch that they didnt have to cook. No preparation, no cleanupthe meal was a cherished treat. But this special luncheon wasnt only about food but also an occasion to thank each woman for her work in bringing the Authentic Intimacy conference to Ohio.
As different women talked about their excitement for the conference, Anns words caught our attention: I want wives to see that it is a privilege to minister to their husbands sexually.
Perhaps you have an immediate idea of what kind of woman would make such a statement. Maybe you picture Ann as someone who lives in a fairy-tale land where everything looks picture perfect. Or maybe you assume she must have grown up in a nurturing and healthy home. In either case, you would be wrong. Anns background is one of horrific sexual abuse and humiliation followed by promiscuity. She and her husband have struggled through three decades of healing, taking steps to learn to love each other emotionally, spiritually, and sexually.