Endorsements
Curt is adept at identifying and applying Scripture in winsome and practical ways to the many types of tensions and conflicts that plague human relationships, especially in the church. Most importantly, Curt loves the gospel of Christ and realizes that it provides the motive, the method, and the power for peacemaking.
from the foreword by Ken Sande , founder of Peacemaker Ministries and Relational Wisdom 360
The Peacemaking Church provides exactly what Christians need to stop fighting one another and instead turn their attention toward fighting to protect the peace and purity of the church. If you are exhausted from the devastation of church conflict, you will be refreshed. If you are discouraged, you will find hope.
Tara Barthel , coauthor of Redeeming Church Conflicts , Peacemaking Women , and Living the Gospel in Relationships
Dont miss this beautifully woven, transparent, amazing, and providential journey of grace! You and your church will be better prepared for the uncertain future we all face in a world and culture that seeks anything but unity.
David V. Edling , coauthor of Redeeming Church Conflicts
Out of the pain of church conflict comes a refreshingly biblical and practical guide for building peace, resolving conflict, and preserving unity in the body of Christ. Get this book!
Rev. Dr. Alfred Poirier , author of The Peacemaking Pastor
Now heres a topic too often overlooked but never taken for granted by healthy churches. The honesty and biblical wisdom shared by Curtis Heffelfinger will do great good in any church willing to walk this path of grace and peace.
Collin Hansen , editorial director of the Gospel Coalition and author of Blind Spots
Curtis Heffelfinger offers biblical help and counsel here. Pastors and church leaders will be instructed and edified as they think through his exposition and reflect on its application in their own local churches.
Ligon Duncan , PhD , chancellor and CEO of Reformed Theological Seminary
I am grateful for Curts timely and winsome book. Churches that lack a vision for peacemaking will find this book inspirational. Peacemakers seeking practical help on how to lead churches through conflict will find it rich with wisdom and guidance. I highly recommend church leaders read this gem and get a copy into the hands of their ministry team members as soon as possible.
Judy Dabler , president of Creative Conciliation
Pastor Curt casts a vision for every church to become a true peacemaking church. This book is a refreshing personal testimony about how to resolve conflict in a biblically faithful manner and love others as Jesus loves us. I didnt want to put it down!
Judy Steidl , COO of ICC Peace
Curt delivers a cornucopia of rich peacemaking produce cultivated over decades of life as a son, husband, dad, and pastor. Pastors, church leaders, church members, and believers of all stripes will benefit from reading it. Putting its eight biblical keys into practice will inevitably lead to a harvest of peace. This book, as with Curts life, has taught me much. It prompted a very healthy self-examination, one we all need regularly if we want to be agents of peace and unity within the relational matrices of our lives.
David A. Sims, JD , PhD , author of The Child in American Evangelicalism and The Problem of Affluence
Curt humbly springs from his own pastoring experience to call all of us to, as Paul instructs, maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. We are to liveand walk and worshiptogether in love, humility, gentleness, and patience. With vivid storytelling, Curt demonstrates how making these choices in all our relationships and in our churches can bring us together in healing, respect, and kindness. And thus reflect to our broken world a true image of our Savior.
Judy Douglass , director of Womens Resources, Cru
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2018 by Curtis Heffelfinger
Published by Baker Books
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.bakerbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2018
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meansfor example, electronic, photocopy, recordingwithout the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-1530-4
Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2011
Some names and details have been changed to protect the privacy of the individuals involved.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to the covenant members
of Orlando Grace Church.
Thank you for being eager to preserve
the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Contents
Cover
Endorsements
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Foreword by Ken Sande
Introduction: Feeling the Pains That Spoil Unity in Jesuss Churchthe Orlando Grace Story
1. Our Best and Nothing Less
Part One: Embracing the Priorities That Preserve Unity in Jesuss Church
2. Seeing Ourselves as Peacemakers in the Right Light
3. Shaping Our Approach as Peacemakers with the Right Touch
4. Basing Our Thinking as Peacemakers on the Right Doctrine
Part Two: Avoiding the Pitfalls That Threaten Unity in Jesuss Church
5. Murdering: Staying out of Prisonthe How of Settling Disputes
6. Litigating: Staying in the Churchthe Where of Settling Disputes
7. Judging: Staying off the Thronethe Why of Settling Disputes
8. Intercepting Relational Disasters before They Ever Occur
9. Honoring Spiritual Leaders for Their Exceptional Work
Epilogue: Savoring the Pleasures That Accompany Unity
Acknowledgments
Notes
Subject Index
Scripture Index
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Back Cover
Foreword
Where two or three come together in Jesuss name... there will soon be conflict.
This fact is reflected throughout the New Testament epistles, most of which deal with some kind of conflict in the early church.
These same types of conflict have kept me busy for thirty-five years.
As a full-time peacemaker and mediator, I have been involved in thousands of conflicts involving Christians. Divorces, child custody disputes, lawsuits between Christians, forced pastoral exits, church splits, abuse of children, even fistfights on the church board... you name it, Ive seen it.
But Ive also seen something else: the redeeming power of the gospel of Christ.
In case after case, when nearly everyone had given up hope of reconciliation, God suddenly broke through. Hearts softened. People finally saw and grieved over their sins. Confession replaced confrontation. Forgiveness replaced fighting.
Some of these breakthroughs were so dramatic they moved seasoned attorneys to tears. One lawyer was so caught up in the spirit of reconciliation that he pulled out his personal checkbook and asked to pay part of the damages his client finally admitted he owed to the opposing party. In another case, an attorney pulled me aside and said, There is a power in this room. I can feel it. What is it?
I love those questions... the answer, of course, is Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace!
As wonderful as it is to see conflicts resolved and relationships restored, it is even better to see them prevented in the first place as people cultivate and practice the relational skills described in Scripture. This is why I love this book: it provides practical wisdom on how to resolve conflicts in the church, but even more importantly it shows how an entire congregation can cultivate character qualities and relational skills that will prevent most conflicts from starting in the first place.