Praise for
The Bride(zilla) of Christ
I love the way Teds and Ronnies perspectives and voices play off each other and support each other in this book. They provide honesty, humor, pointed commentary, earnestness, humility, and clarity. As someone who has been hurt by churches and who has doled out more hurt than I probably realize, I found Bride(zilla) uncomfortable but incredibly helpful therapy for my soul. Church leaders need this book. Those who have been hurt by churches need it too. I cant recommend it highly enough.
B ARNABAS P IPER , author and podcast co-host of The Happy Rant with Ted and Ronnie
This book was simultaneously all that I hoped and not at all what I expected. Without throwing the church under the bus or minimizing the hurt that can be caused in her midst, Kluck and Martin share their hearts, their scars, and great insights for believers who may be tempted to write off the church for good.
Z ACHARY B ARTELS , author of The Last Con and Playing Saint; pastor of Judson Baptist Church, Lansing, MI
Rather than lamenting for a return to the early church through misplaced nostalgia, or recommending magic bullet solutions for the pain in the church, The Bride(zilla) of Christ offers insights into the true wounds of consumerism, individualism, and materialism with healing balm of a gracious gospel, community church, and winsome worldview. Ronnie Martin and Ted Kluck bring weighty matters of forgiveness, honesty, and unity in Christ to the forefront to help solve the crisis of church members wounding one another.
D ANIEL M ONTGOMERY , lead pastor of Sojourn Community Church, Louisville, KY; founder of the Sojourn Network; and author of Faithmapping, PROOF, and LeadershipMosaic
With pastoral care and passion, Ted Kluck and Ronnie Martin walk us through the joys and sorrows of being a part of the body of Christ. Through this helpful work, they clear the fog from our eyes to see with renewed wonder that the churchs one foundation is Jesus Christ her Lord.
M ATT B OSWELL , pastor of ministries and worship, Providence Church, Frisco, TX; founder of Doxology & Theology
Kluck and Martin have taken on a difficult task of addressing hurt within the church and have handled it with vulnerability and grace. They allow the truth of Scripture to be primary and encourage all of us to seek unity and reconciliation within the church.
B RAD H OUSE , executive pastor of ministries at Sojourn Community Church; author of Community: Taking Your Small Group Off Life Support
Ted Kluck is one of faith literatures unsung heroes. Always authentic, always funny, and nothing short of your best friend on every page.
B RIAN I VIE , head of storytelling at Arbella Studios
T HE B RIDE(ZILLA) OF C HRIST
All Scripture quotations used by Ted Kluck are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version, NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. All Scripture quotations used by Ronnie Martin are taken from the ESV Bible (the Holy Bible, English Standard Version), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Details in some anecdotes and stories have been changed to protect the identities of the persons involved.
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Copyright 2016 by Ted Kluck and Ronnie Martin
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Grateful acknowledgment is made to Noah Filipiak for granting permission to reprint quotes from his research summary and his blog www.atacrossroads.net/ in chapter 5.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Kluck, Ted, author.
Title: The bride(zilla) of Christ : what to do when Gods people hurt Gods people / Ted Kluck And Ronnie Martin.
Description: First Edition. | Colorado Springs, Colorado : Multnomah Books, 2016. | Includes bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2016009374 (print) | LCCN 2016012689 (ebook) | ISBN 9781601428721 (pbk.) | ISBN 9781601428738 (electronic)
Subjects: LCSH: Conflict managementReligious aspectsChristianity. | PainReligious aspectsChristianity. | Interpersonal relationsReligious aspectsChristianity.
Classification: LCC BV4597.53.C58 K58 2016 (print) | LCC BV4597.53.C58 (ebook) | DDC 253dc23
LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2016009374
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Ted Kluck
F or most of my adult life Ive been in the kinds of churches where whenever a guy is described as really solid or an awesome guythis is sort of the ultimate churchy compliment a guy can gethe typically fits a certain personality and personal aesthetic profile. He is really quiet and earnest. By earnest I mean whenever he has an opportunity to be sarcastic or funny or even sort of baseline-observational in a potentially funny way, he never takes it. By quiet I mean he never complains. As far as personal aesthetics go, this is a beige-pants kind of guy. Beige is the least offensive and in fact least noticeable color in all of male fashion. Todays successful church man is a Beige Man.
Ive never been this guy. Ive never been described as really solid, because I am, in fact, not really solid if what really solid means is quiet, earnest, and beige. Ive been described as funny, sarcastic, talented, entertaining, and even right on in terms of this critique or that critique. Guys like me get invited to parties. Solid, beige guys get asked to serve on committees.
Where I live now, in the South, beige is a way of life. Its the color that goes most effectively with two other ways of lifethe dark blue blazer and the regimental tie. These are more than just sartorial choices; they are indicators of the solidness or awesomeness of a particular kind of southern guy. They are the kinds of sartorial choices that say, Trust me with your investment banking or Send your kid to my university.