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Matthew McKay, PhD, is a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He has authored and coauthored numerous books, including The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Self-Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings, When Anger Hurts, and ACT on Life Not on Anger. He has also penned two fiction novels, Us and The Wawona Hotel. McKay received his PhD in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, and specializes in the cognitive behavioral treatment of anxiety and depression. He lives and works in the Bay Area.
Sen Laoire, PhD, is a Catholic priest and licensed clinical psychologist specializing in transpersonal psychology. Laoire regularly lectures and conducts scientific research on the effects of prayer. In addition, he is cofounder and spiritual director of Companions on the Journey (COJ), a popular Silicon Valley spiritual community which seeks to recognize the God/divinity within the self. He has a private counseling practice in Los Altos, CA.
Ralph Metzner, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist and professor emeritus at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, CA. He has authored and coauthored several books, including The Unfolding Self, The Well of Remembrance, Green Psychology, The Roots of War and Domination, Know Your Type, and Sacred Vine of Spirits.
At its core, this book allows the modern Western mind to explore the deep meaning of an ageless, universal truth: Earth is a place where souls are sent to evolve. Why? goes beyond philosophy and offers practical guidelines for mindfully participating in ones own evolutionary process.
Michael A. Singer, author of the New York Times bestseller, The Untethered Soul
If you have ever wondered why youre here and what your purpose is, this clear, short book, written by three wise and compassionate beings, will not only help you get your answers, but, more importantly, let you understand more deeply how to live a life attuned with your destiny.
James Fadiman, PhD, cofounder of Sofia University; author of Psychedelic Explorers Guide: Safe, Therapeutic, and Sacred Journeys
Happiness happens when we remove the blinders and obstacles, so we can see what was there all along. This very wise book is a gem. If you are seeking greater fulfillment and joy in your life, please avail yourself of this splendid, simple, and practical guide.
Larry Dossey, MD, author of The Power of Premonitions and Reinventing Medicine
In this book, timeless questions surrounding life purpose and calling are addressed in accessible, inspirational, and practical ways. A relevant book for anyone, at any age, in any culture!
Angeles Arrien, PhD, cultural anthropologist, author of The Four-Fold Way and Living in Gratitude
This little book has a very big goal, nothing less than helping readers discover their life purpose. They accomplish this task by pulling from the wisdom of the past, as well as by providing provocative exercises that direct readers toward self-knowledge. Many books have similar goals, but few have succeeded as well as McKay, Laoire, and Metzner, and have done so in such an engaging and reader-friendly style.
Stanley Krippner, PhD, coauthor of Personal Mythology and Demystifying Shamans and Their World
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Publishers Note
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Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright 2013 by Matthew McKay, Sen Laoire, and Ralph Metzner
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
5674 Shattuck Avenue
Oakland, CA 94609
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Cover design by Amy Shoup; Text design by Michele Waters-Kermes;
Acquired by Catharine Meyers; Edited by Nelda Street
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
McKay, Matthew.
Why? : what your life is telling you about who you are and why youre here / Matthew McKay, PhD, Se?n ?Laoire, PhD, and Ralph Metzner, PhD.
pages cm
ISBN 978-1-60882-775-6 (pbk. : alk. paper) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-776-3 (pdf e-book) -- ISBN 978-1-60882-777-0 (epub) 1. Self-perception. 2. Self-realization. 3. Conduct of life. I. ?Laoire, Se?n. II. Metzner, Ralph. III. Title.
BF697.5.S43M35 2013
170.44--dc23
2012047473
For Catharine Meyers, my dear soul friend who keeps lighting the way. Matt
For Arlen; mAnamchara; Laolam Vaed. Sen
To my daughter, Sophia Marija Metzner, who is finding her unique way among the life paths. Ralph
Contents
Preface
The old saying Everywhere you go, there you are is the experience at the core of this book. Everywhere you go, there is your pain, there is your hope, there is your loss, there is what you care about. You carry it all with you; there is no escape. Try as you might to get away from pain, to fill your life with pleasure and good things, pain keeps showing up.
There is something else you cant escape: the reason why you are here. You have a purpose for being on this planet, and you can find and embrace that purpose or hide from it. Everywhere you go, that purpose will be there. Every day of your life will bring a chance to make that choice again.
When you hide from your purpose, your reason for being here, life bears the unmistakable mark of that avoidance: sadness, emptiness, and shame. When you seek your purposeno matter what kinds of pain you also bearyour life has vitality and direction, and you feel that it is about something.
This book is in your hands to answer one question: Why? Why are you here? Why are you living this life? To do that, well have to examine what lifeconsciousnessreally is and what all the other conscious beings are doing on this planet.
The answer is personal and unique to you. No other soul has exactly the same purpose. Knowing your purpose is like knowing the deepest secret about yourself, one that will release you from the trap of pleasure and pain, one that will shine a bright light on the path ahead, one that can show you true happiness.
Part 1
What We Know
The Pursuit of Happiness
You have been on this planet for some time, and you know one thing very well: its hard. In crucial ways, life is different than you would have hoped it would be. Some of the things you sought or dreamed of never happened. Some of the people you loved or counted on the most are gone. And sometimes, in the midst of busy streets and headlong days, you feel solitary. You feel invisible, as if your struggles and fears were yours alone. And even in the rooms called home, you sense a distance between you and others. Caught in their concerns, they live a life you cannot fully know. And you do the same.
The problem is this: On planet Earth, your pain is your own. Loss, failure, illness, and especially your own death are private experiences. No one can fully share them with you. On some level, much of what we do is an attempt to cope with this. Were constantly in motion, building emotional, career, and domestic castles to protect ourselves from the massive, uncontrollable forces that surround our lives. We try to connect deeply, intimately. We try to be successful, perhaps even recognized for our accomplishments. And we try to create a home thats a haven from all that might threaten us.
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